2007-02-12 14:07:17 · 23 answers · asked by txwife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
pray for him, ask God to change his heart to love you again....prayer opens the door for God to work in our lives.....Jesus loves you
2007-02-12 14:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH! Honey I do feel for you. Unfortunately you don't give us much to go on. Is he just unhappy with the way you are as his wife, your looks ,or has he fallen out of love with you and no longer want s the relationship?
Firstly I reckon you knew he hasn't been happy for awhile with little signs he's been displaying so it's no real shock. When he told you what was your Gut feeling,What to do when the misery passed.
That's what to go with short of castrating him off course he! he!
If it's No. 1
Then ask him what he deems "what a wife should be like "and see if you can be that. If not then talk it over and compromise.
If it's no. 2
Then if it's true you're no longer the thin trim woman he married and you've let yourself go. Then for your sake and self image change your eating ,exercise habits and become a terrific Woman on the outside as well as inside.
If it's No 3.
Then talk it over. (This Happend to me. We talked went out for a great meal and celebrated our 28yr.marriage and futures apart. This was a mutual agreement though. We're still great friends.) Seek what the underlying problem is, if anyone else is involved ,or he has an interest in another. Guys tend to get unhappy with wives, if another is in the wings ,or their image as a husband is not looking good with a disheveled wife. If he's unhappy with the Marriage then seek Councelling as a couple.
Do all you both can to save it, or atleast leave it after you've done everything, to understand why it didn't work. I believe relationships happen in our lives to help us sort through issues and the people are in our lives until they are no longer relevant. If you hang onto a marriage when it's over then it becomes Toxic. If it is time to go it's not a failure because, it helped you become stronger and become the person you are today.
Good Luck
2007-02-12 22:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read an article recently advising a couple in the same boat as you two, to "write out your own divorce papers....each of you write down a list why you'd like a divorce and then exchange notes". Then you review it, talk over everything and see what all you can mutually resolve together and work on changing things to make BOTH OF YOU HAPPIER AND SATISFIED. If he's feeling this way, you most likely have atleast a couple of issues about him that you'd probably like to see a change in, right?
Communication is the key to resolving anything. I wish you all the luck in success in which ever road you choose to take. I know it's difficult, but there IS light at the end of the tunnel. For your own sake, I'd choose therapy to deal w/it either way for your health.
2007-02-12 22:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get professional counseling now.
If he is no longer happy it does not mean that it is a fault of either of you. People change and if relationships don't change to reflect those changes the people move apart. Professional help will assist in deciding if the best way to move is back closer together or even further apart.
2007-02-12 22:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by John B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask if he wants to go to counseling. If he is having an affair. What he thinks the solution should be - and go from there. It would break my heart if my husband said that. I probably wouldn't take the time to ask questions. I would start packing. I couldn't stick around if there was no solution and always doubting if he was happy.
2007-02-12 22:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by lucki female 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel? What would make him happy with being with you? Are you willing to make provisions? If so, why? If not, why not?
You need to answer those questions honestly. Then decide what is more important to you, changing to make him happy if that will help, or saying that maybe you aren't the one to do that for him and move on.
2007-02-12 22:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by T W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to find out why??? Are there any kids?? If no kids and he is set on his thinking, then leave for a while an dif he still does not change his mind, then leave for yourself. I don't know how old you are, but you need to find happiness with or without him. Good Luck and God Bless,,,,,,
2007-02-12 22:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find out what it is he is not happy with and see if it is something you were doing and didn't realize it. Things like that can be fixed. If not, and he is just tired of being married, then there is nothing you can do.
2007-02-12 22:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him happy....you know what you're doing...Act how you did when you two first met, and why did you stop acting like that? Do you show him respect, appreciation, kindness, affection, support? Try a little of that and see what happens. I'd take sugar over vinegar...
2007-02-12 22:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why he says he is unhappy. Unfortunately a husband may pull that line when he has someone on the side.
2007-02-12 23:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by Tgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask why he's not happy with you. if need be see a marriage counselor... just remember you both have to want to make it work. if he's still unhappy let him go otherwise he will cause you more heartache. in the end however he may see that youre the one for him and then it will be your turn to decide if you want him(!)
2007-02-12 22:18:08 · answer #11 · answered by sonata 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋