What do you think about a 14 yr old and a mid 30 yr old going out?

Question

lets see what most people would say on this subject.
and the 14 yr old is in the relationship by choice.
i dont know anyone in this situation.
i know this is illegal. im 16.

Answer 1

It's not illegal everywhere. In some places, even in the US, it's the custom. The problem is that a 30 year old going with a 14 year old generally isn't any more mature than the 14 year old. So if a baby results (assuming they're opposite sex--if not, no problem), someone is going to run out on the deal, probably. Also, the older person is likely to have social needs and demands that the younger person is nowhere near ready for. And each is going to have an outlook on life the other can't relate to. Just not a good idea for either one. They should stick to their own age groups. Not that it doesn't sometimes work out. It's just that the odds are against it.

Answer 2

Well I understand the 14-year old being smitten, after all, I've seen students drool over teachers before. But if you mean a real situation, well the majority of the fault lies on the mid 30's-year old. Clearly the older one would know what is right and what is wrong and that is CLEEAAARLY wrong, even a pedophile would admit what they are/were doing is/was wrong. The 14 and 30 year old together.. is like you and a baby going out

I simply think it is wrong, disturbing, and sick.

Answer 3

my sister ran off with a 39 year old man when she was jsut 17.he was on dialysis,so was never a well man.They headed interstate wehn she was pregnant and no family knew,they jsut left.He died and left her pregnant and with a car and caravan that his family claimed. My father never forgave her really even though he "allowed" her to come home. she is happily married with a second child now, but at the time it was very traumatic for her.Because "everyone" was so against the relationship,she did not feel she was allwoed to grieve.his name was not mentioned etc.
I feel in this case the man was irriesponsible and hould have had the sense to not get involved with someone so young.He was the adult,he would ahve set the tone of the relationshipa nd been in control.To my mind my sister should never have had to go through this terrible time. her son is grown now and lovely, but she should never have been put in those circumstances at that age,by soemone old enogh to know better.
so in a nutshell I think it is wrong,even if the 14 year old is a mature,sexually active girl,she is still a girl and he is an adult who calls the shots and the shot in this case should be a parting shot"see ya later!!!"

Answer 4

You're exactly right; it's illegal. There is so much more you too will know when you are 30 than that of a 14 year old... If you ar 14, or 16 or even 20 for that matter and you are dating a 30 year old, you are being used and mis-used.

Talk to someone you trust- like a teacher or counselor. Read the information provided in the link.

Answer 5

eww..lol

thats just wrong. why the hell wouldnt the 30 year old even want to be with a little girl????????
If any one is in that situation i hope that guy gets arrested.
I dont get it people say age is just a number but not really theres this thing call maturity and self respect. I was talking to this girl yesterday whos 14 and pregnant with a 28 year olds baby, they have been in a relationship for a few months and her mother has no idea.

Answer 6

I don't care if it's consensual or not, the maturity level is vastly different. Any man who would go out with a girl that young has serious issues and is a pedophile. My husband is 6 years older than me, but I was of a legal age when we started dating. That difference alone was difficult but I was a very mature girl who raised herself (mom's an alcoholic). Anyways, the 14 year old doesn't even need to be dating in the first place, life is more than just having sex, children and eventually getting married (that's the order people tend to do it nowdays, I waited). At 14 your goals should be for what you want to do with your life and working towards achieving those, dating a man more than twice your age shouldn't be part of that goal. If he was really interested in her for more than the obvious, he would wait until she was of the legal age to persue her. Additionally a girl should tend to look for a gentleman near her own age to date. I'm worried about my husband being too close to 30 when we start having kids, by the time this hypothetical relationship would come to fruition unless he plans on going to jail (consensual doesn't matter when it comes to statutory rape he'll still go to jail) he would be nearly 40 already. Plus it would only open the door for when they have children for them to do the same thing. Also him being a pedophile and all would open the door for the children of said relationship to be abused. All in All its a can of worms that shouldn't be messed with.

Answer 7

This is improper. The 30 year old needs psychological help. No person of that age should have an interest in a 14 year old. They should have nothing in common as far as daily life. Such that the 14 year old is just beginning to learn about life and the 30 year old should be established in theirs.

Answer 8

This is considered child molestation. The 30 year old, man or woman, is a pedophile. It's sick. Please, tell your parents or a school counselor. Just tell someone about it. What if your friend got pregnant? Then what? Her life would be ruined. She is still a child and is not mature enough to carry on a romantic relationship with a 30 year old adult. Wether she or he is in the relationship by choice, is irrevelant. It doesn't matter. It's against the law.

Answer 9

Even if the fourteen year old is in the relationship by choice, statutorily speaking, it's against the law. If the two people felt so strongly that they were meant to be together, then the thirty something year old should wait until the fourteen year old is no longer a minor. If they really love each other, it shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 10

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