Can you regain trust in a love relationship once it's been lost?

Question

I feel like he is not trusting me with the truth. .
He said that he was feeling bad because the intent was to avoid a fight.
THAT MAKES IT EXCUSABLE??!?? i did not yell.
He says sometimes I trip too much on him and I need to just relax and focus on something else.

Here is the part I can't seem to get past, "What about next time?" We have been together for five years and have a 4 month old son. I'm still very much in love with this man, what can I do to salvage this family?

Answer 1

Trust is a two-way street, but it can be regained once it is lost. Especially if there is love between you. Focus on his good qualities and what you can do to make your relationship better. Have someone watch your baby for a couple of hours sometimes and have a night between just the 2 of you. Trust me, it helps. I am sure having such a young son is playing into this with the stress it brings. Sometimes, you need to get away alone with each other and just smell the roses. Good feelings between you will spring right back to where you were before with a little bit of time.

Answer 2

You don't say what sort of trust you feel was betrayed and how severe the feeling of betrayal by either party, along with a true spirit of willingness to forgive a real or perceived transgression, will be a strong determining factor on whether or not either or both of you get past whatever happened regardless of time spent together and regarless of whether or not you have a shared child.

Small breaches of trust can be mended over time (spending a moderate amount of money one something not agreed to in advance, agreeing to host the family Christmas gathering and expecting you to cook without even consulting you, or large ones (physical sexual intimacy with an outside party).

In case where the other party can't get over it, things seldom work themselvesout over time and just prolong the agony of all parties involved.

As none of us know what the situation, you have to just consider what peoples' opinoins are and formulate your own assessment and trust your own judgement based on the fact (hopefully) and not just emotion and feelings.

At minimum, because you have a shared child, even if you can't make it work as a couple living together, for the sake of the child.

Once you become a parent, you both need to find a middle ground to co-parent the child with consistent rules, guidelines and expectations, or you are not only messing up each other's lives, but your poor son's as well.

Answer 3

I really don't get what you are saying are you telling us he cheated on you If so then you might as well forget about getting the truth from him.No matter what you say or do he will never ever tell you what really happened,it's their golden rule man that is .RULE 1 never under no circumstances tell the truth.RULE 2 never volunteer information RULE 3 never forget rule 1 and 2.

Answer 4

iT'S REALLY HARD, SOMETIMES, OR W/ CERTAIN PEOPLE, IMPOSSIBLE TO TORALLY REGAIN THE 100% TRUST YOU HAD AT FIRST. U CAN, HOWEVER, LEARN WHAT TO EXPECT, & HOW TO INTERPRET WHATS BEEN SAID IF U INSIST ON GOIN ON W/RHE RELATIONSHIP. PERHAPS UR FORGIVENESS & STRENGTH WILL WIN OUT/

Answer 5

pehaps you can regain trust, but, i'll say this for sure.....it takes a special person.....i dont think i am special.

Answer 6

YES TIME WILL HEAL YOU