does a 13-year girl have any right not to see her dad,?

Question

13-year girl doesnt not want to see her dad, who just got out of prison, but he is forcing her into seeing him, he has weekend visitation before prison, he is behind 13,000 in child support, she doesnt want to see him. any thoughts

in iowa, and he is playing this contempt of court papers for not being allowed to see his daughter

he's been in and out of her life for 10 yrs and she has had enough

could my wife, her mom get arrested when he probably brings the sherrif's office into this with the contempt of court papers?

Answer 1

Ultimately, at this point, it is REALLY the 13 year old's decision not to see her biological father if she so desires not to. Whether he is current or not in his child support payments if the child does not want to see him, then she should NEVER be forced into seeing him - period - end of story.

She will end up hating him even more than she does already.

Maybe, when the both of them grow up, she may come to an understanding abount her father and try to have some sort of a relationship, but until then, she needs her space from him.

Answer 2

Ya know I'm gonna come at ya from a different standpoint. 2 things here: 1) Maybe the "dad" is trying to make it up to his daughter for not being there for her all those years. Prison does change some people, he is her NATURAL father after all. If he is trying so hard, maybe he should get some time with her. Kids nowadays are so spoiled into thinking they know what is BEST for themselves, not always the truth. 2) This girl can learn from having to spend time with him...she can either learn that he really does love her and he has changed and maybe she will be better because she let him into her life (girls NEED their 'daddys) I went through the same thing with my daughter and her dad. OR she will learn he is really a jerk and then she will know what she doesn't want in a man for a husband and a father. Either way it will "teach her something" Life experience. What is he in jail for anywayz? Child molestation????? By all means the courts should agree not to let him near her. Back child support? He cant pay in jail anywaz, give him a chance. She is only a child and her mother needs to step up and take charge for the betterment of her childs future. My daughter who chose not to see her dad when she was 12 (and I allowed her to make this choice...ugh) (he owed 86K + bk chldsuppt - he was a drunk and beat me in front of my children ) then she started sleeping around at 15 and has 2 kids different dads and still sleeping around!! She just turnd 20. Looking for 'love' she never got from her dad. Been to Shrinksoutcome... If I had made her 'tolerate' his visitations, she may have taken a more responsible mature course in life and learned to deal with things instead of running from them.

Answer 3

You have to check with your lawyer about anything you do since there is a court order for visitation. Being behind on "child support" doesn't have anything to do with visitation rights. As far as your daughter being made to see him....you may have to pick her up and physically put her into his car. I was told that by my lawyer and I went bonkers. I just told my daughter she had to be ready at the time of visitation and if she didn't get into the car then we would deal with that in the courts if necessary. I would not create more trauma by forcing her to go anywhere with her mom. Good Luck.

Answer 4

This is so wrong how can a child be forced to see a man she doesnt want to see even if it is her father, that has to be some form of child abuse withing itself and laws need to be changed. I grew up in foster care and was always forced to go see my dad for weekends but at 14 I told them all where they could shove that idea and he took the childrens services to court, the best thing was the judge took me to his chambers and asked ME what I wanted and that is what he would go with.......So now I am 36 and wouldnt even know where my father is. Trust me go with the childs instincts and you will be doing the right thing.

Answer 5

first if he was on jail how he can work to pay child support? if he earn any money inside jail the curt easily can take a max of deduction from this money to her daughter.
second you mus be more concern about the money than the real fact of a man who did a mistake in the past and want to make it up
third why you daughter hates so much her father, are you telling her bad things about her father an making her mind.
What if you are the person who is in jail, wouldn't you do what ever it takes to see your daughter if you love her, she may not feel the same about you but you are willing to deal with it and try at all cost to make your point that you love her.
I don't want to be rude with this commentaries but may help you understand why he is doing all this and for the best of your daugther hope think twice before denying him to see her daughter for the rest of his life. This does not sounds good from the human side of anyone.
If the case is different and he is on jail for abuse or child molesting than fight for having your daugther away from him,but if that is not the case wherever it is is love from father to daughter and this you will never be able to take away from him and probably from her too.

Answer 6

your mother could be brought before a magistrate or judge,for not obeying a court order.However,the circumstance was different when the court order was handed down.He can be labled a convict by his own doings .The same courts that gave him visitation sent him to prison.You say he is$13,000.00 in arrears.He either owes you or the courts those monies and by not paying his child support he is breaking the law and if he is on parole he is not allowed to break any laws.If he does he can be violated and sent back to prison for failure to provide for dependent children.You can back to court and ask the judge to issue a restraining order not allowing him to come near you or your daughter.The judge will probally ask you on what grounds let your daughter speak for herself,and you have grounds with the failure to pay child support.That is the way it would be done in the state I reside in.I don't know if it is the same in every state.It should be

Answer 7

If it's a court order, maybe you can be in contempt of court. But I would think that he'd need to get an attny to enforce it. Perhaps you need to view your decree. And also consult with an attny. Keep it all legit, so that it doesnt appear to be that you're manipulating your daughter.

Answer 8

Depends on the state, but many states leave it up to the child, and being 13, she should have a voice in court, and be allowed to make that choice, good luck,,

Answer 9

Sometimes as parents we have to put the feelings of our children before or own! If the child does not feel comfortable seeing her father' right now than I wouldn't push it!! I would also speak to her about and try to help her process her feelings!! The child may need to see a counselor and help her deal with the underline issue!!

Answer 10

Child support arrearages has nothing to do with visitation, thats a total separate issue and cant be used against him when it does come to visitation.

Has he beaten her? Has he molested her?

If he has been a good father then you should not hold stuff against him. He has every right to see his daughter and you should encourage it, not try to side with her. Be her parent, not her friend. Children has a very mixed perception on reality, past , present, future, and they strive for guidance, structure and discipline.

She needs to get to know her father again!