Have you ever felt lonely? If yes, what is loneliness in your experience? How does it affect you?

Question

What are the causes of your loneliness? How do you cope with it?
Thanks!

Answer 1

I personally prefer to be alone. I like time to myself and not having to worry about others drama...

Answer 2

If you never feel lonely you probably need to see a doctor or you are an extremely lucky person that lives in a different kind of world then most people live in.

Loneliness is not the same as being alone, you can be in a crowd of people and be lonely and alone and not be lonely. Loneliness is caused by you feeling that something is missing and not knowing how to find what is missing or how.

On the coping with loneliness I would break it into these three possibilities. One it is short term, well in that case it will just pass you feel it, you get over it and you move on.
You can't cope with it you see no way out, then you will either reach out and let someone help you, or you will jump off of a building. And the third is long term, and you don't reach out and fix it and you don't jump off the building and cope with just like you would cope with losing your sight, you just do.

But I think the most important things to understand are that feeling lonely sometimes is OK, and after that it is your choice to be lonely or not because loneliness comes from inside not from the outside.

Answer 3

well I have felt lonely.. I think everyone does at some time or another... loneliness to me is especially apparent when you're in a group of people who are enjoying themselves... but somehow you feel on the outside of it all... you may be interacting with these people but not feel a part of them... that can be very lonely. Also when you realise that you're having to make the effort all the time to keep in touch with friends (who are always happy to hear from you and want to see you) yet they don't bother to make the effort themselves. Generally I think the best way to cope with loneliness is to put all those negative thoughts and rather do something that you enjoy... and to go out and do things that you would normally do with other people... such as going to movies... by yourself, coz then you don't feel deprived of doing them, you're outside and may even meet some new people... and your mind is kept off being lonely. But sometimes, I do admit, I wallow in self pity which is not good... but it can help to get it out your system for a while.

Answer 4

The fatct is that whether you feel or don't feel you cannot be lonelier than being alone. Loneliness is the interpretation of your mind. It can be real or imaginary. You can feel lonely in the midst of million people. You may not feel lonely even when you are alone in the middle of the desert. The right interpretation of the environment and surroundings is the best way of over coming loneliness. You are born in the mothers’ womb in loneliness but as a child we never fee that because we are encapsulated by the womb. You must believe deep down in your heart that you are always surrounded by the Love of God. He holds you and his presence have encapsulated you. You never feel alone, never feel lonely and never be worried.

Answer 5

I have been divorced for a year and I have not been out with anyone. I was neglected during my marriage.
I have been lonely in both situations.
It is a yearning for a connection. If you can just touch but not quite connect, the pain is greater than if there is no one there to begin with.
I try (prayer and meditation helps) to have faith that I either will find someone or that I can be at peace with being alone for the rest of my life. I have God and know I am loved by him.

Answer 6

Sometimes (not often) I feel lonely and a sort of deprived.

I feel that way when I'm struggling with an emotional issue and those around me are literally unable to provide solace.

At those times I'm lost and sad. Then I am reminded that I cannot expect others to provide solutions to complex issues that are MINE.

This self talk motivates me to go on and find the answer within myself. So I guess they did help me to help myself after all.

Answer 7

Yes, but it usually gets replaced by solitude.
Loneliness is an appitite for company and has its roots in our earliest moments when we received love and affirmation from our parents. Loneliness can be replaced by a positive condition known as solitude which is a temporary respite within ones own company. Solitude can sustain one indefinitely if the person is conscious of the prescence of God.

Answer 8

I feel lonely all the time. I feel like I'm hanging in there most of the time. What I do to cope with it, is I try really hard to be positive. I take it one little step at a time. It seems to be working for me, but I have to work on myself really really hard.

Answer 9

Yes there are times I feel lonely. I keep as busy as possible to keep my mind off it. Keeping busy is important. Projects at home, seeing friends, church, visiting family, exercising. I don't have enough time. Think about the plus side of being single. Be happy. Appreciate what you have. Count your blessings. Who knows; someone might come along.

Answer 10

Yes I have felt lonely. Fortunately not for long before my wife arrived. I was in the hospital and in a coma for 5 weeks and when I awoke, I was alone and it was nighttime. I was in intensive care and in a room alone with no other patient. There was a nurse there and I couldn't talk because of a tube down my throat and about all I could do at the time was open my eyes. It took so very much energy to lift one of my hands one time. The other hand was tied to a board with tubes running everywhere into a manifold of connections and to needles stuck in my arm and stomach and God only knows where else. To even try and sit up was totally out of the question. I could see a board in front of me with the date and who my nurse was but it meant nothing. Even though I knew when I went to the hospital, dates were meaningless. I thought it was either the same day of my surgery or the next morning early. I couldn't see a clock but it felt like evening. I could see other nurses going about their business through the doorway. This was the loneliest I've ever been in my life. Completely unable to communicate. I wanted my wife so very bad at that moment and I missed her so very much I actually cried silently lying in my bed.
Finally after what was only probably 2 or 3 minutes, the nurse looked at the heart monitor, looked at me, and ran out of the room calling for a doctor. Again I felt completely alone and helpless and by myself. Finally 3 people came to my room and stood over me. They told me I couldn't talk and not to try because of the tubes down my throat. This was a huge relief because I thought something was wrong with me like I was paralyzed or something. The doctor placed two of his fingers in my hand and asked me to squeeze them. I could barely move but move I did. He smiled and said I would be fine and that I had been in a coma for 5 weeks but I was coming out of it. He made many more checks and finally told the nurse to go get my wife where she was sleeping in one of the waiting rooms for ICU.
Again tears began to flow when I heard this. I wanted her so very bad at that moment it was indescribable.
She came into the room and she was crying. She leaned down and kissed me on my forehead and that was the most wonderful feeling in the world then. It meant to me that everything would be all right, and it was. That was in March of 2004. We have since retired and are living our dream life. We live on a huge lake here in Arkansas and have our own private boat dock. I have a wonderful workshop to remodel the house and things couldn’t be any better than they are. God does answer prayers and He is real. This I know for a fact…

Answer 11

Yes. I feel lonely sometimes. I feel like I am drowning in a black chasm and I can't get out. I feel like no one can hear me, see me, or understand me. I am floating through life like a ghost. I don't know what to do. I spend a lot of time on my own. I feel like I can't be myself around anyone because they don't understand me, and they wouldn't like me for what I really am.
So instead I pretend. And in the meanwhile, I die a little on the inside.