pregnancy fears...help?

Question

i have finally been able to concieve after trying for 6 loong years. i am 4 weeks pregnant now. but i am so afraid and worried all the time that something will happen to the baby. i am going mad.. help please

Answer 1

Worry may not be a good influence. Enjoy the experience and look forward to the fulfillment that will come.

If you must, you can be concerned. There is a big difference between worry and concern. Worry brings anxiety. Concern will get you to bed on time so you have proper rest. It will also help you to remember to eat properly, take your vitamins, and stay positive.

Sensitivity is a part of the process. If you realize it, then it is easier to stay removed from any negative feelings. Just think of something that makes you very happy and be good to yourself.

Answer 2

Don't drive yourself crazy about it, this is just the begining of all the worrying to come. About 5 days after I found out I was pregnant (5 weeks) I started to have severe cramping and bleeding that lasted about 5 days, I had all the symptoms of a mis-carrige. Although the pregnancy was un-planned I was still devistated evey morning when I woke up to see blood I cried and cried and cried. I worried all the time didn't go to work and "went crazy" for a while. Now I'm 19 weeks pregnant and have a healthy little baby in there. What I'm trying to say is that you should enjoy your pregnancy and try not to drive yourself nuts with worry. Even if you have some funny symptoms or suspect something might go wrong, don't freak out until you know. I was a mess until I finally hit 12 weeks and then I calmed down a little. Looking back on it I think I may have over reacted a little hee hee. If you are that concerned you can ask you're Dr. to refer you for a Ultrasound or even try to hear the heartbeat with thier little machine. As soon as there is a recognised heartbeat the chance of mis-carrige is low. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

First of all, CONGRATS!! :)
It is very normal to be scared, I am still scared at times and I am 20 weeks. You are probably still in shock that you finally got pregnant. As soon as you start going to more doctor appointments and hear the baby's heart beat for the first time, you will start feeling more and more excited about it and less worried. I would say that you should feel some nerviousness for two more months until you hit your 2nd trimester and then you will be excited and start buying things, you'll be able to feel flutters and kicks by then. Until then relax, your baby is going to be a healthy, energetic baby. After you have the baby, you'll miss being pregnant, because pregnancy is so great, so sit back and enjoy!! Print out a pregnancy calendar that tells you whats going on each day in the development.

Answer 4

Just take one day at a time.
I had a miscarriage last year and a woman i worked with who was also pregnant began completely avoiding me. I found out she'd been trying to get pregnant for 6 years and was so scared about her pregnancy that being around me made her very very stressed and afraid. I understood, and allowed her the space she needed. My point, surround yourself with positive things and people and as I said take each day as it comes. Maybe keep a diary and write down something at the end of each day. Only time can get you through this. Hopefully you can enjoy your pregnancy and after the third month you should be able to relax a little more. All the best.

Answer 5

Whatever you do don't worry or get stressed out because the baby feels everything you feel and he or she will feel worried and stressed as well.Instead rejoice and be happy for the blessing God has given you!A new baby is so exciting,cherish the months ahead of you while you and your baby are still one,talk to your baby and read to her,rub your tummy and tell her how much you love her,listen to music(they love music)and feel excited for her,she will feel so wanted and loved and the bond will already be strong even before she is born.Think only the best and don't worry,oh and avoid hot baths and showers it's not good for the baby.When she is born hold her where she can hear your heart beat and the sound will remind her of being in the womb safe and sound and she will feel calm and comforted.

Answer 6

One of the best things you could do for yourself is to help fortify your progesterone stores. Here's a topical cream that is all natural - I used it all during and after both of my pregnancies and I wouldn't do it again without it. Progesterone is crucial for a happy, comfortable and successful pregnancy. You might want to talk to your health care provider about it: http://www.mynsp.com/carole/products/guide.aspx?stockNum=4936

I will also say that I had a marvellous self hypnosis tape that I listened to every day during both pregnancies and I am so impressed with it that I recommend it to anyone and everyone. Here's a link: http://members.aol.com/womanway/

I also urge you to take the time to meditate and nourish your own confidence. Your own worry can be your biggest obstacle. You have conceived against the odds - enjoy your blessing and do not jinx it. You have earned it - remember that. Yoga, but more importantly Yoga (or pranic) breathing is so important to calming your mind.

Stand each morning facing (or imagining) the sun and take a deep belly filling breath of air as you reach up high, then exhale as you bring your hands to prayer position at your chest. Take 10 - 15 such breaths, imagining inhaling life and love and exhaling and negativity. This is where you begin to learn that you must be the calm in the storm - the anchor for your child. If you take the time to first nourish yourself, there will always be plenty to give to others.

Peace!

Answer 7

You really really need to buy a book. The one I am reading is called What to Expect When You're Expecting. I was terrified something was wrong with me, because the symptoms I have been experiencing are nothing like what I expected. The cramping was the scariest part for me, and then there's the frequent peeing, and the constipation. I'm only 6 weeks along, but hormones are responsible for every bit of it. I don't know about you, but reading this book has seriously put my mind at ease, you should try it out.

Answer 8

Fear with pregnancy is normal. And I can imagine that after six years of trying you are especially concerned. Try to relax. Enjoy this time and be happy. I'm a firm believer that the development of the baby is just as dependent on your mental state as your physical state. And if you're full of anxiety your blood pressure is surely high. Try meditation or bio-feedback. Reassure yourself that everything is fine and that you are going to have an uneventful pregnancy and a healthy baby.

Congratulations!!

Answer 9

Anxiety CAN cause problems. Count your blessings and IF you pray, give God the praise he deserves for giving you your gift and ask for the ease of worry. Try talking to your baby. Sing to her and read to her. She will feel the vibration and respond soon enough. You'll be fine sweetie. When she gets here in 36 weeks think about the names Hope Faith or Grace. Best wishes. Oh try laying on your back with a saucer or small plate on your tummy while you sing and watch her move. It's awesome. Tell us all how much better you are in a week, cause you will be!

Answer 10

First let me say - CONGRATULATIONS!! You are an inspiration to people who are currently TTC.

I have heard it is perfectly normal to worry like that. You may want to try a support group. These are excellent:

http://boards.webmd.com/webx?50@@.5984525e

That is the list of different boards WebMD has. You may find the "pregnancy after infertility" works best for you instead of the regular "first trimester" board after trying for so long. You will find lots of women there to relate to and maybe lessen your fears a little.

Hope this helps - Have a very happy and healthy 9 months - And again, congrats. I cannot wait to be where you are. :-)