I make friends easily and that haas always been a skill of mine. But whenever it comes to keeping them, I suck. I get attached to friends and once we get close I feel uncomfortable and uneasy. This is the same with guys, I dont like emotions and I think lovey dovey stuff is totally unnecessary. Can anyone help me get close to friends without freaking out?
2007-02-12 14:13:43 · 5 answers · asked by Emily C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Jump in and talk a chance.
You only lose if you don't take the chance.
2007-02-12 14:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it kinda sounds like there may be some sort of self-worth/esteem issue involved,buried/hidden emotions/feelings etc.no man/woman is an island,we need others in/around our life from time to time,even daily.a life w/out friends/lovers/family etc is a very lonely way to exist and exist is what it will become,eventually.true love/friends/family is an emotion that can be more precious than anything else to our heart,health and life itself,believe it or not!
2007-02-12 22:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by dicky d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the root of this fear of closeness might be related to your feeling that you dont deserve close friendships. once you believe you are loveable and deserve to be loved, you wont be so afraid to let people in and keep them there.
we all have patterns, maybe if you write about yours in a journal, you can work at seeing things for what they are and work on changing them. it works for me to write things out, it gives clarity on any situation.
2007-02-12 22:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by maggiemae821 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept them for who they are good and bad...try to look for good in that person always and you will find it. You feel uncomfortable most likely because you think they will abandon you? That things are to good to be true? Well, just avoid feeling that way, and you will be fine.
2007-02-12 22:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by ACTS 4:12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, learning comes in the form of a challenge. Your challenge is to realize that lovee dovee doesnt suck. i should know dove is my name. Ha
If tou want friends enjoy them you are capable of it. Good Question.
Ps. Enjoy overcoming your challenge.
2007-02-12 22:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by dove2surf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋