How can you bring a level of equilibrium to the relationship without rocking the boat?
2007-02-12 20:32:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you're using a boat on the highway, you're making a couple of mistakes there, old chum. The police would have to keel-clamp you for illegal parking.
2007-02-12 20:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it really a relationship if it is 'thier way of the highway'. I thought that relationships were supposed to be about mutual respect and understanding of each other. You can't live by one halfs ways and have no respect for the others. I think you gradually need to start doing things on your terms. Dinner - ask if they can just pop the dinner in while you are in the bath. Sex - start to initiate things when YOU want to. Housework - ask for a little help when time is short. Gradually start to build up and equal groudn in your relationship - but gradually so they hardly even realise it;s happening.
If this fails though - unfortunately you are left with a choice. Do you want to spend the whole rest of your life in a one way relationship or are you going to break away where you can meet someone else and be an equal partner?
2007-02-13 10:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by TulaBox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am the spoiled one in my relationship and I have to have it my way. Sometimes it is a problem because I can see it bothers my husband and he gets a little upset. I do try to compromise but that's so hard when your used to being on your own and doing everything yourself. I am trying to be a little more patient with him but it really irritates me and p*sses me off when he whines about this. Once in a while I let him have his way just to keep him from nagging. He is worse than a woman at times. But believe he doesn't get his way very often. I guess if you really care about and love the one your with then you both will work out whatever problems come about. The key is open communication and honesty about your feelings. Never blame the other person when your having your heart to heart. Never start a sentence with "you" that will always start a fight!:)
2007-02-13 05:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets say you have an issue with him going out to bars all the time with his boys. And you cant make him stop and if you make requests he get pissy. Best way to kick that out of his *** is to do the same. If you cant do the same because you are not the type ...talk to him how would he felt if you done the same thing he do. Tell him to put himself in your shoes and see if he would answer different. If that doesnt work, go out on a girls night, stay out partying all night long and come home drunk and twisted....see how he chirps after that.
2007-02-13 04:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start with the bills. Pay half of it or take turns in paying bills. then take turns with being on top when you are having sex. This will be psychological. Plan things together. and try to imitate the other persons deeds.when they take you out, do that the same time. With time you will have an equillibrium.
When it comes to dinner, find somewhere neither of you has ever been.Discover things together e.t.c
2007-02-13 04:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sadly, alot don't realize this until they're in a little too deep. Whatever you do, stand your ground. If this person is so unreasonable, then I would definately take the highway.
2007-02-13 04:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u gotta rock the boat for respect sometimes. lots of guys respect u more if u tell them no sometimes. just not all the time. they want to know u care. if it is all the time f that.
2007-02-13 04:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't. And I wouldn't! I have in the past and what a miserable time it was. If your partner won't compromise, it's time to find a new partner who appreciates you and plays fair.
Don't marry someone like that--it will only lead to unhappiness.
2007-02-13 04:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to do.....only advice I have is listen and do what you want some of the time, put your foot down other times....just choose your battles...once in awhile you'll have to compromise just make sure it's only something that doesn't really matter to you....it's all in how you play the situation...good luck
2007-02-13 04:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some issues my fiance uses this strategy and i hate it!
2007-02-13 05:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋