What would you do with these life choices...?

Question

Hypothetical

Imagine a man in his late thirties.
He is living in a foreign country doing a job he doesn't particularly like. He misses his home country but deeply loves the woman he's with in his new country.

He has a choice between

A: Marry the woman he loves and continue living in HER country, raise a family, grin and bear his job and home sickness.

B: Say goodbye to his soulmate and return home to try to start his life again from scratch. Job prospects fair but probability of ever getting HAPPILY married basically zero.

What would you do in this dilemma?
I know a lot of people will suggest alternatives but what if there were none.
A simple choice between A and B !

Answer 1

this about you , your personal dream, and your wish

i dont know but for me ill take letter B, its much risky and could totally turn out to be the wrong option, but its about me and the chances i want to take ,if ever the woman in letter A was even myy soulmate then i need not even think about leaving.

Answer 2

This is a tough one, all right. As for option A, I married a man in another country and moved to his country. It's been 8 years and I have never got over being homesick. The longer I'm here, the more I wish I was back home.

As for option B, there's no way to really predict that you would not ever be happily married. Alot of people think that they can never find true love again, but that's not true. Lots of people found it again after losing their spouse in death or from divorce.

Is there any way you could convince her to move to your country? If not, then you'll have to decide if you can live with being away from your own country, family, friends, etc. Possibly you could compromise with her and live in one country a year, then the other the next year or something.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

I would go for A. home sickness is a strange thing - it can be very intense and heartbreaking. Yet the longer one is away from home, the mre appealing "home" will be, and the less likely it is that one could take up where one left off in one's homealnd. The "home" would have moved on without him. He would be left forever with this romanticised memory of what "home"was - only the good bits would stand out, there would be nothing negative.
Marry the woman he loves - great chance of immediate happiness; who knows what will happen in the future? It may become possible to go" home" every two years. My son-in-law is from Pakistan; he still misses home after almost 20 years. He tries to compromise by going "home" every two to three years. He never stops missing it, but is practical enough to accept he has become very weternised and would not fit in any more if he moved back.

Answer 4

Choice A may satisfy you for a moment but what happens you can't grin and bear it any longer?
Choice B sounds good but leave out the part about never being happy. Think positive start your WORK life over and send for your soulmate when all is as it should be.

Answer 5

B. You never know what will happen. I though I would never meet anybody again, was with the love of my life etc. When we split up I assumed would either be single forever or get back with him at some point. I also had the extra complication of being pregnant with his child. However, took me 3-4 years to get over him but I am now, and completely happy with somebody else who isn't bothered in the slightest that he is daddy to somebody elses child. I happen to think there a few perfect people out there for everybody, and some fit your circumstances better than others.

Answer 6

i would take A

there really is no job that would make me happy

i do not define happiness as waking up in the morning to go to some place so that some guy called the boss can yell at me, and then on top of it when i get my paycheck some other guy called the government already takes his cut out of my check before i get it

i do not like most jobs, but the woman of my dreams being at home for me when i come home from work makes all the difference

so A i go to work that i hate and come home to the woman i love
or B i go to work that i hate and come home to an empty house and no woman

i'll take A, simple

Answer 7

Plenty of alternatives but given just those two choices I would have to go with A. Job could be changed, Her country over time would become your second home , friends would be made so loneliness would be solved but without Her he would feel totaly bereft. You would have great excuses for long holidays back in your country . And children would have dual nationality, and possibly two languages, Good head start for them.

Answer 8

Use the Ben Franklin approach. draw line down middle of page label first column A, 2nd column B
List pro or con in the A or B column What are the positives that could come out of question A,? list under A, what are the negatives list under B
What are the positives that could come out of question B ?what are the negatives?
total each column and look look at the highest number. Could this be your answer?

I hope this helps, thats a tough situation
Good Luck

Answer 9

This is SO hard to answer. I myself am deeply attached to England and would find it very difficult to live and raise a family elsewhere, but i suppose i just might if i had met the man of my dreams in another country.

You've asked us to plump for A or B and i'm such a scaredy cat i would probably choose B, but its probably the wrong decision. Be bold and choose A!

Good luck!

Answer 10

Yeah it is all up to you what is your preference in life home sickness everything is common I can say this because I am also a foreigner it will be there initially but what matters is what you want to achieve in your life you can achieve every thing in life bit if you are not happy everything you achieved goes down the drain
Its all about how much you can sacrifice to achieve something how much bad you require something in life.Its your life you have to make the decision but If I were you I would have gone for A

Answer 11

B for definate, horrid choice to make, however you know for def you do miss home and hav fair prospects there. you dont know for def that on returning home you wud really miss this woman or hav 0 chance of getting happliy married to another, because you may just be bessotted with her now because you are away from home. Also if she loves you as much as you claim to love her she would come with you