how many gay guys sound like the way media say they sound like and like the way some gay male charaters sound like ?ex the show twice in alife time there was aguy that had the gay voice .ok to explain what i mean its like this some guys are called gay cause of how they talk so how many gay guys actual talk this way ?u know the gay voice how many gay guys have it . cause not all gay guys sound the way people think they do.
2007-02-12 17:14:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yeah unfortunately I do have taht "gay voice" which some guys tell me they knew i was gay just from that but my behavior is totally masculine and reserved and not "flaming". But unfortunately i do have that lisp and drag in my voice. I didnt believe it until i actually used a tape recorder to tape myself and played it back and im like "fark! cant believe it!".
It does bother me because its me giving myself away before i would like to have the liberty to tell people about myself when i want and not give myself away so easily. Sometimes in certain circles i remember this and try to bring down my voice a few octaves but its difficult to keep this up. My outgoing voice on my cellfones are a few octaves lower just for that reason.
If the world was very open minded i wouldnt mind it but thats not the current scenario so in a way i do feel that i hate my current voice. I know a guy who is about 20 years old he has this super deep voice and he is heterosexual..i wished i had his voice. So deep and masculine.
The only thing real positive about my voice is that im high baritone so when I sing i can hit some of those difficult to reach notes..so it helps in Karaoke lol!
Hope this is what youre describing.
2007-02-15 09:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Triskelion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an excuse to travel the world looking for gay sounding gay men!
2007-02-13 07:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question that has interested me for years. Namely: is 'the gay voice' (aka 'flaming while one speaks') learned behavior, or is it somehow innate w/ gay men?
I work with a large group of mostly gay men: a community chorus. There are a few straight men in the group. One would think that it would be easy to tell the straight guys from the gay guys as they come for their first audition. But I have found that I can never assume anything. Last month I had auditions for our new season. I ask the same question of everyone at the end of their audition: "You know this is a mostly gay chorus, correct?" This last time, the one guy I was 100% sure was straight said, "Well, yeah. That's why I'm joining." He went on to tell me about his family and how they have a hard time accepting his gayness, etc etc. Another guy, who I was 100% sure was gay, said, "Yeah, I know. But I just like to sing. And my girlfriend is completely supportive of me doing this."
Another story from my musical past:
I was teaching a group of kids in an after school program in a suburb of Chicago. This was also a chorus: about 40 kids, 75% of them girls. The boys that were in the chorus were mostly 'class clown' types of guys, kids who noticed that you can cut up and do all kinds of goofy stuff on stage and get praise rather than get detention. Just your basic 7th-8th grade boys: interested in girls, basketball, video games, etc. But there was one kid who was VERY obviously gay. He, at 12, had 'the gay voice' in every word he spoke. He was a great kid, and the other kids accepted him totally. But one look at him, and you could tell: this kid is gay. One day I had a chance to go to this kid's house and meet w/ his parents. (Something about playing piano for this kid's sister's bat-mitzvah) This kid, this gay kid, had the absolutely most normal parents in the world. A very masculine, coach-like father, who was somewhat gruff in his manner. A very 'north Chicago suburb' soccer mom. A very normal sister. Everything about this household said: textbook American middle class. And yet. Somehow this kid, brought up in this very normal family, was as gay as every episode of Will and Grace put together. As I was leaving, this kid's mom took me aside and asked about her son and how he was doing in the chorus. "I get concerned about how the other kids might treat him. He tends to ... march to the beat of a different drummer." I assured her that he fits in perfectly, that he's a good kid, no more prone to trouble than any of the other kids in the group.
I don't know what I was expecting from meeting his family. A gay father? Musical theater playing from every speaker in the house? A hippie uncle? Meeting this kid's family made me change my assumptions that 'the gay voice' and, in fact many gay mannerisms, were learned behavior. Sometimes, it seems, they truly ARE innate.
Now, that being said, I know there are all kinds of affectations that are, indeed, learned and adopted within groups of gay men. These affectations, though, seem to fall more into the category of comic response, or the kind of argot that any group of individuals that spends a lot of time together tends to develop. These are affectations that are most assuredly dropped should any of these guys find themselves in, say, the outskirts of Dallas. (Although Dallas is a surprisingly gay city, come to think of it)
Anyway. I don't suppose I answered this question any more than raised more questions.
Helpful? Interesting? Far too wordy?
2007-02-15 14:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by pasdeberet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself talk normally and so do most of my gay friends
2007-02-13 03:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of us talk just like regular people...cause that's what we are. But even if some people do talk differently. So what??
2007-02-13 01:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The gay voice? I know str8 men that have the gay voice....
2007-02-13 01:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I talk normally, but I talk like a ditz alot. I use the word, like alot and oh my gosh, and the worst and most embarrassing is oh my gosh, like.....
2007-02-13 20:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by jack h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋