My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years. But he is leaving for Iraq in August. And says he doesn't want to get engaged til after... why can't we before he leaves, would it really matter?
2007-02-12 17:11:02 · 11 answers · asked by Steffanie P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is this his first deployment ? Have you two faced a LONG seperation before ? Military life is very hard ( I know...Im married to it ) If you love him....do as he asks and wait. Alot can happen in the next few years ( especially with his chosen path ) perhaps he doesnt want you to feel obligated if you cant make it through ( alot of women cant ).....or he is worried that he wont come home. Respect his wishes...he has alot to deal with right now.
2007-02-12 17:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by RedHairedTempest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he is not ready for making that committment with you in marriage. It does matter to him, but if he hasn't asked you within the 4 years, then he is not ready or doesn't want to marry you.
2007-02-13 02:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is thinking that he does not want to destroy your life too if he gets seriously hurt or killed while serving his country. However, if you are pregnant or are expecting to be pregnant before he leaves, it would be wise to marry before he leaves. You'll not only be entitled to all his benefits, but so will your child. Moreover, your child will thank you both forever.
2007-02-13 01:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants to prove something to himself, before he makes that commitment - that by getting through Iraq, he'll prove that he's the man that he thinks you want him to be. Except he doesn't know that he already is.
2007-02-13 01:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by i♥sf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to put this any more delicately, but he may be afraid to make a committment that he might not be able to follow through with.
Give him ALL of your support and tell him you'll be here for him when he returns.
And tell him THANK YOU, for me. (salute).
2007-02-13 01:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it's better to wait and see for the future because you may never know what will happen to both of you. but if you are very insistent to marry him,tell him. both of you should decide for it...Love will always be a two-way street.
take care.
2007-02-13 01:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by chie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps being married, in his mind, is a lot to worry about in addition to his upcoming deployment.
2007-02-13 01:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by Paul BS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it would matter, why do it cause hes leaving? he wants to do it the right way!!! let him, you might just be surprised by what he has planned for u!
2007-02-13 01:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by lovely 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure him so much. When they're ready, they're ready. THere's nothing you can do to make him be ready. He has to know by himself.
2007-02-13 02:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he does not know how long he will be there.. but i would
just ask him . but tell him from me. stay safe and god be
with him.
2007-02-13 01:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋