I am scared to learn car driving, can u tell me how to come out of this phobia?

Question

Everyday i have to listern to my fathers lecture about learning driving, he never understand my fears, its disgusting

Answer 1

ehh!
wake up!don t be afraid!
your fear will lead you nowhere!
start driving using carts...
it s funny and without danger!
do it now!
you will like it!

bye!

Answer 2

It is very important to speak about your fears with someone who will listen. Perhaps there is an older relative or a teacher or a spiritual guide with whom you could sit down and talk all about this. Also, when I was your age, I, too was afraid to learn how to drive a car. I overcame my fear when I separated my fears. I had TWO fears: 1) learning how to operate the car . . .the pedals, the buttons, the turn signals, gears and such. and 2) being on the road. Having to learn how to operate the machine AND learn the ways of the road at the same time was too much for me. So, I asked my parents if I could sit in the car at home BY MYSELF and practice turning everything on and off and starting the car and practicing putting it into gear and feeling the brakes. I got VERY comfortable with all of that in the driveway FIRST. Then, I asked my parents if they would drive me to big empty parking lot on a day when no one was there. My parents went across the street for an hour and had a lunch. They could see me and would have come if I had signaled to them. When I was alone, I was more relaxed in the car. I then practiced driving the car around in the parking lot. In less than one hour, I was ready to drive my parents all the way home by myself. You will be too. Good luck. Make this FUN. Don't make this awful. You have a choice. Make life's challenges FUN. And, when you are old someday you won't have so many wrinkles.

Answer 3

And I completely agree that it's disgusting.

Depending upon how your father is in regards to listening to your point(s) of view, you should sit him down and let him kindly know how nerve-wracking the entire experience is; from the whole aspect of learning something new, to his "lectures" about learning how to drive.

What your father needs to do is reflect upon how he felt when he had to learn how to drive. Some people are eager to learn, while some are nervous. What he also needs to do is understand that learning how to drive comes with time and that your fears and nervousness will only go away with practice and experience. Be it both learning the "rules of the road" and physical aspect of driving a vehicle. As this something new to you, your father must understand that as a teenager, this something important to you and he mustn't fan the flames of your fear.

I don't know if he has done this or not, but in case he does, please kindly ask him not to be an excessive "back-seat driver." This is one of the most intense (and I mean that in a negative way) things one can experience as a first-time driver. As a personal experience, I never had the issue while learning to drive as my father was good about it; however, it all started after I had my license. While either my mother and/or father were with me, they would comment on any mistake I made or make suggestions on how to improve. While I appreciated the insight, you start getting extremely nervous simply because you get the feeling of not wanting to do no wrong on the road while your parents are with you. While some suggestions are good, constant badgering while trying to learn how to drive will only lead you to being a driver that is not confident on the road. And can possibly lead to a higher chance of getting into an accident.

These are all things that you might want to let your father know about. Even sometimes getting another family-member involved on your side will help.

As for you, something you should consider, if you haven't already, is to go to driving school/driver's education. While many will claim that it's waste of time, it has honestly made me a better driver in the long run (and I've been driving for around 8 years straight now; from high school then to college with work thrown in between along with many road trips). While some programs may be utter garbage, most will boost your confidence and also reinforce the knowledge you will learn from the law. Not only that, they will take out on a few sessions of driving with an instructor. That was something I really enjoyed as the instructor was very understanding and gave me constructive criticism when it was needed. Ask people you know about driving schools in your area.

Honestly, driving isn't as hard or difficult as some can make it out to be. It's fun, can be quite convenient, and it's a great skill to have. Don't worry about the possible dangers because the worry you have will only make it more difficult for you to drive. Take it all with a clear mind and enjoy yourself. And don't be nervous as you don't have a reason to be. Millions of people drive and most of those drivers do just fine without any major issues on the road.

But again, don't forget to enjoy the experience and have fun with it. Because it really is.

Answer 4

There are sometimes people who are so nervous about learning to drive they may learn but never feel all that comfortable driving. I hope you're not one of them.

Assuming that you'd be starting from zero, maybe if you get someone to teach you to just operate the car in a big parking lot somewhere that will take care of the basic operation of the car.

Then, maybe if you decided to plan your route so that you remain on reasonably traffic-free streets, just drive around your area for a while, and maybe even plan a way to go so you won't have to make left turns at lights that could help.

Since you're nervous maybe you would have to wait on highway driving (and maybe you'll never be someone who wants to use the highways - I know someone like that). At least if you just took the car around town and to surrounding towns you'd be able to get yourself places. After a while you may become so comfortable with your "scaled down" driving that you'd feel more ready to do some highway or city driving.

Fathers aren't always the best ones for teaching people to drive, so have someone else teach you. If you need to get a driving school do that, but make sure you tell the instructor what your reservations are.

I don't know this for sure, but it would seem to me if you kept the driving to non-traffic streets and stay where things won't be too fast or too challenging that may be the only way you can gain confidence enough to take driving to the next level. I know some people would advise just diving into to all types of driving, but if you're nervous and have too much to be trying to think about and watch for it may be discouraging for you.

If you "start small" when it comes to driving after a while you would probably be more comfortable doing something like taking a left a lights or venturing into a small city. There are some roads that are like highways but aren't quite "super-highways". After a while you could try a short drive on a higher-speed road. From there you could work up to a highway if you ever want to.

I think the big thing would be to get good and accustomed to handling the car and just keeping the driving at lower speeds and on simpler roads. Getting more comfortable will come naturally.

If you break down what you need to overcome and deal with it should be easier than if you just jump in and try to be overcoming a phobia on top of learning everything else and all the types of driving.

Answer 5

You have to take out your phobia. Your mind already build a negative impression on driving a car. So try to visualize positively.
Good luck

Answer 6

Im sorry to take heed to the worry yet I afraid I wont be a lot help i become purely interpreting this in wish to how one can end the drooling an getting ill in the motorcar. wish you come across out what works, Biliegh gave solid theory's and that i wish they help. solid success

Answer 7

CONGRATULATIONS!
Please try to look things in the POSITIVE way. Yur are very lucky in being blessed with a father lecturing you to learn car driving.

In these days of high technological advances being made in all walks of life ,it is very essential to learn car driving for gaining independent mobility.

Symbols of present day living are,
1)MOBILE Phone
2) AUTOMOBILE.
We can add a lot more to the above but they are most essential.

RELAX! TAKE IT EASY.

Learning car driving is not that difficult as you imagine. It is enough if you learn the FUNDAMENTALS ie.

A,B,C & G (not D) of DRIVING:

A : Acceleration ( control of fuel to the carburetter)

B : Brake ( application aptly as and when required)

C : Clutch ( function as required to engage or disengage the engine output to the vehicle)

G :Gear ( shifting for control of speed as required)

Also, you need to learn about SYMBOLS OF ROAD SAFETY.

That is all about learning car driving . You need to take about 7 or 8 classes of one hour duration each. Nowadays lady trainers are also available, to teach car driving for girls/women .

Nowadays, cars(new and pre-owned ) cars are available in good quality.Cars with auto gear transmission facility is also available at some extra cost . Ask your car to provide you a good car with auto gear transmission if possible for ease of driving comfort ,once you complete your car driving exercise and obtained a driving licence.

Go ahead with a POSITIVE ATTITUDE and CONFIDENCE to learn car driving and you are sure to succeed and enjoy driving comfort with freedom of mobility at ease and convenience.

Answer 8

if you want to get rid of this fear the best thing is to start the driving lessons step by step and let your dad help you for that how by sitting beside you while driving start driving in closed street or in your neighborhood before you drive in a highway or outside you city so you will see how your fear will decrease and get used to it

Answer 9

just chill. driving a car is easy. yes its kinds scary at first-but once you get the hang of it you'll be fine. i bet your father isn't the easiest to deal with eh? i've found that when you don't have a good teacher it makes things harder. but just remember

practice makes perfect.

Answer 10

Then learn how to ride a motor bike, it is a real mistke that you ask your father to be the instructor. You should fire him and get another one.