How can I regain the trust of my husband who is deeply hurt because of my passinate loveletter tomy classmate?

Answer 1

time, attention, communication...you have to try to rebuild what you had...it won't be easy and it may be impossible....good luck

Answer 2

Trust and Honesty is the greatest vestment and compliment to one's being and is the very pillars that harmony and love need to have to stand on in order to be genuine and authentic. You have unfortunately violated this trust, and from experience; I can tell you that you may never enjoy the level of trust you once knew with your Husband.

Obviously if you wrote a love letter to a classmate (whom I assume is current or recent) while married to your husband, then you have displayed what is an act of "alienation of affection". In other words, you gave to another man that which should only be for your husband. I would then suggest you look honestly at yourself and recognize if you feel passinately about your classmate, then, your first concern should be that you don't love your Husband as much as you might have indicated to him prior. You may need to look where your heart really is.

Now, ........."IF" this letter was written years ago and was back from High School or something way before you were married, and your Husband stumbled upon it, then he has a definate security issue that needs to be addressed. If this is the case, he needs to recognize that he was not your #1 back then, and he need's to deal with and acknowledge that he's feeding baseless emotions that can be helped by your reassurance.

Either way, obviously he must be hurt, and if things get to heavy for either of you to try to carry and rectify this situation, it would be wise to seek marriage counseling before you both destroy something you both would rather last between you. Don't try to be a hero where and expert could save a lot of damage that cannot be taken back once inflicted.

Answer 3

Why are you writting passionate love letters to classmates if you have a husband???

U shouldn't be married if you can't take it seriously. What is the point of regaining the trust? you will probably do the same thing again. Women like you are keeping the great guys from women who are respectable, and they are left with the cheaters who should be with women like you!!! You should be ashamed

Answer 4

First of all stop writing letter likes this to a classmate? Why would you do something like this to your husband and your marriage. Did you not think before writing this letter? Apologize to your husband and ask him to forgive you and dont do this again. Can you blame your husband for feeling this way? He feels betrayed and unloved and now you have to prove to him that you love him. Once you break trust it is very hard to re earn it.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

sounds like you really screwed up...

somewhere in the vows you took, wasn't there something about FORSAKING ALL OTHERS???

talk is cheap. it will take time... lots of time...

how would you feel if it was his letter? what would it take for him to regain your trust? would you even stay with him???

why would you do something like that to your man???

evilness!!!

Answer 7

keep talking to him about this thing unless he agrees to your point of view or put certain conditions for ensuring your faithfulness
i tell you it is difficult but u can achieve it

Answer 8

u cant regain it.