Teen - Bad Romeo and Juliet?

Question

She's only 15. We've moved her into a new school, talked to his parents and made sure she is on birth control. She continues to try to see him against our wishes. (we have good reason to not allow him near her. ) He threatens her, says she "needs to have his baby" and has broken into our home and stolen from us. His mom actually smoked pot with them - which she admits. Law enforcement seems unable to help. We're doing counseling and have an active family life, but she seems unable and unwilling to break things off with him. She thinks they are going to marry someday and getting pregnant would force that issue. So scared for her!

Answer 1

get her away from him. and put some sense into her. they are never going to marry and he just wants sex

Answer 2

Get that mother arrested, get a restraining order, and get a permit for a gun and keep one under your pillow. It sounds extreme and like I'm exaggerating, but if a guy tried to sneak in to my home and steal my jewelry and valuables AND f***ed my daughter or tried to, I'd love to shoot the f***er in the head. Then if the guy is tied up and in jail or dead, as long as he's far away, have a nice, long talk with the daughter. I'm hoping she's smart enough to let reality sink in. It may take a while, but what needs to be done is the pot problem.

You see with pot (I learned this in Botany =D), when they smoke the plant, it sends signals to the neurotransmitters which emits a "high," a momentary joyous feeling. However the second time, the signals are weaker yet to invoke the same high, the consumer smokes even MORE pot, thus the foundation of an addiction to drugs. Well, when she's over the pot, she'll realize she only truly dated him for the drugs, because I think "I NEED TO SEE HIM" is really code for "I NEED SOME OF THAT SWEET HIIIGH" and that sex just follows along.

That's what I think at least, going by the details you've given. If it still doesn't work, taking things to the utmost extreme, point a gun to her head and tell her that you will shoot her if she doesn't quit the pot, the sex, and stay the hell away from him whom only wishes to invoke dangerous things that are a threat to her health.

...To hell with all that, JUST GET A PERMIT, A GUN, AND SHOOT HIM!!! POLICE AREN'T DOING MUCH RIGHT? JUST SHOOT THE F***ER!!! AND THE MOM! THEY'RE TOO HIGH TO NOTICE ANYWAYS!!! ... AND STEAL BACK YOUR STUFF!

My friend says: send her to the Maury Show.

Yes we know this is serious, but we're serious too!! Or at least I am!

Answer 3

why don't you transfer her to another country? i may be 18, but if im placed to a situation like that? and if i love my boyfriend very much,, i'd probably do the same thing.. but you as a mom or a caring person,, you should understand,, teenagers in our generation often want to have what they want,, there's no stopping them., might as well let her go out with this guy (who has a mother who smokes pot) but tell her not to abuse it or might as well let her go,, dont do anything about her,, that's her life and somewhere down the road, i hope she'll realize that life isnt a game,, its serious stuff.. and most of all.. PRAY FOR HER..

Answer 4

move her into a school in a different district or city, immediately!!! also, take her off birth control. it's sounds awful, i know, but if you tell her that you will kick her out of the house if she gets pregnant and don't allow her to use birth control, the sex will most likely stop. you can at least get the mom arrested for giving pot to her teenaged son, i think.

Answer 5

U must try to put some sense into her. She will definitely mess up her life and she may not be able to face the consequences of her action. If possible and also practical, try to shift to another city far away.

Answer 6

whats the question?