please advice me "those who are 30 years old and above"?

Question

i'm single. i feel so tired and bored of my life. for the past years i helped my family now i finished sending my brods and sis in school. to ease my boredom i joined different clubs and organizations but i still feel the same. i feel as if i'm only wasting my time in this world. although i know it is bad to feel like this..
please help me.

Answer 1

I know that everyone has a purpose for their life...and I think that it is probably time for you to discover yours and your happiness...

I am in the same place as you...I have been giving and giving...and now that that has run out...I am looking for some real fulfillment in my life...and after diligently seeking God about it...I have discovered my passion...

That is all it is...you need to find that passion...that purpose...and it will reignite your spirit...

That will help to validate you as an important person in life....

Just pray about it...

I am sure it is time out for finding things that have been labeled to work on the soul....

It is time to find you...part of being over 30

Answer 2

I'm 41 and have four daughters. I wouldn't mind a little boredom now and then.
Honestly though, it sounds like you have a gift for giving and caring. Two of the most important qualities in a human. If the clubs and organizations you've tried aren't fulfilling you, try starting one of your own with caring and giving as the cornerstone. When enough like-minded folk get together, find a cause to champion.
Other than that, find someone, start a family. You'll be amazed at how that will change your perspective.

Answer 3

What i did when i started feeling this way is go see a psychiatrist and he gave me some tests, asked questions, and then determined i have severe depression. He gave me a prescription to help with the depression. It works, but not as well as i'd like it to. I decided i needed to do more, and began working out on a daily basis, lifting weights, jogging, and such. I've been doing this now for 3 years since i retired from the military, and i feel really good about life and for being over 50 I'm in better physical condition than people half my age.

Answer 4

You should feel tired and bored. Look at what you have done. I applaud you.
You made a good start on dealing with the boredom, but I think you should go see a doctor. Tell him/her what you are feeling. I think you might be depressed. It happens to millions of people. Just don't give up the clubs or organizations. That will help too.

Answer 5

You are focussed on your boredom factor so you cannot possibly enjoy any other life. Stop thinking about yourself and your need to be stimulated and get out there and contribute to this life. If nothing else, learn to plant something and make it grow to beauty. I have never known boredom because I love to explore ideas, beauty, human motivations, etc. I also spend my life helping others and in return I get more than I expect. I never consider my needs but just get up and love everything I do, including eating a terrific breakfast or lunch or dinner or snack. I also spend a lot of time alone by choice because I don't have enough time in a day to explore all there is. Good luck.

Answer 6

make a quick change to your avatar name. "hate" is a very powerful word. Im 43 and have to start a new career. i could feel the depression coming on- sometimes a sneaky, slithering little bit at a time, sometimes like a tidal wave.
your mind can change itself if you tell it too and allow it to. little by little if you keep telling yourself that I'm in this for me, I am a decent person, I will not feel bad anymore--things will change.
I wish I had the resources to help my family bc I have some sisters in some real big jams right now. You should be commended for helping out yours.
I feel the same way about wasting time, but I really do. It sounds like you have taken a proactive approach so keep it up.

Answer 7

If those clubs and organizations aren't doing it for you then try dating and meeting new people, just because you go out for coffee or to the club doesn't mean that you have to size the other person up for marriage. But the first thing you need to do is to stop focusing on boredom, try something new everyday, whether its joining a gym, the scenic route home, drive to a neighboring state and stay the weekend in a bed and breakfast immerse yourself as a tourist, but whatever you do stop playing it over and over in your mind that woe is me crap.

Answer 8

I have found myself there many times. Definitely, depression is very real and a physical issue within itself. My advice is to talk to your Dr. But more importantly, happiness/fulfillment's is something a person must choose. With or without medication, you must practice a routine of mind control. When feeling empty: JUST GET UP AND MOVE. Try out your local gym or find a safe and peaceful park to relax or walk in. Although being involved in a healthy loving relationship is wonderful: IT WILL NOT MAKE YOU FIND PEACE AND HAPPINESS. ONE MUST FIND THAT FROM WITHIN. and finally, what truly changed my life was an intimate relationship with Christ. The strength I pulled from his undying love helped me see what TRULY was important in this life. finding a place of worship takes time. Be diligent and seek wherever you feel most at home and inspired. Good Luck

Answer 9

Life is a very precious gift that you were given by God. Make the most of it. Follow your dream and go after what will make you happy. You sound a bit depressed so pull yourself together, take a trip if you can. Get into some fitness, that usually makes you feel good and be proud you helped your family and now it is time for you to find happiness and you will

Answer 10

I think I kind of understand your question and your pain.

I'm 36 now. At 31, I lost both of my parents, just a couple of months apart from one another. I'd spent a LOT of time caring for them; my mom had been sick since I was about 12, and for a variety of reasons I was an active 'caregiver' from about age 6.

I remember my grandmother telling me she'd had to put much of her life on hold and make deicisons based on her family, too - when she graduated high school second in her class and was offered the unusual opportunity (back then) to go to college, she had to turn it down because her father said she must work at a job and pay for her brother and sister to finish high school - just to have the opportunity she'd had.

Like you, I spent time in clubs and organizations (in my case, volunteer work and a film buff group).

Well, let me tell you --- it's time to SHIFT focus and do things for YOU. If you've gotten to a point you don't have to slave over worry for others, start thinking about a job and a life YOU want. Need to go to school? It's NOT too late. Need to find new people to socialize with, new men and women to meet to laugh and cry and sing and dance? The world's out there. Time to join it.

There's a cynical and sad saying "Laugh and the world laughs with you. Cry, and cry alone." Well, it's somewhat true. People care and are willing to listen. But waking up to smell the roses mean we gotta have faith ... to find a rose garden.

Start looking at books or Web sites to help figure out more about things YOU like. You can really find rewarding stuff to see, think, feel, and do; it's NOT too late!

A year and a half ago, I was tired an frsutrated 'cause I held onto a job I didn't like for a LONG time, but since then --- I've changed what I do (I get to enjoy people now, and helping them), I've gone back to school, and I've realized I can have 'me time' in life. It's OK to make a life YOU find worth living. And when you're happier, it's easier for what happiness you have to help you find new/different ways to help your family and friends.

Hang in there, and look around! The possibilities are there. :)

Answer 11

why don't you go back to school? you'd be so busy studying the topics that you are sure to know that you love by your age that you will not be so down and out.

you remind me of how a person i knew had been before he blew his brains out, hurting me, hurting everyone that ever knew him.

what happens when you start to slide into depression (you feel that you are wasting your time here) is that you lose interest, and worse, that you cannot see that tomorrow will be a whole new opportunity.

tomorrow will be different, i guarantee it. it may be worse than today; it may be better, but it will be different. it will be in your control, too, because you can change your attitude. instead of feeling dejected and that you waste your time here, start to look closely at everything that lives. notice how utterly different each is from the other. appreciate that. look at how unique YOU are. appreciate yourself.

if you continue to feel so alone, so sad, so without direction, get therapy. when we are inside of any mental/psychological problematic condition, it is like we are inside of the swirling winds of a hurricane. we just cannot see that there are solutions to feeling this way. your counselor stands in the eye of that hurricane, detached from your life. that way, it is so very surprising, they blurt out a suggestion, and there you go: you say to yourself, 'gee, that is so darned simple! how come i never thought of it?' the reason you never saw it is because the high winds of your personal hurricane blind you.

mostly, i want to impart to you that life changes, it changes all the time. at my age, i live each day as though it is my last, since in not too long, it will be. i am not wasting my life at all: i enjoy living tremendously. sure, i do not get everything i want, but i really, really appreciate that i was given life. and that all sorts of other living things were given life, and that i can see, smell, hear, taste, and touch them. try going to a conservatory or a zoo. start to appreciate YOURSELF.

i bid you peace and tranquility.