When do you think that Suicide hurts others the most?

Question

I really don't want to deal with life's crud anymore, but I think that it's really unfair to put my family and friends into as much pain as I am in over my death. I don't want to hurt them, and I've seen what a suicide does to that person's family. please help.

Answer 1

Life sucks today, tomorrow it just might glow be there to enjoy. Its the only life we have got and as you say you dont want to upset otheres and believe me it does up set family still here.

Answer 2

Help! Help yourself and help them. See that in the very compassion you show for them, you have reason to live.

I don't believe in 'life for the sake of living'; I believe we each need to find a valuable/valid personal reason for bieng/going on.

You, dear lady, have reason - right in the very heart of your message. If you didn't feel compassion for others and didn't stop short of selfishly taking the next steps - well, that could be sooo different. But instead, in the very essence of your soul, you show not only good sense but a wise and brave heart.

Life is often full of crud (oh I know it), and it seems too often necessary to feel that question: "Why bother?" But knowing in your heart that you have emotions to share with others - like compassion and warmth - are strong signs that an important 'life's purpose' is beating in your heart. I wouldn't dare suggest you 'live for someone else' as again, I don't believe in that. What I'm saying is - if you feel strong compassion, you're looking for a good reason AND you have one.

Tomorrow can't be so sad, so sorry if you look around and DECIDE on options to better improve your sense of having a positive direction and positive things to do. Can you re-think your life a little, work in things which are enjoyable and/or therapeutic? Maybe you'd enjoy working with people who need your compassion (think volunteer work at a hospital) or maybe you'd enjoy 'escaping' the crud by scheduling time doing something purely for you (going to a zoo, music, or comedian, or reading a book about something you love).

Please, realize this call to find more about your own purpose is an important - and exciting! - reason to be. There is no 'good time' to commit suicide, for yourself or for others; there IS a good time to reinvent the way you evaluate your life and how you can best live it. Start now!

Sent with love ... from someone who's been there.

Answer 3

Death is always hardest on the ones left behind, and that is even more so when the cause of death is suicide. A friend of mine is a police officer and frequently talks about the anguish of family and friends when a loved one commits suicide. A far, far better option is to at least try and get help before you put any more thought into this. Let your loved ones know how terrible you feel, and let them help you. Find a therapist. There are ways to improve things that won't destroy any lives. Please consider these options first, and I urge you to let at least one person that you really trust know that you're having thoughts like this. Everything is a little easier when you have help, and like you said, you don't want to hurt them.

Answer 4

Actually, suicide hurts you the most. Nothing in life is permanent. That is the nature of the material existence. Neither happiness nor sadness, neither good nor bad, can exist permanently. If you are happy, you will also be sad, but then sadness also comes to an end. Committing suicide is interruption of that natural flow. If your parents are enjoying happiness, your suicide immediately interrupts that happiness, as well as that of your friends, and other family members. We all endure times when we just don't want to go on with this life. Every living person is subject to misery on this earth, and so we reach out to others, gaining strength from the common knowledge that to endure is virtue not rewarded in this life, but the next.

Answer 5

My father committed suicide. To this day I wonder why he did not talk to me. I still feel hurt, mad, sad, bewildered, confused, abandoned. He had always said that was the way he wanted to go. He lived in another state. He sent me money, waited till I got it and suspected something was up. I called him in desperation but he did not answer. Then he did it. 2 days later the police were at my door with the news. I was waiting for something of that nature. But how do you prepare for that? It has been 10 years and I still have not reconciled myself to it. I am still working on it.

Answer 6

well death is hard no matter what. whether it be your mom, dad, or a dog you had all your life its just hard. their is no way u can commit sucide and not hurt ur family. i know ur family will go in2 details with their interactions with so will ur friends. trying 2 figure out if they were the reason u did it . or maybe was their way they could've stopped u. i should of hung out wit her day and maybe she still be here. dont give up on life when ur at rock bottom all u can do is rise. i think u should talk 2 some1 a friend,counselor, maybe a complete stranger but dont keep ur feelings bottled inside. go get help jus let some1 knoe ur hurting believe me theyll listen if u talk

Answer 7

suicide is basicly when one's pain surpasses one's ablilty to cope with the pain. I wont answer your question on when it hurts the most...but i can say it will hurt you the most. People here grieve, but they move on honey, and let go of pain to keep on with life. Not that they don't love you, but it's not about them, see because it's about you and stopping, taking a breath and saying to yourself, before I do something that is forever, let me take a moment to allow myself to try one thing new. Do you know how many people I know that have had the same feelings but today are able to say, "thank god I waited another day, that would have sucked..."

Answer 8

I guess when sm1 near and dear committs suicide what hurts the most is not knowing what caused the person to take such a drastic step and also cursing yourself for not realising that the person was so depressed and helping that person get over it.

Answer 9

I know how you feel, and I have been there. But I am going to tell you right now that if you stay alive for fear of hurting those you love, your situation will not become better. I want you to know that I take these things very seriously, and I want to help. If you need to talk to anyone at all for any reason, my AIM is djpoiboy.

Answer 10

I think it always hurts others... Friends and family will always think it's somehow their fault, that they should have notice you were not ok, that if only you would've asked them for help they could have stopped it... And I think that somehow, you owe them that: the change to at least try to help you... Think things over, try to get some help... chances are you'll get through it...