Should my daughter get her own lawyer?

Question

My daughter started dating her husband when she was 16. They married when she was 18. They have been married 8 years. She is now 25. They tried to have a baby. They spent thousands of dollars and she went to a fertillity clinic. She had to go to the hospital many times because some of the treatments made her sick. She got pregnant but lost the baby after 5 weeks. She was devastated. She would not talk to anyone about it. Her husband couldn't understand. She also had a full time job. She started RN school. Most of her time was spent studying and driving to school. She told me her husband was very unhappy and complained all of the time They both had different ideas about the way things should be. She left him to just get away for a while He continued to harrass her. They had lots of heated arguements. She got another job and moved in with her brother in another city 3 hours from where she lived She has only the money she earns to get by own. He filed for divorce. should she get a lawyer

They had a new home and a large sum of money in savings. When she left. He took all of the money and changed bank accounts. We have helped her all we can. We don't have a lot of money either. She told me she didn't have enough money to get her own lawyer. She didn't want to take anything, but half of the money , because she helped earn it. She said she doesn't even want any of the furniture. She said he could have the house, but just pay her for her half.
I wish so much I had the money to help her get a lawyer. I really think she should get one. She is so undecided. She said in the past she might could have trusted him to be fair, but he has been acting so strange for the past few months. She is afraid the lawyer would be so expensive, that it would take everything she had... and without a lawyer she could still lose everything. I think also she is still in a depression over losing the baby. I want her to go to a support group. I will alway be supportive of her.

Answer 1

yes, she needs a lawyer. she can go thru legal services, which would be cheaper, she also needs to file a restraining order and a P.F.A.(protection from abuse) the pfa can be done without an attorney,just go to the courthouse and ask for the paperwork.she needs to make sure she asks for a civil stand by so she can get all of her personal items and make sure she gets what was hers prior to their marriage, also make sure she gets her share of anything accumulated thru the marriage(division of property) under 10 yrs you are not entitled to spousal support. I hope this info helps you.

Answer 2

It sounds as though they do not have very much property at issue in dissolving the marriage. Usually, divorces require the assistance of an attorney -- although all courts will have a means to handle your divorce without one for people with simple property interests or no means to hire a lawyer. Unless there are some technical interests that they have to resolve, like property (house, cars, expensive gifts, etc.) or there are abuse issues (stalking, and the like), I would say that generally she would not need to necessarily get an attorney. That said, however, I would recommend that she protect her interests, past, present and future, and have legal counsel assist her with the divorce. Many marriage dissolution issues are state-law related (such as community property laws) and an attorney can help.

Answer 3

I can't believe this! That in this day and age something so horrific and totally mortifying could possibly go on un-noticed. Where was the rest of the family? How can some one so truly evil get away with this. I myself am 21 years old and feel a great load of sympathy for those girls. Their mother not only robbed them of their childhoods, she completely stole their lives. I can't imagine growing up without being able to actually grow up, playing helps young children to develop, socializing is also important, without these things and the million other life changing experiences these girls have been robbed of they haven't had a chance to be the people they deserve to have developed into. Now they have to go through a hell of alot just to be able to live "normal" lives. I can't imagine how anyone yet alone their own mother, someone who is supposed to be there to nurture and help them grow could possibly do this. That lady needs some serious therapy, if you ask me she should be imprisoned for at least three times the years she so unlawfully took from those girls. Those girls especially the eldest will never fully recover from this. I HATE THAT WOMEN!!!

Answer 4

YES! She needs to have someone you is fighting for her rights. If there is joint property, or unpaid credit card bills, she needs to make sure he is not going to screw her over. When I got divorced I did not have a lot of money either, but I found a great lawyer, who agreed to let me pay him payments. If you or another family member could loan her the retainer fee (mine was $500) the lawyer may be willing to let her make payments for the rest of the bill. She definitely need to consult with legal counsel of her own though, no matter what the cost.

Answer 5

yes your daughter should get a lawyer, and let the lawyer know that her husband is still responable for her debits and all incurred . now she should run an ad in any newspaper in your state that she is no longer responable for any of his as of that date. also let her know that there are two words to look out for or use AND, OR. they are small but they have alot of pull. about her depression there is a web site she can go to that may help when she feels ready just watch her. you can also get info. from a hospital that may help u in time of need. it's the how to deal with loss

Answer 6

Most definitely. It is unfortunate that they had this loss in their lives. It likely was the catalyst for their break up, with other issues already there waiting to cause this. Sorry they have split, that's tough on everyone.

She should see a lawyer as soon as she can in order to protect her portion of assets etc. and ensure she doesn't end up with nothing.

Answer 7

some families take out home eq loans then your daughter can pay you back when it's over. Hell yes sh'es gotta get at least half the house value, he'll pay her off. Money can cause stress too.

Answer 8

Probalby. But on the other hand I f my wife moved away I would file for divorce to. She might of lost it because of stress

Answer 9

Yes. Nobody should ever get divorced without benefit of counsel.

Answer 10

she needs to get a lawyer and you need to be ready to be by her side for some serious emotional support! Good luck!