For years, I would hear about how husbands get the shaft on sex a lot, and so I concluded that women basically didn't like sex that much. Then I dated a girl who wanted it all the time and I was like "So women like sex?" My view kinda changed. Then I dated a girl who pushed sex on me the first month we dated and then went cold the next 7 months. I am now waiting for marriage but I am back to the being confused. I almost do not think I will enjoy my wedding night knowing that, though there will be a lot of sex that night, after that it is all downhill. I hate the idea of going to bed all the time and nudging her and being rejected. Is this just one thing about women that I won't understand cause I am a guy? Guys, how do you deal with this? Women, is it because us guys get old to you? Or is it that we stop caring so you do as well? Or do both people stop working on the relationship so of course the sexual part of relationship goes? Am I being paranoid? Is it that bad?
2007-02-12 13:51:34 · 15 answers · asked by lend322 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're putting alot of expectations on something that hasn't even happened yet. Most couples get to a point where things become comfortable and they are secure in the relationship where sex isn't an 'all the time' thing. I think sometimes couples stop at trying to make the relationship continue in all regards, but sometimes these things happen due to outside stresses. If you're in a relationship that was quite sexual and has slowed down, talk to your partner about what could be the problem. Maybe talking to a counselor can help if both partners are just feeling lost.
Don't be so paranoid!!
2007-02-12 13:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's that guys get old to us, it's that we both stop trying so hard to please each other. It gets to a point where it's "well, we should probably do it cause we haven't done it in a week or so". Then you just go, get it over with and do it again in a week. Well, there's that and the fact that stresses in life make it so that sex isn't quite as important as it once was. Kids need you, the bills need to be paid, the car needs gas, nobody vaccuumed when they were asked to.... marriage stuff. Oh, and women have been known to withhold sex as punishment for a guy not holding up his part of a bargain (that may mean you have to always remember to take out the garbage, or to make the bed, or you'll be in trouble!).
2007-02-12 14:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by meh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow, I had NO IDEA it was supposed to slow down! Heck, I've been married nearly 15 years now and if anything, it's gotten way better over the years. We still flirt and play footsie under the table and smile at each other and the kids have no idea how much we're looking forward to the next time we have the whole house to ourselves! If they only knew all the stuff that we do when they're gone or when they're down in the family room eating pizza and watching a DVD! For us, sex has just gotten hotter and hotter over the years.
2007-02-12 14:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not all downhill. It's definitely a lot of hills, though. Sometimes you're going uphill, it's great and frequent, and other times you're heading downhill, it's mediocre and infrequent. It depends on a lot of things... stress, hormones, lifestyle, and overall satisfaction in the relationship. Lack of attention to the relationship can cause problems in the bedroom, for women sex is very emotion-driven.
Not all men get rejected by their wives though... trust me.
2007-02-12 13:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is many things. Not just sex. Find things the two of you like to do together. THAT makes the marriage interesting.
Married for 30 years.
2007-02-12 14:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is vigorous execise, yeah? Women cook, clean, work, raise children. Sometimes they get tired. I havent been able to have sex with my husband for 7 years for medical reasons, Im medically celibate, bit of a ***** and we do miss it, but it hasnt changed our relationship and it shouldnt. There is so much more than sex to a relationship.
2007-02-12 14:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by minimouse68 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would take matters into my own hand.
Yea, you're a bit paranoid. You'll know when you find the right girl. It will just fit.
If you're having problems before marriage, the problem will only continue after.
2007-02-12 14:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being fortuitously married basically factors out to the emotional state experienced via the guy as he sees it. human beings could be fortuitously married yet be financially bothered. that's common right here interior the provinces interior the Philippines. human beings could be fortuitously married yet have no toddlers. human beings could be fortuitously married yet have not got their own domicile or automobile. So, in this guy's case, he could be fortuitously married to his spouse (the place just about all the flaws he choose/choose are performed) yet have have sexual issues individually.
2016-11-03 07:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by uday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it interesting,worry more about pleasing your partner than yourself and it doesn't slow down,barring illness or injury.Maybe one day I will need a little blue pill to help me out but it the end results that count not how you got there.
2007-02-12 13:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by mercury9501 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a guy or girl thing...it is by person. I (as a female) don't have that problem. So when all the guys at work are talking about how lame their wives are and they ask my husband all he says is...I don't have that problem.
2007-02-12 14:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by ~Just A Girl~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋