Coming to terms with the way I look, my height, my eyes, my hair, etc.?

Question

I'm unhappy with almost every aspect of my body:

My height (5'9.5")
My eyes (Hazel)
Hair (receding)
pale skin that I have to go and risk cancer tanning it
receding gumline
I do like straight teeth tho

How do you come to terms with it?

I've considered plastic surgery in the future...but can they completely re-shape my face to look like a male models? And what kind of skin treatment can I get to make my skin look all ONE shade.....and under-eye treatment to get rid of dark circles?

lol no it's not just gums, I have a pretty good smile since i had braces (perfect teeth) but my gum line is going up

Answer 1

1. be happy with your height. At 6'2", I can't shop in regular clothing stores, or sit comfortably in regular cars... or in roller coasters... 5'9" - 5'10" is not short at all. But you wanna know something else? The short guys (in the 5'5" range) seem to do better with the women, because they don't come off as such a big physical threat. Women are comforted by them, and warm right up.

2. Hazel eyes are good. Basically, green and blue are colors women love. Brown is the hard one to pull off.

3. Hair - do what you want with it, but when it's gone, it's gone. Don't do a Donald Trump (combover) or a Tony Bennett (toupee). People can tell, and it looks cheesy. Bald is better than either of these. Bald is actually a fashion statement.

4. Pale skin is better for you, and is attractive to some women. Don't risk your health on the tanning bed.

5. Gums - go to a dentist. I don't know much about that.

You're not that bad off, dude. Just make sure you are taking care of yourself, keep your hair and nails clean and cut, wear nice clothes, use a tiny tiny amount of a nice cologne... shower every day... the chicks will come around.

Answer 2

First, I cannot believe a lecturer would have an activity like that in class. I suppose he felt no one would get upset because you are all adults? I probably would have walked out because I wouldn't have been able to deal with it. I do NOT want to know what other people think of me in that sense. I'm not sure what to tell you other than I doubt that class activity was truly unbiased. I have a feeling that if you were all naked, without fixed hair and the women did not have makeup and then you were all judged by complete strangers, the ratings would have been very different. I understand the focus was on facial features but people have a difficult time getting past all the other stuff. If someone has on the right makeup, they may look 10 times better automatically. The first impression is suddenly much better than with someone who may actually be better looking but doesn't do makeup well. It's a subconscious thing. I honestly don't believe it works if you've already had ANY kind of interaction with someone either. That 22 year old guy most likely said that because his feelings were hurt. I believe he said that purposely to upset you. In the past, I've had men on the street ask me out on dates and when I've turned them down, they've called me names like FAT. That has happened even at times when I was actually underweight for my height. Men will just say things they think will make you angry when you don't give them what they want. You said yourself, you're not the kind of girl who dresses up. That makes me think a lot of people are judging your looks based on things like that. My face looks the same most of the time when I leave my house (I always wear the same amount of makeup). People always compliment me on days when my clothes and hairstyle are a certain way. They will say I look 'pretty' or 'beautiful' but I know I've done nothing different to my face. It seems to all be based on everything surrounding it.

Answer 3

First of all, you sound fine just the way you are. In fact, you sound like you have a lot more going for you than most men. And why on earth would you want to change to look like a male model? Will that solve your problem? I don't think so. I think you need to seek counseling because there is some reason that you are completely unhappy with your appearance. You need to find out what it is or you will feel this way about yourself no matter what you do to change the way you look. Good Luck

Answer 4

Brother, I hear you. I see myself differently than I actually look. Plastic surgery can restructure your face and there are laser treatments that can fix skin discoloration. If you would be happier to try these things, then do so. Men, except for those in the entertainment field, don't use makeup like women do. (Young girls use makeup, when there is no real reason to do so.)
No one is happy with the way they look. There is always something that they would change.
As we age, there are more "somethings."
I don't look in the mirror unless I have to and I try to project who I am and hope that people see more than my appearance. A year from now, I won't look this good. But, I'll still be here and I'll still be me. I wish you well.

Answer 5

So basically you have no gums and its teeth. I don't care what people look like its the personality that makes you interesting. You need to learn to love yourself and be comfortable with it. Because once you have had plastic surgery you will never be satisfied. You'll always find other things wrong with you and you would've wasted your money trying to be "perfect." I would just go to the dentist and have my teeth fixed. I like nice smiles. Receding hair comes with age so people will understand that.

Answer 6

So sad. The thing is we are not this body, IE race, color, nationality, religion, job, mind, senses, intellect, etc. We are eternal spirit souls, part and parcel of the Supreme Soul, Also known as Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, Vishnu, etc. We have to reconnect with our maker and He removes the veils of illusion so we can see our true identity. The quickest and easiest way is to chant the Maha Mantra (the great mantra for deliverance from all suffering and illusion. This world is called Maya (illusion) it is temporary and full of misery, Only one fourth of the souls come here. If we want to stop the cycle of repeated birth, death, old age and disease and stop taking these bodies life after life, which are an embarrassment then, we have to come to reality. Forget about this mundane body,(Lump of flesh, blood, stool, bones, pus, mucus, bile etc.) If you want to be truly happy you have to come to the spiritual platform beyond this bag. Go to harekrishnatemple.c Read Bhagavad Gita as it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhpada Tells the purpose of human life and how to get off the bodily platform and be truly happy.

Answer 7

I think its a maturity thing. At some point the desire to enjoy life is more important than your cowlick.

Answer 8

well if you are unhappy then do but don't do it for someone else and by the way you can't get taller