Im always getting hurt. From EVERYONE bestfriends, my own father, and now i cant seem to open up to anyone. Im terrified to. Am i the only one? Tell me your story. --Yes i AM interested.
2007-02-12 13:47:42 · 8 answers · asked by Rebecca R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, I do have a hard time opening up to people. The only difference between me and you is that I don't have a reason for being this way.
No one has hurt me by spreading something they shouldn't - and this is partially because nobody knows anything about me.
It really freaks me out that I can't express my feelings. Don't get me wrong - I really want to, I really do. But every time I try, I can't seem to find the exact words. And if by some obscure chance, I do find the words, I think people won't want to hear them.
It's really bad though because everything is just bottled up. I feel like a can of Pepsi that is just been shaken way too much. If I do open up, I will just explode. Another reason not to open up..
Did you like my story? It's quite depressing.
2007-02-12 13:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by Basiate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I have any amazing stories about being hurt or anything like that. But I do know that I've had problems opening up to people due to past mistakes that didn't necessarily hurt me but rather served as examples of what not to do again.
Once in 10th grade I think, one of my best friends was a guy. Well, that was about the time I became interested in guys, so I flirted with him for a while till he asked me out. We dated over the summer and into the beginning of 10th grade. I had told him most, if not all of my secrets and felt that I could trust him with anything. We went to Homecoming together where I made a move and told him I loved him and kissed him. He didn't say he loved me and he didn't kiss me back, but the whole way home he held my hand. A week later, I found out that he was a smoker and had been for almost all the time that I knew him. I know that doesn't mean I couldn't trust him to keep my secrets, but I began to doubt if he could take care of me if he couldn't even take care of himself.
Since then, I've had trouble letting myself depend on others. I'd been fighting for independence since that day three years ago until just about four months ago when I met my current boyfriend. Even now though, I don't really feel like I can rely heavily on him...
I think that's similar to what you're feeling... Kind of like is there anyone out there fighting for me instead of against me...
2007-02-12 13:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Abbey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not the only one. There are two books that really helped me during my time like this: The Sacred Romance, by John Eldridge; and Understanding People, by Larry Crabb.
2007-02-12 13:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by Emmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've just always been the type of person to keep my feelings to myself.. i guess my parents and other adults kinda made me feel stupid when i was little and tried to say something about my feelings... maybe thats why...
but there was this one guy... i dont know what it is about him but i felt like i could open up to him.. we got to be really good friends... tried going out but we both messed it up... but we are still the best of friends even through all the awkwardness of the couple crap... i feel like i can count on him when i need him... and he knows he can count on me.
maybe you just need to find someone like that before you can open up...
best of luck to you.
2007-02-12 13:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by runningballerina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is human to feel that way because i can not be open as well to people even if i have known them for a long time. I do not want them to judge me. I can open up to people easier when i have not meet them in person so that i do not see their reaction to what i have to be open about.
I understand your position because i still have it today...all you have to do is try to socialise more with different people.
2007-02-12 13:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lornaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to trust anyone specialy if your own father has done it. Your reaction is normal. I had the same thing happend, however I have two people in my life who have always been there, They helped me out by letting me talk with them bit by bit until I could trust them. Meeting new people was hard and still can be sometimes. I find it eaiser to be myself in a large croud, and just talk general talk until I feel people could be trusted it took three years with one of my friends for me to completly trust him. Now I know I can trust him with everything. It makes it eaiser to trust as you go along and watch people and trust them bit by bit, pretty soon you will be able to see the signs of people and tell with most who can be trusted. I still dont trust people completly
2007-02-12 13:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only to certain people,,,,,sometimes the chemistry just isnt there and i tend to behave differently ....i dont like to do it , but its something i cant seem to change, (unless iv had a few drinks)....But recently i have tried thinking "care free" and it seems to help me just be myself around Everyone i encounter...
2007-02-12 13:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by Ratt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I don't I always tell them what's on my mind... and .....if they dont listen I tell my dog....
2007-02-12 13:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋