My husbands X-wife?

Question

what should I do about my husbands x-wife? she has done nothing but caused trouble for us for over 15 years.He has two childern with her but they are grown now. She has been married 5 times and every time her marrage falls apart she takes it out on us.This is my first marrage and my husbands second.they were divorced for 2 years before I even met him.we even tried leaving the state,we were gone for 4 years but came back because we wanted to be with our familys. what should we do? HELP!

Answer 1

Stay away from her, have nothing to do with her , the kids are grown....

Answer 2

You don't say what, exactly, she is doing to cause you trouble. You can screen your phone calls and never speak to her. Get an unlisted phone number. If she shows up at your house, tell her she's not welcome and that she'll have to leave or you'll call the police--and DO it. If she is threatening you, call the police and get a restraining order or order of protection against her. If, after 15 years she is still creating trouble for you--even after you were gone for 4 years--why are you putting up with this? And how did she regain contact with you after you were gone for 4 years? Are her children aiding and abetting her in this? You need to assert yourself, even if it means getting an attorney to take legal action against her. You've obviously been too soft on this woman if this has been going on for 15 years and she's been married 5 times and nobody else seems to be targeted but you. Why?

Answer 3

Ok darling-I will help you. The kids are all grown-so here is is what you do.
She calls you on the phone-you do not listen to her or let her get a word in edge wise
You "Oh honey (name each child they have together) are not here! Then you name your husband and say ____ and I were just getting into something and then you hang up an do not pick the phone back up (none of them) The kids are grown and he is your husband and if he can not tell her where to go then you do not allow her to mess your world.
Now if she tries to use the "grown" children against you, you be sure to stay polite with them and act like you do not know what she is talking about.
If she gets them involved and they allow her to do so then you do not allow that sickness to affect your world because a counselor may be the only one who will be able to help them.
Believe me when I say to you, I would not lose an hour of sleep over some sick ex-wife who is purposely trying to mess my world.
If your husband wants to deal with her then you tell him to deal out of your presence.
I feel sorry for you darling and yo should have checked that chick years ago-I dare her mange tale to mess your world like that! You must really be a kind person.
People take it for weakness,but you be strong and get her straight today!

Answer 4

I had the same problem with an ex-wife, we were divorced for 17 years, she's been a pain ever since. I finally today fixed this problem once and for all, and obtained a restraining order from the courts and had it served on her this afternoon.

If she so much as contacts me or a family member by phone, email, regular mail, personal face to face, or comes within 500 feet of any of my family members, or asks one of her friends to contact me or my family she will go to jail for 1 year.

It's time for you and your husband to sit down open a phone book and call an attorney and get a restraining order against this woman that has some teeth too it. First time she violates it she's in jail.

Answer 5

I don't get why she is so involved in your life. You didn't say what the specific problems were or why she's around so much.

Cut that to a drip.

You sound a bit frantic. Try to calm down, and remember, no one can trouble your life that much unless you let them.

People treat you the way you let them.

Yeah, there are some doozy nutcases out there, but try to ignore, ignore, ignore.
Ask yourself, whatever she's doing -will this matter months from now? What's the worst that can happen?

Pick your battles, and ignore as much of her and about her as possible. Pity her; she must be miserable and is trying to drag you down.

My ex and his Pitbull, I mean wife, did that to me...for a while.

The best advice I ever got was to remember - when they pass that hook.....don't bite.
They would insult me and spread horrible rumors, wrote letters to my work, told my son lies, etc.
Much of that was hard to deal with, but now that he's older, they can say whatever they want. They love to fight.
What makes them the maddest?
Ignoring them.
They want to fight.
They cannot fight if they have no one to fight with. They have to move on to the next sucker.

Try to ignore her, don't play into her drama,
DON"T defend yourself or explain yourself.

Good luck to you!

Answer 6

Why would you let any thing she do bother U. She is letting him know how lucky he is to have U. Is there any other women out there that would like to have some one remind their husband he made the right chose being with them? Let their husband know how lucky they was to marry them and not be with their X. Every thing has a good and a bad look to the good.

Answer 7

THIS TYPE OF CHILDISHNESS HAS NO ANSWER. sOMEONE WHO CAN HONESTLY SIT AND BLAME FAILED MARRIAGES AND A SAD SAD LIFE ON ANOTHER COUPLE THAT IS APPARENTLY HAPPY AND DOING QUITE WELL HAS NO SENSE WHAT SO EVER. tHE BEST THING YOU COULD DO IS TRY TO ESTABLISH A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH HER OR JUST LET HER DO WHAT SHE DOES UNTIL SHE GROWS UP AND BECOMES A REAL WOMAN. OBVIOUSLY SHE IS QUITE MESSED UP TO SCARE OFF 6 HUSBANDS, I FEEL BAD FOR THE KIDS BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH ITS NOT CLEARLY SEEN NOW THEY ARE AFFECTED DRASTICALLY BY WHAT THEY SEE AND ARE EXPOSED TO, ESPECIALLY FROM THEIR VERY OWN MOTHER. YOU BE STRONG AND JUST DON'T LET HER OUTSIDE DRAMA AND UNNESSECARY MESSINESS SCREW UP THE GOOD THING THAT YOU HAVE.

Answer 8

Its tuff I still keep in contact with my ex-wife. Unlike your hubby's she and I r on somewhat good terms but I am pretty sure her new hubby doesn't care for me, but he understands and can deal with me being in Their lives we actually have spoken and I made it clear i dont want her back. But that I still cared for her and wanted her to be happy. And that if he made her happy then I was happy. I to remarried unfortunatly it didnt work out. But my ex#2 kept in contact with her ex also. So I have been and am still in both postions. It's hard to forget or stop loving someone and even though you r no longer with them you care. Exspeacially if you parted on somewhat good terms. The thing is your husband has to deal with his ex. he cares for her still I'm sure of it and she cares for him . She is obviously trying to replace him but none of these others can compare in her eyes she attempts to dillude herself and enters into relationships she is not ready for in order to put a curtain over her real feelings for your hubby. So when these doomed relationships crumble she blames it on him and you because you make him happy. She can't let it go and it infuriates her that he is happy when she is so miserable. Thing is she is at war with herself on the one hand she wants him happy but his being happy means her being miserable and her being happy means him being miserable. Your hubby has to stop her war before any of you can have peace, wether with a restraining order or by confronting the issues she still has over their break up. Either way there is nothing you an do personally other than love him and encourage him . Good Luck

Answer 9

if he wont shelter you, then you would desire to settle for which you're no longer as important to him as you think of. My husband has a loopy x like that. I had to call the law enforcement officers some situations on her besides. She even tried to run me over together with her automobile as quickly as! It feels like his x prospers on contreversy and nevertheless attempting to regulate his existence. that would by no ability exchange. think of long and complicated on no remember in case you prefer to stay like that.

Answer 10

It sounds cold but you volunteered for this. You can't change her, you don't have that power. Either accept that this is your life is like or change it.