why do wives leave their husbands and what is the husband to do after this???????????????????

Question

my wife left me for another man how should i deal with it i knew it was coming but didn't realize until it bit me in the *** where should i go and what should i do we've been together for ten years and married for four years could someone ever get over their one and only love and how does it happen. even if i was to get over it i wouldn't even know how to meet or talk to another woman is there anyone out there that has been in this situation before and how did you deal with it and or start over???????????

Answer 1

c.cmilitatary ...

Whoa…. DUDE…. Slow down some. DO NOT PANIC n’ Don’t do ANYTHING DUMB!

You Will get through this!! One step at a time! One day at a time !! How did you “know” it was “coming”?? You physic or something?? or did she actually tell you? I’m betting neither, you’re likely using 2020 hindsight to beat yourself up. Allrighty now,, you can stop beaten yourself up emotionally, you’ve probably had enough already just having her leave. ??

1.Keep as much “normalcy” in your daily routine as possible
a.don’t quit your job
b.don’t spend money foolishly
c.don’t go a\$$deep in debt w/ new vehicles etc..
2.Build a support system around you if you don’t have one.
a.friends (male and female)
b.family
c.make new friends (stay away from barflys)
3.Protect yourself financially and emotionally
a.get an attorney if needed
b.don’t do the “give up-she can have it all” attitude. You did work for what there is there, right? Negotiate for what is important to you.
c.Don’t be a jerk to her,, but don’t go “softheaded” either, be fair to you and her
d.At this point don’t waste your time “hating” you’ve got more important things to do for yourself!!
4.Don’t waste your time trying to “analyze” etc. the “why me” may NOT be you at all. At least not for a couple of months. Give yourself enough time to “get your ship on an even keel and square away the sails” Understand?
5.Do treat yourself good. If you DON’T how can you expect anyone else to?
6.Socialize !! Just don’t get all wrapped up in a new situation till you get completely unwrapped from this one.
7.Kids??? if so make sure their cared for $$$ and emotionally, don’t use them as “tools” for revenge, etc. etc.. (the biggest tool is the guy that does do that!)

I could go on n’ on,, but this’ll get you started…don’t forget this isn’t something to “get over” it’s something you get through !! It’s not so much a divorce ,,, it’s a death of a relationship. So, treat it like the “death” it is, work through it n’ you’ll be good ! once you get all the “details” worked out.


Remember the line Sean Connery said in “THE ROCK” about winners and losers ??

Answer 2

I left my husband for another man. You must realize that you went wrong somewhere. Was it money worries, sex, or just dis-interest? You know the ole song, kiss an angel in the morning and make love like the devil when you get back home!!Treat a woman as the most special thing in your life, and you'll have her for life. You have the chance to try again,. be happy, be truthfull, and be caring, theres one woman out there for you. Go for it.

Answer 3

Something had to gradually happen to get to this point. Even though it may be hard, you have to try and accept it and try to go on with your life. Don't put too much pressure on meeting someone already. I was married for 23 years and never ever thought I would meet anyone ever again and it DID happen. Think positive.

Answer 4

you should try dating her sister