So, im in middle school and - how should i say this - im not exactly popular. I have friends, but out of that group almost noone knows me. I am a straight A student, trying to be nice to everyone but noone pays attention to me. i'm kinda poor so i cant afford grerat clothes and perfume, my parents don't let me make-up and i dont have a boyfriend. Got any tips for me? I need more friends! And im willing to do anything about it!
2007-02-12 14:40:31 · 5 answers · asked by __ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ya and i really want to have a boyfriend. The problem is - im tall, and really peaky when it comes to guys. Need help with that too
2007-02-12 14:43:19 · update #1
You're still growing up, and hopefully you'll learn early that popularity isn't going to give you happiness. Not in middle school, not in high school. The "popular" kids I go to school with end up being the most obnoxious, annoying girls who sleep around all the time. What is popular, anyway? The cheerleaders? The jocks? The pretty people...or just the people everyone decides to talk and gossip about?
Continue showing kindness, but most importantly be genuine. Nobody likes a fake person because most of the time people can see right through you. Don't force yourself to be someone you're not - that's a sure way to people disliking you.
Be yourself. I know that's cliche, but when you're yourself, people will be drawn to the real you. I'm not saying wait for people to come up to you all the time, but make some efforts to get to know people. If they're worth your time, they'll make the effort to get to know you.
As for looks...again, you're still young so you probably don't need much makeup at this time. Try asking your parents if you can at least have basics - clear mascara and a little lip gloss. Or just buy makeup that is subtle so you can slip out of the house still looking natural but a little more polished!
Ahh...honey, you have all the time in the world to get a boyfriend. Trust me on this. Don't rush it. Don't go looking for a boyfriend - when it happens, it happens and you won't even realized that it's happened. Any relationship that is contrived is almost doomed for disaster.
You also must understand not everyone is going to like you. When you accept this, you will find out who your true friends are. By being yourself, though not everyone may not like you, people will learn to respect you because you're not acting like someone you're not. Impressing people should be the last thing on your mind. Being cool is such a tiring proccess...you have to live up to everyone's expectations and worry that you don't "slip up." Don't care what people think! It's hard, but you'll be a lot happier do whatever you want to do!
Good luck! Remember, popularity isn't the world. Stay true to yourself!
PS: Don't believe in the "get a makeover and your life will change" crap. Personality wins over all.
2007-02-12 14:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by i love love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be a little more outgoing. if you overhear a conversation about something you're interested in, jump in! *bam!* you've got a common interest. as a disclaimer, don't be pushy; that annoys people. for the guy thing: you don't need make up or perfume to attract the right guys. just a sparkling personality and some intelligence, which you seem to have plenty of.
I moved to where i live now a year ago and had your same situation. I've had straight a's since i moved, and don't wear make up. this year, i've had 2 boyfriends, plenty of guys who like me, 2 best friends and a posse!
good luck!
2007-02-12 14:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by marajader2d2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am tall, too. That does not stop boys liking you. Dont change yourself because of what other people like. I know you know about peer preasure, and thats what your givning into if you choose to do that. So be yourself. It may not be working now, but I promise it will, soon!! Good Luck!
2007-02-12 15:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont put on a false impression be yourself and about the guys get to know them by saying hi in the halls whatever his friends may be skeptical but stick with it and then say you like him!
2007-02-12 14:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by krissyadams_26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter to be popular. u should be who u want to be. u will get a loy of friends. trust me. it doesnt really matter if u have a lot of friends. just be who u are.
2007-02-12 14:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by i luv peace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋