I think my husband might be cheating...?

Question

My husband and i are expecting our first child.im 33 weeks pregnant and not feeling very attractive. he called about an hour and 15 min ago to say he'd be leaving work in a few min and would be home soon. He's always late, and all he can talk about when he gets home is the girls at work. yet if i ever came home and even told him that a guy said hi to me at work, he'd suspect that i was cheating on him. is that just his guilty concience? He's also been coming home late the past week. its mardi gras where he works *margaritaville @ Universal* should i be worried about him cheating?

he was supposed to be home by 2, and now he's not even answering his phone! :-(

Answer 1

There are other signs to see if he is having an affair or cheating. Since you are expecting your first baby, sometimes you might feel less than appealing but don't forget these are the best days of your life. You may be feeling like you aren't pretty to your husband, but be reassured you are. The guilty conscious usually works backward, if he was cheating he would be cuddling more with you, and paying alot of attention to you, because of the guilt. He may just need to have more friends now, because he probably doesn't exactly know how to treat you. He is very unaware of how you feel, so just one night in bed, start talking about the baby, and how you feel. If he's coming home late, just make sure his stories are matching up with the things going on around his workplace. It's when he doesn't come home at all..when you need to worry. If you are really worried check his email, or cell phone numbers, calls. Put the archive tab on your computer to have all his im messages archived where you can see what ./who he is talking to and about. Just a thought...anyway, just remember your hormones are raging right now. You just might be worried for nothing.

Answer 2

I am not sure I understand what your last sentence is about. If you cheated and you think he is cheating perhaps it is time to either sit down and work things out or go your separate ways... and if you cheated and unsure of the baby's father... well you need to let him know and do a DNA test. That's only fair. Now if you think he is cheating and you are not here is something I would do. I know its a little on the shaky side as far as morals go but I would get one of my guy friends or girlfriends that your husband doesn't know to follow him. They can see whats going on and report back to you. If he is truly out just having fun with the guys and some girls just give him a hug or something then I think its time you guys sit down and evaluate your relationship. Ask if there is something fun you and him can do together. Tell him that you have been feeling left out and that you worry he isn't happy. (I wouldn't mention the friend following him though- he might get mad if he didn't do anything). Ask him what the two of you need to do to get "right" again. Don't try to blame him for anything as he will get defensive and you will be taking two steps backward. Just be open that you feel there might be a problem and that you want things to work out. Tell him you want to put the time and effort into the relationship. Then listen........ to what he has to say. I hope it works out for ya

Answer 3

Let him know how it makes you feel when all he talks about is the girls at work. I could see how that can make you feel suspicious about him. Not knowing what job he is doing, has this happened before during mardi gra? Is his paycheck bigger because of him working more hours? Can you visit him at work? I know that the last question may be a hard thing to do, but it might clear up you suspicions. By the way, just because you are 33 weeks pregnant, does not make you less attractive. Stop thinking negative about yourself. You are very special for having a child. How awesome that is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Universal Citywalk! Hey, baby, come live with me, I live in LA. Doll, you should know for sure that when men suspect you are cheating, then that means THEY ARE CHEATING! Why else would they be worried about a guy telling you hi or whatever. If your husband thinks you're cheating when you tell him about a guy saying hi, well then the guy is either messing with someone else. I'm sorry to say, but if you do live in LA, be careful. I at least hope your hudband is cheating with a woman and not a man. Best of luck and kudos with the baby! Bye!

Answer 5

id say that sounds a little suspect. i feel the same way im 35 weeks and feel unattractive and my boyfriend causes that some times. but either he is cheating... or maybe not cheating cheating but flirting around... cause he works at a party scene almost always people are flirting in that type of enviroment.. but maybe hes just a jealous guy that happens to really get along with the girls at work and maybe its just been extra busy this past week. im sorry if im not much help. but dont jump to conclusions. but if your not happy talk to him about it. this should be the happiest time of your life

Answer 6

Im sorry darling. It might be because u are feeling so insecure due to our pregnacy which is a very normal thing that a lot of women go through. Otherwise talk to him about how u feel with his issue of talking about women and how u think it doesnt really come out fair as compared to his usual reactions which therefore make u think it might be happening the same way with him.
Sorry i dont have a solution . You have it though.

All the best and congrats with your pregnancy

Answer 7

Guess ur worrying too much...why it has to be cheating all the time when a guy reaches home late?? Girls, give guys a break with all this nonsense...since u've married him, u shld trust him until proven guilty! I always think girls always worried abt nothing and made up stupid stuff and create a mess in a gd relationship.

Answer 8

I think maybe you should spy on him, am not mocking u or anything i am speaking for real. Sometimes you need to test your man so that you can rest ur heart. Follow him a few times to see what keeps him late and if he isnt doing anything dont tell him what you did but if you did find out that he's been cheating- God forbid- confront him right at that moment and be brave.
I hope it goes well for you.

Answer 9

Talk to him about your feeling. You are not quite sure if he was cheating or not apart from it isn't good for you to worry so much because you are pregnant. Tell him that you tried to phone him but there was no answer and look in his eyes when you ask this question. Take care!

Answer 10

No. . . I think it's normal to think that 'just because I can't give him any that he is looking elsewhere'. Look on the good side. You will be a loving mother in a few short weeks & you both can share your love for the new infant that you brought into the world.