This would be the right thing to do correct?
She is the only one I've ever been with and I have this itch to get with other chicks for some reason.
Honestly, she is a good woman and I have no real reason to divorce her. But it seems the only acceptle way to go and sleep around because I don't want to be labeled a "cheater".
2007-02-12 17:03:51 · 23 answers · asked by Billy Bob D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also, this frees her up to do her own thing.
2007-02-12 17:04:32 · update #1
Married 10 years. Is that long enough for you all that doubt that I was serious?
2007-02-12 17:09:25 · update #2
Yes, hind sight is 20/20. I know what I "should" have done before marriage. But the facts remain that I did not do those things before marriage and now I regret it.
2007-02-12 17:11:35 · update #3
Yes she is satisfed to my knowledge. I give her multiple orgasms and I do try lots of new sex positions.
2007-02-12 17:33:47 · update #4
No it's not right.
2007-02-12 17:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I so applaud you for not wanting to cheat on her, I really do. This is a tough question to answer. I am assuming you both are very young. I can understand you wanting to get out there and be with other women since you never have, but think before you leap. I'm sure you don't need to be told this, but seriously there are some serious VD's out there and I'm sure you don't want your "friend" to get sick. Sometimes the grass it not always greener on the other side. There is an old saying, "If you love somethig, set it free and if it comes back, then it was meant to be."
Talk to your wife, you never know she migh surprise you, she maybe feeling the same way. Oh and another thing, before leaping into divorce over this, role playing with each other can bring some excitment back into the bedroom and may fill your need to be with other women.
Good luck
2007-02-12 17:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you decide to divorce your wife (which would probably break her heart - and your bank balance, cos she'll get half of everything and child support for the kids if you have them) have you discussed experimenting with new sex positions and toys or role playing to bring the spark back to your sex life?? Or perhaps, if you could discuss swinging with her (if you think she'd be up for that - you never know, she could surprise you with her answer to any one of these suggestions). At any rate, chances are she's as dissatisfied with your sex life as you are. If your marriage is working on every other level, I don't see a mid-life-crisis, wanting to bone anything and everything that moves, as a reasonable excuse for divorce - especially when you haven't even tried to make it work any other ways.
2007-02-12 17:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by Nat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. It's a good sign that you are even thinking about this, instead of just cheating on her...I WILL give you that much.
Incidently, if the only reason you are even considering divorce is so you won't ruin YOUR "good name"....then divorce really is your only answer. And don't hold it against her when she comes to despise you...she's going to either way because you've given her two very poor options, divorce or infidelity....hmmm.
2007-02-12 17:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That'd probably be the right thing to do, compared to cheating. It also seems like an incredibly immature decision. Maybe she's better off without you if that's how your mind works.
My question is: why on earth did you choose to get married in the first place? Why make a mockery of the idea of lasting monogamy?
2007-02-12 17:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by Marj 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone experinces the urge to be with someone else. But if she is a good woman I don't think you can go wrong by staying with her. Resist the other chicks and although it may not seem worth it now you wont regret it. Cause satan just wants us to fail and that is a temptation he has given you, resist it and you cant go wrong. good luck! I wish ya the best!
2007-02-12 17:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by jackichanrules13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe anyone would leave a person they claim to love soley because they want to have sex with someone else. For the most part, uh sex is sex - you'll have good sex, you'll have mediocre sex, and you'll have - dare I say it - not so great sex. I think you should try spicing up your sex life with your wife before you decide to divorce.
2007-02-12 17:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by karespromise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"cheater"? No. Loser? Yes. Why would you throw away a good relationship just so you can get your freak on?
Instead of leaving your marriage, why don't you talk to your wife about trying new things in your sex life? she may be bored too.
2007-02-12 17:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said she is a good woman...do you know how hard it is to find a good women....almost impossible...i think you better rethink your situation before you make a mistake you will regret....ive slept with a few women and i can tell you youre not missing out on much
2007-02-12 17:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by camden 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is still in love with you, that may be a problem either way.
I suggest you put the notion out of your head and be happy you have a "good woman".
2007-02-12 17:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by ♨ Wisper ► 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not work on your marriage and love your wife that much more. You married her for a good reason so stick it out. you will be happier that way and much richer to.
2007-02-12 17:10:48 · answer #11 · answered by larlonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋