miscarriage?

Question

I got a ultrasound a week ago, and was told that the baby died at about 7 weeks. If I calculated it right, I should be around 10 weeks. I have had no bleeding whatsoever and I used to get moderate cramps, but now I get the occassional minor cramp. Pregnancy symptoms have subsided. My hcg levels are rather high, though, which I don't understand. Also, the doctor told me that it can take anywhere from a month to 6 months to a year for the contents to pass. He didn't recommend a d&c. Now, this sounds kindof funny to me that it can take that long for the baby and such to pass. Also, I was wondering if it is ok to wait for the contents to pass. I'm worried that I may get an infection. I was also wondering if anyone has had any experience where the doctor was wrong in diagnosing a miscarriage. Is it possible to not see a heartbeat or much of a fetal pole at 7 weeks? I guess I'm in denial. Any feedback would be much appreciated.

Answer 1

I would get a 2nd opinion also. But that said, a friend of mine had the same situation in July. She should have been about 9 weeks. She opted not to have the d&c. She had her hcg levels checked weekly to make sure they were dropping. And she just waited.....she didn't start bleeding until January. Personally, I thought she was crazy and I never would have done that, but because she got her hcg checked weekly, and never got ill with a fever, they let her wait for it to happen naturally.

I'm sorry you have to go through this :(

Answer 2

You really need to see another doctor!

WHY? Well I have never heard anyone and I've known many who have miscarried, as it's more common then most people realize. Yet, not one was ever told it would take between a month and six weeks to discharge the contents of the pregnancy. I've heard as long as 24 hours. I do know that if the baby is dead for that long and the body is not aborting it naturally, that every woman I have ever heard of, the doctor does a D&C.

One at seven weeks, many doctors will tell you that even with an Ultrasound a babies heart beat can be easily missed.

Please be careful, go to a new doctor, ask for a second opinion and do not settle for anything less then a pregnancy test and a new Ultrasound being done. Then if the fetus is indeed dead and not being aborted, then you have the right to demand that a D&C be done, as some women who do not abort, end up having the tissue stay in their Uterous and cause problems with gettting pregnant, maintaining other pregnancies and even leading to severe cases of Endrometriosis.

You are not going to get an infection from this, but there are other problems that can occur, so please get in to see a new OB/GYN soon. When you call to make an appointment, tell them what the doctor said had happened, why you don't think it has and that you want another pregnancy test done and another Ultrasound done to prove if the fetus is dead or not and if it is, you want to have a D&C. Stand up for yourself, it's your body!

I'm sorry if your baby has died, I pray the doctor made a mistake.

Answer 3

First I just want to say I'm sorry for what you are going through. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I had a miscarriage last month at 11 weeks. I went into do my ultra sound at 10 weeks and there was no heart beat and no baby. They saw fluid (blood) around the sac and told me I would soon be miscarrying. My hcg levels were high but they had me go in a few days later and they had gone down. When I first found out I asked them how long it would take and they said it should happen within a month. They gave me the option of d & c (which they didn't recommend due to it could cause scarring), a pill which would speed up the process or just to let it happen at home. I decided to try to wait it out and thankfully I didn't have to wait long. If it would have taken longer to happen I probably would have tried the pill. I think once you know it is happening you just want to get it over with so you can start healing physically and emotionally. After the miscarriage it took my hcg levels four weeks to go back to normal.

As for being in denial I was also in denial when I first found out. My husband and I did some searching online and we did find stories of women being told there was no heartbeat or baby and then finding out different a week or two later. They should be checking your hcg levels at least once a week and if they are dropping you will know you are miscarrying.

This spring we plan on planting a tree in memory of our baby and God willing we will we will be blessed with a healthy pregnancy.

Answer 4

After the ultrasound scan that confirmed my 12 week pregnancy 'was no longer ongoing' the consultant I saw gave me 2 options,
1- A D+C
2- Wait a week and see if my body passed it itself.
I chose the second option, it took 11 days for my body to sort itself out, but had it not my consultant would have given me a D+C, I really think everyone else here is right, go and see a different Dr, and even ask for a D+C, I found the 11 days quite therapeutic, it gave me time to say goodbye, and start the mourning process.
6 months to a year is an excessive time for you to be carrying that kind of burden.

On another note, I have heard of people being wrongly diagnosed, insist on another ultrasound before they carry out any removal procedure, just to make sure.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

your doctor is realllly out of it!!!! first i would wait about a week and see what happens then make an appointment AT A DIFFERENT OFFICE WITH TOTALLY DIFFERENT DOCTORS and get checks out completely. Make sure that what the doctor said about the baby is true.

Im sorry for whats happening i know exactly how you feel the same thing happend to me. I was 12 weeks and they said the baby hasnt progressed since about the 10th week.

I went for a second oppinion just to make sure. This was at a medical facility that treated me very well and double checked everything they did. They also told me that If everything doesnt start to pass with in the next two weeks i need to have a D&C and that its very dangerous to wait past two weeks because an infection can start that early. With in a week of that appointment i started having bad cramps and slight bleeding. became very light head and passed out, cant really tell you how bad the pain was because i got a concussion and was out for the next three days and on percocet(heavy pain meds) for the next week or two for pain from the injury and it took away pain from the cramping and all that too.

sorry im rambling lol but DEFFANITLY get a second opinion from a DIFFERENT doctors office.

Answer 6

If he is correct, then whatever your body does not evacuate, it will absorb. But, as newly expectant myself, I would take a mother's stance and not give up quite yet. After reading your question, I did some research myself, and not all websites agree.

Some say that the heart has already started functioning, some say it is just forming. I'm unsure as to how your doctor came to this conclusion, because all the websites seem to agree on one thing - that the fetus is only about 1/2 an inch long. Unless he was specifically looking for a heartbeat during your u/s, and didn't find one, I wouldn't be so quick to believe what he says. I might begin to prepare for the possibility that he is correct, but I would give myself another week or two (and another u/s, but an abdominal one, NOT a vaginal one) to be sure.

Just go with your instincts. My mother told me that had she not sought a second opinion, I would have been a D & C. I wouldn't be here without my mother's instincts. Your's might steer you wrong, but then again, they might not.

Answer 7

Definitely see another doctor. Everyone I know that has had a miscarriage that has not aborted yet has received a d&c. It has already had three weeks to clear its self out and I would think one would want the whole ordeal done and over with. I can't imagine going thru the aggony of having it pass 6 months from now especially if you want to try to concieve again.

This should have been given to you as an option.
Sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

i know exactly how you feel, 2 years ago today i went for my 12 week ultrasound to be told i had miscarried my baby at 9 weeks and i had no cramping, no bleeding, no untoward signs or symptoms. i had to get a d&c that day and just like you was in denial and even worse blaming myself. it took me a long time to come to terms with what had happened and now i am 15 weeks pregnant with my second pregnancy and still worry everyday ill lose this baby but those fears are disappearing. when the time is right for you, try again, believe me its worth it, but only when your ready and dont try to replace the baby you have lost, you need to grieve and deal with your loss.

Answer 9

I had a miscarriage, and then a splash one no longer long after, then yet another miscarriage. pondering i replace into informed i'd by no potential get pregnant, I considered that one a blessing. 2 years later i circulate pregnant returned, and we had fun and theory we would by no potential get pregnant returned. Then #3 replace into born 18 months after #2...WOW! Then #4 replace into 15 months after #3, then 18 months later #5....we began thinking it replace into some style of cosmic humorous tale! #6 replace into born 2 years after #5, and quantity seven (we call her seven of 7) replace into born 2 years after #6. My SIL additionally confronted a number of miscarriages, 4 or 5 i think of, she stopped telling us after a mutually as. She have been given pregnant approximately ten years in the past however, and then popped out 5 in ten years. So we are the two fairly happy with our little advantages. i'm sorry on your loss, i do no longer comprehend what else to permit you comprehend different than to maintain your hopes up. I by no potential theory i'd be so blessed, and that i undergo in strategies those days of dread, each and each month of praying. We have been finished nuts throughout our pregnancies, surprisingly provided that all of our miscarriages have been after 12 weeks...some distance into the trimester of 'risk-free practices'.

Answer 10

same thing happened to me.....i thought i was 13 weeks but it died at 9.....your dr is an idiot bc you can get reallly ill if it does not come out....now i have heard horror stories of peoples babies actually being alive and the doc wanted a d n c and they waited and everything was fine.....just check up again in a few days on your hcg levels....if they went up i would not do anyhting but if they go down it is time to get this baby out....now since you are 7 weeks....ask the dr for a ru148 instead of the d and c....they are those little tablets they drop in your vagina and open up and cervix and allow it to pass...i have to tell ya it is painful but less risky than surgery...good luck and im sorry