Most long term couples expect their love lifes to slow down, but what if the sex stops altogether?
2007-02-12 18:15:48 · 38 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
in my experience, i would say NO...sex is also about communication, and a way of expressing your love for each other, in my experience, my partner had gone off sex, and it made me feel like he didnt want me, i felt unloved ( but thats another story, But just trying to get to the point of saying that maybe it could work out if you both agree on a sexless relationship.
2007-02-12 20:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by nicky2425 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh, not good. What a long lonely life it would be. That's sad to think of that happening, but I know it does. There would need to be some communication going on there. No sex equals no fun. No laughter, no satisfaction, no excitement. Someone would need to take the first step to spice it up. The sex can continue forever and should. Maybe a visit to the doctor or therapist to find out why would help. If there is a medical reason or someone has a crippling accident, then that is another story. I would stay with my husband if he could never have sex again due to this. I love him unconditionally, but if you are physically able, then I think every effort should be made. The closeness of the physical contact is vital to a healthy marriage. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship like that, but that's just my opinion. My husband still chases me, grabs me and tickles me until I can't stop laughing, then he holds me down and starts in.... and it really turns me on...try that, it's really just about the love that is already there and then showing it to the one you love.
2007-02-12 23:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how the individuals in the relationship view their lack of a sex life. I personally wouldnt be very happy. I am nearly 50 and still have lots of sex, but we have had to make adjustments due to health reasons.
If both people are happy that there is no sex, or content at least, then it is ok, but i suspect from your message that you are not happy about it.
All you can do is gently communicate to your partner your feelings. I left my now ex-hub four years ago for many reasons but one was because he was not interested in having sex with me. I am now much happier with my new husband.
You need to work out what is right for YOU. What you can/can't live with or live without!
It is not fair to expect a sexual being to live without sex. You have choices:
Stay in the marriage and accept it.
Try and change the other persons point of view.
Adopt a porn habit.
Have an affair/s
Visit a prostitute.
2007-02-12 20:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elements of a marriage commitment are: [1] free, [2] total, [3] faithful, and [4] open to children. These are the commitments that spouses must renew when they have sex. “Free”. Any way that a husband or wife might manipulate of coerce a spouse to have sexual relations would be a violation of the freedom in their union. A clear example would be ’marital rape.’ Yet we’re not talking only about such an extreem situation. The true freedom of love is also violated when spouses use sex as a tool in their relationship for some other end. Perhaps sex is employed to gain power or control in the relationship. Perhaps it’s offered as a “reward” for something else or withheld as a “punishment”. None of this kind of behavior says, “I want to give myself to you freely to affirm you r goodness and our marriage commitment.”
When one or both of the spouses get into prohibiting their freedom, they need to find forgivness in each other, and ways to elevate the love lost. It's hard work for sure --- this process could instantly happen, or take years to repair. Sometimes just getting back to the basics (hugs) can lead both to good sex ... but in the end, the pay-off (long term marrital sex) is greater than anything you could imagine.
2007-02-12 18:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Maybe if the couple is very old. Also depends on whether sex stops because of lack of desire or something physical. If 2 people love each other enough and they can't have sex for physical reasons, then yes, the relationship can still be happy. They will find other ways to satisfy each other. But, if it slows down too much or stops out of boredom or lack of desire, then there's a problem that needs to be fixed.
2007-02-12 18:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not a relationship survives is not soley based on sex. Its about both ppl being happy, and comfortable in there relationship. As my mom always said, relationships are not 50/50, in order for them to work each partner needs to give 100%.
When your in a relationship, sex is about more then just feeling good, its about closeness and intamcy. As long as the couple can find other ways to be close, the relationship will work. Basically it all comes down to love, if you really and truly love your significant other, thats all that matters.
2007-02-12 18:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by evil_kandykid 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well if your married and been married for a while then its expected it happens to many poeple but it could make the relationship a little less exciting and "happy" but if your just dating and even if youve been dating for a long time it is very possible to have a sexless relationship and be very happy.
2007-02-12 18:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by pirate_obsessive 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as both people are happy with the arrangement then there is no reason why they can't be happy together. The problems start when one wants sex and the other doesn't.
2007-02-12 20:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I are in our fifties. We are together ten years. We have almost no sex life to speak of. both of us have different medical conditions - he has prostate trouble for example. We sleep together in the buff; we hold hands, we cuddle and kiss, we get little surprises for each other. I would like us to be still having sex; I want to feel desired; what we have is a compromise based on love and respect. I think sex is pretty important in a relationship; it makes us feel wanted. It's not just about the physical act - it's about a much deeper sharing when two wobbly oldies like us still still want to desire and be desired.
2007-02-12 19:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by marie m 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the people. It would be a bit harsh to leave a wife or husband after 40 years due to the fact that they could no longer have sex. If you truly love someone you love them through the good and the bad.
2007-02-12 19:10:00 · answer #10 · answered by SR13 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋