of crap. I found out by checking her cell phone log and finding that the number who is constantly text messaging her isn't her girlfriend as she told me it was. Instead, it has been her 28 year old male teacher. He has been telling her that he has liked her for a long time, that he has dreams about them being married with 2 kids, that he'll do anything it takes to have a future with her.....I could go on and on. It just makes me sick to think about it. He is married with 3 kids. I called the superintendent and I'm going to meet with him in the morning. Then I called the Sheriff's office and an officer is meeting me tomorrow after I leave the school.
My question is: If I approach the teacher tomorrow and tell him to pack his stuff and resign immediately or I'll press charges, do you think he'll do it? I mean as a teacher, he should be pretty scared and I'm banking on that because I don't evidence besides the log and my daughter's word, but he doesn't know that. Help!
2007-02-12 14:28:35 · 41 answers · asked by Someday Soon 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
UPDATE: He was at the meeting and I simply gave him a choice: leave quietly or I would press charges. So he resigned and was escorted to his truck. Now, I know everyone is probably thinking I'm wrong and that I could have stopped him from doing it again...BUT I don't want my daughter to be dragged through court because of some idiot with no judgement. Now that he is gone, I'm going to file a complaint with the state teaching board and because this is such a small area, I'll know if/where he is teaching next and I'll simply give them a call and give them a heads up. There are many ways to keep him from striking again other than making my daughter even more miserable. If there has been anything physical, I would have pressed charges. But because I caught it early, I feel this was the best way to handle it and get him out of her life. Thanks to everyone who answered!
2007-02-13 23:45:18 · update #1
The superintendant and police need to do an investigation.
You must bring in your documentation.
You MUST NOT! talk to the teacher.
You can press charges.
2007-02-12 14:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to the teacher. Talk to the superintendent and sheriff. Press charges or he will just end up getting fired and teaching somewhere else where this will happen again. If you press charges he won't be able to teach again but if he is fired there is always a chance he can get another teaching job and do this again to someone elses daughter. There was a similar situation here only it was with a principal and there was oral sex involved and it had went on for a good 2-3 yrs. before the parents found out. The principal has had to resign but it looks like he's just going to get a smack on the hand in court. Although that's because here it's all about who you know and how much influence you/they have over the system. It's absolutely disgusting to know what kind of things ppl get away with here.
2007-02-13 01:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not approach the teacher. By all means talk to the school superintendent and sheriff, show them the text messages, and encourage you daughter talk too.
My concern is that if you approach the teacher, he may deny his antics and blame your daughter, and if he is allowed to move on, with out charges brought against him, who's to say he wont try this crap on some other young teenager.
Your daughter is going need a fair bit of support through this if charges are bought against this teacher, as you will, so do seek support and counselling.
I wish you luck
2007-02-12 17:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by brat_baby_one 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it will be hard but dont even look at the teacher. You will be wanting him charged to the full extent of the law if you give him an out he will just move on and find another victim. Arrange councelling for your daughter, meet with the authorities and personally if you want a little revenge go see his wife and let her deal with him cause I am sure she will love the opportunity though she may not thank you for it, wouldnt hurt to take some evidence so she knows you are for real. POWER TO YOU
2007-02-12 14:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, the teacher has already molested children in the past as he is doing to your daughter now. Take all evidence to the police and superintendent and let them handle it. Do not approach or talk to the teacher in any way.
One more thing, supporting your daughter is the most precious and wise thing you can do. Also ask yourself how she got in this position and try never to let it happen again, even if it means changing your lifestyle. Good Luck
2007-02-12 18:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by pozitive thinking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a responsibility to the school system to press charges. For all you know, someone told him that before and he came to your daughters school! I think it is time that you at least attempt to press charges. Even if he gets a minor charge on his record, he will no longer be able to teach in the US, Canada and European countries (all of them do background checks and police record checks before allowing a teacher into the system). You are doing the right thing! Get that guy OUT of the school system for good!
2007-02-13 01:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably would...but if he quits and you don't press charges, he will be free to do something like this again to another innocent child. I don't think he deserves that kind of opportunity. Also, consider this. He may be inappropriately contacting other juvenile girls besides your daughter. Just because he resigns, doesn't necessarily mean he would stop contacting them.
Please follow through with notifying the sheriff's dept. In doing so, you may be helping more than just your daughter. Often times when individuals do something like this, there is more than one victim.
2007-02-12 18:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by Geno 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont press charges it will be somebody elses little girl or his own. Ten to one his wife has no idea. You need to save ever text message or anything your daughter has on him and make copies for the cops and the school. You need to talk to your daughter about why this is wrong. She may not understand. Guys like that are sick!
2007-02-12 19:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your family. And I imagine that you just want him to resign so your daughter doesn't have to go through a trial - chances are, with the documentation you have, she won't have too anyway, but ask the Sheriff. Don't let him walk away from this though, he is an educator; sworn to teach and protect our children and his behavior is disgusting. I feel bad for his wife and kids, too! Good luck to you all.
2007-02-13 08:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by The French Connection 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god! Why did you daughter give this teacher her cell phone number. I can't believe that this teacher would do those things when he has a family. Why risk your job!?!
I hope everything works out. I bet he is pretty scared. He could lose not only his job over this, but his wife and kids and all! What was he thinking!
I really hope that it didn't go any further than just the text messages!
Good luck!
2007-02-12 14:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by Brittany Davis 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not talk to the teacher. Don't even go near where he is.
Talk with the principal and the police. Present the text messages as proof of your case. Have your daughter ready to agree to testify if called to do so.
Then let the school and the police do what they have to do.
Even if you were to scare the teacher away, you would be letting him go to another county or state to continue doing this awful thing. He might even start stalking your daughter. No, do not threaten him in private, nor in public.
2007-02-12 14:36:48 · answer #11 · answered by InspectorBudget 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋