After much discussion, the wife gave me the green light to sow a few wild oats. As long as it is just for sex and not to start a relationship with another woman.
So, what would be the best way to sow oats? One night stands or brothels? Why?
I don't care if you critisise me, but please answer the question. Thanks
2007-02-12 13:53:48 · 51 answers · asked by Billy Bob D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And yes ladies, the wife can do the same if she wants. I told her to find herself a good c0ck to fulfill her fantasies.
2007-02-12 14:07:35 · update #1
Oh, the whole point of this is because I never got to sow wild oats to begin with. Yes I know I'm married so what. Does that mean that I will never be able to partake in the fun just because I chose to do the responsible thing for my wife many many years ago?
2007-02-12 14:10:56 · update #2
As long as what is good for the goose is good for the gander.
2007-02-12 13:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm not going to criticize you because I would genuinely like to know why would she do that? Really...I'm curious.
The answer to your question is no. If your wife is telling you it is ok then I don't see how it can be cheating. I will tell you this. Nothing good can come from something like this. You can't help who you fall in love with. What if some night you have this amazing connection with someone. Your wife is going to be devastated. I know she says it's ok as long as it is just sex. However, you don't have sex with someone that there is not some sort of attraction or chemistry with. Let's face it, that is how ALL relationships start out. With those two qualities. I do implore you to take a really deep look into this before acting on it. You can always move forward, but you can never take anything back. Good luck.
2007-02-12 14:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on what you think really. According to most people, cheating takes place when one partner goes outside the bond or "contract" which could include things like kisses and even hugs if they are done with deeper intentions. In the bible it says that "just the act of seeing a woman in a sinful manner constitutes as sin because it has already been committed in your mind and heart". Not exactly those words but something like that. The question is, DO YOU THINK it is cheating? If you say yes, well, then yes. If no, then, no. Some people believe in "spreading teh love". Does that make it right, no. Does it make it wrong, depends on your ideals.
If you decide to go through with it.... I'd say a brothel with a GOOD reputation and not one of the ones just "down the street". One nighters can be tricky. At least brothels, like in the one in vegas that has the TV show on HBO, those have medical tests done regularly and involve condoms no matter what.
2007-02-12 14:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by vail2073 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe its still cheating and I honestly believe that your spouse "gave you the green light" not because she wants you to sow your wild oats, but she wants to see if you will really do it. My advice to you is don't do it if you want to keep your marriage together. Would you still want her if she went out and got it on with someone else? I believe that once that line is crossed, things are changed forever. Otherwise, what is the point of being married? Just promise you will think it over before you actually go down that road... Good luck and I hope you find what you are looking for.
You should "partake in the fun" with your wife. If you can't make it fun anymore than you need some marriage counseling or just part ways. I see this whole thing driving you further apart, definitely not bringing you together.
2007-02-12 14:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by HSK's mama 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
And why can't the two of you sow your wild oats together? Does she want someone bigger, etc? Also, if the two of you are serious why not check out sex sites like adultfriendfinder.com ? Then the two of you couls meet another married couple and do this wild oat thing together? Perhaps she is testing you. If you both agree, then try the swinging lifestyle for a while. Good luck
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2016-12-04 02:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly the need to sow your oats should have been before you got married. Regardless of what your wife said, out of respect you shouldn't do that. Your marriage is suppose to be sacred and respected. Honestly it sounds more like you just want to sleep around.
2007-02-12 14:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by cewright20 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely be careful about STD's and pregnancy. There are clubs that have clean safe sex for swingers. There are websites, dating sites for married people, it is everywhere. I would stay away from both brothels and one night stands. The brothels could get you arrested and the one night stands could get you AIDS. I would think a local swingers group would be your best bet.
BTW my husband and I disagree on your question. He says it is NOT cheating if you have permission from your wife. However, I said if your wife gave you permission to knock off the local convenience store... would THAT be OK?
Either way.... just be smart and careful.
2007-02-12 14:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is more of an observation than an answer.I noticed your avatar has a snorkel mask on it.I think you should trade it for a football helmet just in case your wife changes her mind one night just before you open the door to come inside.I would really hate to hear that the police found a snorkel guy face down in a back ally somewhere.
2007-02-12 14:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are in an open marriage or I guess it could be kinda like swinging, will your wife be doing the same? Make sure it is what you both really want. There are ways to find others the internet is a wonderful tool!
Good luck, and in my mind if you are given the green light (and you are both sure) no it is not cheating.
2007-02-12 14:00:56 · answer #10 · answered by ~Just A Girl~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously no longer interested in the woman that you are with. Or are you swingers? Why does your wife feel comfortable giving you the green light? What is she up to? Can't the two of you figure out how to spice up your sex life without involving other people? Someone is going to get hurt and you know it. You've left out too much info. Why were the two of you even in this discussion?
2007-02-12 14:00:04 · answer #11 · answered by Sherilynn B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋