I met this woman about 5 week's ago. I've developed deep feeling for her. The problem is I was honest and told her how I felt. She's explained to me she wants to keep seeing me. But, at a slower pace. She's scared, she believes I will hurt her. I've explain I will not. Her last boyfriend did leave her with know reason. And her feeling for me are not as strong as mine for her. I'm trying my best to give her space. My phone calls are about once or twice a day and we're seeing each other now only about once a week. I find it very hard not to see her more often. I wish for our relationship to last a life time. I feel, I must do as she ask and at her pace. This is very difficult for me what can I do?
2007-02-12 14:05:33 · 3 answers · asked by DAVID I 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Bascally all I can say is "Get a grip!"
you met her five weeks ago. so you think you have deep feelings for her. deep feelings develop over a long period of time not just a matter of a few weeks.
Back off and give her some space.
you sound creepily like you are obsessed with your own feelings.
Just because you feel it you think it is real.
feelings come and feelings go, focussing on a certain set of feelings is not healthy and is certainly not love or anything like it.
If she said she wants things slow then you are not doing as she has asked at all.... slow is not ringing once or twice every day..... slow is giving her some space and ringing only a once or twice a week at most and giving her the space and time to choose to ring you... you are not allowing her to develop feelings for you rather you are forcing your feelings on her... if she isn't ringing you then you need to let more time in between phone calls...
you are crowding her out.
2007-02-14 07:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well....it's really hard to trust people when you've been dumped on alot. I'll never trust anybody again as long as I live. Just give her some time and take it slow. If you bug her too much, she might just back off all together though. So, I don't know what else else to tell you. Good Luck!
2007-02-12 14:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by pollywollydoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
patience.
be yourself, don't try to be something else.. patience and allow her the time she'll need.
2007-02-12 14:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋