My boyfriends friends mom hates me because she says Im a controlling girlfriend. I don't think I am. All I ask is if he is going to go out to let me know when you leave and let me know when you get home. I just want to make sure he's safe and he made it everywhere alright. Oh, and I don't really like him hanging out with girls when Im not there. I've had very bad experiances with girls. I don't trust girls their evil. I don't think that makes me controlling.
2007-02-12 16:33:41 · 13 answers · asked by Regina G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My boyfriends friends mom (please note that its his friends mom not his mom. This is the woman who he currently lives with, he's moving back in with his mother in 2 weeks)hates me because she says Im a controlling girlfriend. She also says im a slut and a *****, and I've been nothing but nice to her. I don't think I am. All I ask is if he is going to go out to let me know when you leave and let me know when you get home. I just want to make sure he's safe and he made it everywhere alright. Oh, and I don't really like him hanging out with girls when Im not there. I've had very bad experiances with girls. I don't trust girls, they make me uncomfortable. He's never cheated on me or given me any reason not to trust him, and I do trust him. I just get uncomfortable, but I don't tell him he's not allowed. I don't think that makes me controlling.
2007-02-13 14:54:28 · update #1
It shows you dont trust him when you do this...This will end your relationship...His mom knows this...
2007-02-12 16:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him and he love you it don't matter what girl he talk to he will not cheat-but you can have him to start if you want to know everything he is doing all of the time-give him some space and time with his friends-all men don't cheat-he have some girl friends those he had before he met you and you can't expect him to give up his friends because you are not there with him if he wanted those girls he would not have picked you to be his girl-jealousy's will cause you to lose him if you love him trust him until you fine out better-all girls are not the same-you have some men friends-his mother is just looking out for you and him and she may know something about that kind of behave-you may not see it as controlling but his mother see it as controlling and he may see it as controlling (be careful) jealousy's can cause problems in a relationship
2007-02-12 16:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably picking up more on the distrust. And he's got mommie issues.
Also, let's play a little game using your words.
[1] Women are evil and can't be trusted.
[2] You are a woman.
[3] Therefore, you are evil and can't be trusted.
In essence, you think other girls are going to seduce him when you aren't around. So despite your "deep concern for his well being" you are -- if you would admit it -- snooping and keeping tabs on him.
If I had to tell you when I left and came home every night I'd tell you to go jump in the ocean. Now if I was going out with other women I'd kick myself in the balls and not have a girlfriend.
What's his story?
2007-02-12 17:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Regina, you do seem to act overly suspicious.
It would be one thing if your man has actually cheated on you. If he hasn't you're overreacting.
Also, men don't cheat on their girlfriends because "other girls are evil" they cheat because THEY WANT TO!!! If the guy didn't want to cheat he could be in the Playboy Mansion surrounded by 100 naked models and he wouldn't even think about sleeping with them. And if he wanted to cheat he could be in the desert 100 miles from the nearest woman and he'd find a way to cheat.
It's the guy's fault, not the other woman!!!
2007-02-12 16:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you just cannot win with their mothers. Don't take it personally, it has more to do with her losing her son to another woman than what type of person you are. Also, I believe you either trust or don't. My husband played baseball and was in a situation where women were at him all the time. I chose to trust him and we are happily married.
2007-02-12 16:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by smp1969 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
so basically youre the dominent one in the relationship, but i can tell you if you keep this up it wont last. What guy would want to be treated like that for "dat luvy dovy" as you call it. Now as for respect you have to respect him if you want respect in return, its ok to smack each other around and tease each other in a playful way as long as it doesnt go to far. Bossing him around is going to drift you guys apart eventually and he will find someone less controlling, so just keep it in a joking way and dont over do it.
2016-03-29 04:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is controlling . Dont be surprised if his buddies aren't getting his head pumped with the same thing. Loosen up or might let u go
2007-02-12 16:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by bmikey79 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well,yes and no.........i think its fair that you want him to be safe but you can at least let him talk to some girls just make sure thier either girls you know and trust or some one that you know isn't a boyfriend theif!!!
2007-02-12 17:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are in the right - take it from a happily married man. Not all girls are evil though.
2007-02-12 16:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
not controling in a sense
more of a ......
ummm........
forgot the word
but whatever, who cares about your boyfriends friends mom, you are not dating her son, you are dating your boyfriend
2007-02-12 17:09:37 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋