my son is 19 months i feel as if im struggling taking care of our son alone for the past 2 years, with his father being in the military and all . I feel as if i am being pulled in two different directions, i miss my husband, and trying to care for our son, not to metion i took up an extra shift a work so that i wouldn't sit at home and think about when my husband was coming home. Then i worry if im a good mother to my son what should i do? Please help......
2007-02-12 14:18:45 · 7 answers · asked by tray_trevon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Give yourself a break. You're in an unbelievably difficult situation, caring for a toddler on your own and working, while worrying about and missing your husband. If your baby is healthy and happy, clean and fed, and he knows that you love him, then you are doing fine and so is he. There are other moms in the same situation around you who are feeling the same way you are, and it really helps just to talk about it and know that you are not alone. Look for a mom's group or play group among the other military wives around you and give yourself permission to need some sympathy and understanding. God bless and keep your family.
2007-02-12 14:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the life you chose. You have it easy with a 19 mo. old. Try having a three year old. He'd drive you bonkers if he's already making you batty. There has to be some type of group you can join with women going through the same thing. I think working too much is not good for your son. If you don't have to work, then don't. Distract yourself from your husband with your son. Your son needs you and needs you to not distract yourself so you don't think about your husband. I wouldn't say you're a bad mother, I think you just need to get more focused on the importance here and recognize your priorities.
2007-02-12 14:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are acting like a very responsible "single" mom. For all intents and purposes that's exactly what you are for now. Unless you MUST work that extra shift because you NEED the $$$ then I think both you and your son would be better served spending that time together. Your son will only be this young once. Your husband can't be around to watch him grow a little each day. If you can, you owe it to all three of you to be there.
2007-02-12 14:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by gotmini02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all HATS OFF to you and you r Military Husband. Baby, you are not alone. There are other wives out there just like you. Get on line and try to find them. You all can help each other.
2007-02-12 14:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by Duchess20 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying, you are an awsome mom because you care so much, just be sure that the time you do get to spend with your son is quality time! Everything will be fine.
2007-02-12 14:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by twysty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a good mother for even worrying that your not, a bad mother wouldnt even care how her son feels, try talking to someone or join a bulletin board of other mothers that feel the same, here is a great one that i turned to when i was feeling down it helped me so much :) feel free to email me whenever you like , im amother of three and i know how it can be sometimes.
2007-02-12 14:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should have planed for this, some people get prego to young or without enough money. Its your own fault for not being prepared
2007-02-12 14:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋