Lately i'm having a lot of problems controlling my emotions, i get short with a lot of people and its starting to take a toll on the ones i love... i need help. I've been really stressed lately cause my dad is overbearing, and i'm on the college search and about to move out and i think that might have something to do with it... Ive been trying to deal with it but the more i bottle it up the worse it gets... i need any advice i can get....
And before anyone asks no its not PMS.
Thanks
2007-02-12 16:21:54 · 9 answers · asked by siberian_tigress88 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sometimes when a person sees the light at the end of the tunnel (moving out) he/she feels a little freer to start being more demonstrative about any anger.
You shouldn't imagine your anger as some big cloud that you have to "bottle up". You should imagine it as a small fire that you have to smother until it dies down.
As soon as you start giving anger a little "air" it starts to get bigger, the way a fire would.
Tell yourself that no matter what it is, it isn't worth getting all upset or upsetting others over.
2007-02-12 16:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I thing most anger is misplaced. Most anger stems from a hurt we feel, yours perhaps your father. This hurt can overflow onto others as anger. The negative part of our brain will convince us that anger is a protection against indignities we are sure to encounter. Realize that this inappropriate emotion can not be reasonably solved. It's in the wrong spot, and allowed to grow it will take control of our thoughts, our appetites, our sleep, our happiness. We must monitor our perceptions or they run wild.
2007-02-18 10:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by lawolifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. These LINKS are meant to help you understand and control anger.
http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html
http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/conditions/mental_health/coping_angermanagement1.shtml
http://hcd2.bupa.co.uk/fact_sheets/html/managing_anger.html
2007-02-18 10:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can, take a day off from EVERYTHING. Stay home and just watch tv or read or whatever you do to relax. That usually helps me whenever I feel overwhelmed and I start catching up on everything the next day with a new wind.
2007-02-13 00:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek the advice of a professional counselor. No one here can help with these issues beyond reading and sympathizing. Anything else you read in terms of advice are to be taken with a grain of salt because no one is in your shoes to truly know a good answer.
2007-02-13 00:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by ducksquat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can, please apologize to your people. Be straight with Dad and try to let him know that you value his opinions but that you are going to have to rely on yourself. They will understand. Moving away from home is frightening, but it has to be done. Take care of things that you are worried about, one at a time. If your family and friends agree, then plan to have them call and write and visit. You do the same.
2007-02-13 00:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are so close to moving out now you feel that you don't have to put up with anything. I went through that! It's just that you already feel free.
2007-02-17 10:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by mexlavanderlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger is beautiful,but beautiful things can go ugly if you reject or condemn them.what you accept it will be heaven and what you reject it will be a hell.Tranform your anger ,dont try to control it.Anger is a form of energy.
2007-02-13 00:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by Roy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Freedom is on the way just hold on. Maybe some counseling would help.
2007-02-18 09:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by SANDI P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋