i am currently in this situation, i hav been with my boyfriend for almost 3years and he was going to propose to me for valentines day, he told his parents and they decided they didn't want us to be together no more because i am not the same religion or race. im very hurt about this, i love him so much and i want to spend my life with him but the only thing thats keeping us from being together is his family, what really bothers me is that his parents made this decision after so long, and they knew of my religion and background from day 1, now they won't even let us talk to eachother, im really depressed about this i need your opinions, please tell me your thoughts about this, what should my boyfriend do...or what should i do??
2007-02-12 20:39:36 · 12 answers · asked by sxybiitch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your boyfriend is the person who needs to make the decision, because I think you already know you want to be with him. He is letting his folks tell him what to do based on religion & race-but he knew your deal when he was with you all these years. If he flinches out on your relationship with him because his mommy and daddy told him to do so-then he is a coward and he really doesn't love you as much as he claims to or he would supoort you and tell his parents 'you either accept my lady-or jump in the lake!". If he is a coward (iI hope he is not), then you need to end this relationship until he makes up in his mind he wants to be with you for sure-but he should take too long if you been with him all this time-if he does, leave him and find someone else.
Good luck, hon.
2007-02-20 04:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by marquella_la_nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curious as to how old you and your boyfriend are. I'm guessing early 20's. Regardless of race or religion issues with his parents, I strongly encourage you two to wait a few years before getting married. You have no idea how much you and your boyfriend will change over the next few years - it happens to everyone. Philosophies change; so do dreams, goals, even personalities. The longer you wait, the more you'll truly know the person you claim to love.
Honestly, your boyfriend should be standing up to his parents with regards to the whole race and religion thing. If he's not, then you really have to examine the type of man he is.
2007-02-20 07:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like u and i are in the same sort of fix only that my gf is of the same religion. My advise is that just hang in there for a while. Time will heal all the wounds. I also love my gf very much but yesterday i had to confront her mom and her mom did the same. I don't know what will happen now, but i know one thing, i will definitely marry her one day. make that as one of ur goals and i'm sure where there is a will there is a way. I love my gf a lot and she loves me only that she's being brainwashed by her mom and same is with ur boyfriend. But don't worry as long as u two love each other there is hope and light. Ask some friend to communicate.
2007-02-12 20:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clarify please...wife or b/f, u said both. Puzzled?
This is a very difficult situation Cuz on the 1 hand u want & need to respect your/his parents wishes, granted they only want what they perceive to be the best for you/ him.
On the other hand they can not continue to rule your /his lives/life.
As for race/national origin...R U BOTH HUMAN?? Enough said.?.
And as for your faiths...that's REAL hard cuz, your faith centers you. And if there be a thread of difference, it could tear u 2 apart.
How r u 2 gonna raise children, presuming there would b 1 day. How would you handle the differences?
My husband & I are of different faiths, and it has caused many a problem through our lives. In matters of faith as related to your daily life. As the Word says you should marry only in the same faith. It does create a more peaceful/harmonious life.
In my family (siblings, 9 total) we are all of different faiths and the ONLY way we can come together on many issues is to agree to disagree, and LET IT GO, otherwise we would NOT have Peace.
Since you both have faith you should pray on it separately and together. In the Word it says a man will leave his mother and father's house and cling to his wife.
Now if you're related in some other way or gay that puts a lot of other issues into play.
2007-02-20 08:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by BamCaliFlaVa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You spend three yrs. of your life with this guy,you knew his Parents, and they knew you were from a different race, and religion, after three yrs. when you both decided to get Married his parents do not want their son to Marry you because of it. The only alternative for you both if, your boyfriend really wants to have a future with you, would be to get Married and live in another State, if you want your Marriage to survive, because they will always be telling him,that he went against their wishes. If your boyfriend sides with his Family then move on, because he was not for you, if he sides with his Family, then he, did not Love you that much to begin with. Good luck, and I hope that you will be able to make a wise decision because it concerns your future.
2007-02-20 01:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Boyfriend Should'nt Care About His Parents Think And They Can't Controll Him Anymore Now That He's Grown Up.
2007-02-18 12:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by Ricky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't have the heart to choose cause on one hand you love you parents and on the other you love the person you know you want to marry.. so i would sit my parents down and tell them weather they like it or not this is the person i am going to marry and no matter what they do or say you'll get married.. me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and we have a child together and he told me he wants to marry me on valentines day but my whole family don't like him.. they have told me before to choose and i told them no.. so now they just deal with him he like anoter part of the family.. and he will be in a few weeks.. they will get used to the fact that you guys are married.. just give it time and tell him to talk to his parents it might help you in the long run
2007-02-12 20:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by Melinda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong . To each his own .If both of your families try to come between you , or are adamantly against it , it could cause lots of problems in the relationship later. Just be prepared . True love can survive anything . Time will tell .
2016-05-24 04:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to spend the rest of your life with the parents or the one you love? Your life belongs to you, not someone who is trying to control your life for you. Do what you feel is best for you.
2007-02-20 03:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you 2 need to run away together and start a happy family because the last time i checked parents don't change their mind
2007-02-20 12:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by joeymooch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋