I have a friend I've known since 5th grade, 21 now, and we have grown into very different people. We have exchanged some words and she has said some things that have offended and hurt me. I don't think it was her intention to do so, but we are very different from each other now. We have been emailing back and forth for a couple months now, trying to communicate with each other, pretty much fighting over the internet. I don't know if I should try to fix things with her or just let everything go. We have known each other for a very long time and I don't know where to take it now. I have known her for years and we have been pretty close, but also had times when we didn't see each other much.
2007-02-12 15:16:44 · 15 answers · asked by jbvo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think you should probally end it for now and if you are meant to be friends still you wil end up being together late rdown the track.
i am going through the same thing at teh moment so i know how you feel.
2007-02-12 15:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it sounds like you're both over it, but just enjoy having the last word over the internet. If you think she's worth keeping then maybe agree to disagree and let it go. If not, then just say that you're both different people now and have different life paths, so wish her well and you might see her around. Then just ignore the emails. Ever heard of the saying "With friends like that, who needs enemies?" She doesn't sound like a true friend, more like a person that you've known for a long time and have grown apart from.
2007-02-12 15:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it seems like you need to save the friendship, but you need to be realistic. You were friends in grade-school. You are now two completely different people. It is time to move on. This doesn't mean you are a bad person, just that you are an adult now. It happens to a lot of people. It is very rare that a friendship that begins at a young age will last into adulthood. Only in those rare cases when both friends have a common bond. It is time to go your seperate ways.
2007-02-12 15:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by iluvstrawberryshakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW is right, all friends do drift apart - sometimes though one or both people make an effort to refill the gap. Only you can really decide what's best. What is your definition of a friend? Does she qualify as one based on that definition? Best thing to do is talk to her and just let her know what you're thinking. If she can't help you find a solution and/or if she's not willing to fix things - well then, it's your call.
2007-02-12 15:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should end the friendship.what happened is you have just grown apart.It happens,to husbands and wife's,boyfriends and girlfriends and people who have known each other since 5th grade.If you don't ease yourself away from this person it will only get worse, you will keep fighting over the internet and saying things to hurt each other until you wind up almost hating each other.you don't need to hurt her feelings, just slowly back off on the communication.
2007-02-12 15:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by tinamia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let things cool off for awhile but don't lose her number. If you have been friends for so long you should be able to except each others differences and understand that if we were all the same life would be boring. If we liked all the same things their wouldn't be enough for everyone. Time will heal your friendship. But it also depends on what your arguing about.
2007-02-12 15:22:37 · answer #6 · answered by Christina H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All "friends" drift apart with the exception of one or two. You just acknowledge that you are headed in different directions and if you can't learn from each other, the communication gets le3ss and less. Normal. Don't make a big deal about it.
2007-02-12 15:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see friends r very precious so dont end ur friendship inspite of tat try to make it more deep or more strong and even tell her tat u dont wanna lose such a gud or precious friend coz u both are friends from a long time soooooooo dont worry everythin will be fine but even after this she doesnt change then break ur friendship coz theres no need 4 such a friend who doesnt understands ur importance in her/his life.
do ur best and god will do the rest so jus chill
2007-02-12 15:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Aasma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this kind of occurred to me and my lady chum. i become acquaintances inclusive of her for a lengthy time period and she informed me she cherished me, yet I already had a female friend. So she were given disenchanted and she continually prevented me or called purely to call me a ding dong or a stupid ******. i become harm because she become so mad at me when I did not do ****. She ultimately were given over it and stated she become sorry or perhaps if. i began subsequently far her about 2 months after me and the different lady broke up. i love being in a relationship inclusive of her, yet i wish if all would not pass nicely, she will be able to no longer call and say i'm a ding dong. I say purely be cool, p.c.. up the phone dude.
2016-11-27 19:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something you have in common. If there is really nothin' left than try to do something she likes like maybe catch onto her newest fave TV show.
2007-02-12 17:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by Matthew, innocent vampire monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋