I never feel i have anything intresting to say even when i do?

Question

I dont know how to talk to people?
its hrad for me to make new friends becuase i dont know what to say becuase they might reject me or say something nasty about me,i'm very sensitive in that area of the way i look,even though i'm not that bad
How do i become a person that other people just want to be with, just my (being there) is wanted
how do i be that person?

Answer 1

Dear Kate.

What are you worrying about? You have managed to state in your question already that your not that bad. To make a friend doesn't come easy I know, especially when you have such low self esteem. But you just have to let yourself go, just do it, forget about what other people think, be yourself. By the way you have explained everything in your question you seem to me the sort of person that I would like to have a conversation with. If you want to make friends you have to make yourself available to speak to, if you stand there waiting for somebody to come to you, you are giving the impression that you are to good enough to start conversation and that everyone must come to you first. If your the sort of person who waits for the other person to say hello first
then you need to reverse it immediately.

Good luck :D

Answer 2

I have a similar problem. I dunno how to start a conversation. I just stand there thinking what do I say? I get scared I might say something stupid. Although I'm not as bothered as I used to be. I see other people saying stupid stuff all the time, but I reject them. So I guess they wouldn't reject me. Sometimes I say stupid things and worry if my friend is gonna still talk to me, but she does still talk to me. Maybe you need find some confidence in your self. I guess it's easier said than done I'm still working on it. I'm trying a technique called Emotional Freedom Technique which deals with bad emotions, fears, anxiety, etc. It does sound bazaar, but I've found it works very well.

Answer 3

in the beginning, i've got been there. Secondly from my years of adventure suffering melancholy and tension, The sysmptoms and feeling you describe heavily isn't taken care of by means of effectively by means of a psychologist. you ought to make certain a psychiatrist who's experienced specially in psychological well-being themes and would propperly diagnose and prescribe the right drugs, neither a physician nor psychologist are qualified interior the comparable section as a psychiatrist whilst dealing which excessive psychological themes. The expert interior the sphere is the only whom you ought to hunt for suited help and so forth. I did and it became the suitable element i will have completed for my lifestyles and destiny. Wishing you the very better of success.

Answer 4

Like I did, you have to learn to be yourself. I was overlooked, dismissed, discounted, derided as a child and when people later said, "Just be yourself" I didn't have a clue what they meant.

I have only been able to grow into knowing who I am through Jesus Christ. Not the Church, which will also try to mold you to fit its preconceptions and prejudices, but Jesus Himself.

"Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth." To be meek is to be willing to take ignorance and insults without being hurt, not to be a doormat. Good luck!

Answer 5

Please understand, and I know you have heard this many countless times, but just be yourself. People like difference. People don't like a person to be around them to be exactly like them. I am very different from usual people and I still have friends(not very many, but I still have people to hang around with:) Just show the world who you really are and I assure you people will be attracted to you without you even talking! Good Luck:)

Answer 6

First, don't worry about rejection, if someones says something nasty, then there not worth knowing anyway. Second say what you feel, and whatever you say, try be bubbly and confident.

Answer 7

Sometimes nothing is something. My sister-in-law liked opening up debates over yeast infections for the entire family. We would get her so drunk that she would pass out and then put her down stairs with the dogs.

Answer 8

Speak up and make yourself be heard. You never know how many people will like you and would love to be around you.

Answer 9

just be yourself. People who act other than themselves are people you have to learn to be around. Find some true friends who are accepting and caring people . They are out there.

Answer 10

Relax and just be yourself , the rest will follow