When agreeability turns into aloofness?
2007-02-12 13:43:57 · 12 answers · asked by LON 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
husband, wife
2007-02-12 15:56:21 · update #1
communication breakdown, its always the same
2007-02-12 13:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by Good Egg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I never really thought about it before until now but I agree with a couple of responses here.Think people distance themselves because they suspect change for the worse or maybe they are avoiding the reality of hurt and pain.When relationships start falling apart many times one or both partners detach themselves emotionally from the other.This way it makes it easier to leave without guilt or distress.This is actually the opposite of becoming "attached" in a relationship. "Detached" is the process of splitting the same relationship.
2007-02-12 14:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having done this myself before, I'd say that maybe the relationship was rushed and reality is setting in, and they don't feel safe in the relationship, but since they have bonded, they aren't assertive about stating their fears (hoping they are irrational) because they might become a self-fulfilling prophecy. It's a sort of dilemma, so they shut down. It's not healthy, and it doesn't really work. Been there, done that, not doing it again.
2007-02-12 14:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression was the first thought that came to my mind when I read your question.
This is winter, and the blah's are huge this time of year even if they don't seem to have depression other times. It is called "Seasonal Depression" and it is treatable. Ask whomever it is to go to the MD with you and be evaluated. Depression really is hard to deal with but love and patience is a phenomenal help.
2007-02-12 14:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boredom with each other, boredom with sex with each other, grown apart due to feeling snubbed, hurt, resentful, suffered too much, beyond caring, disinterested...
There's a little voice in their head saying "Yeh? What about me?"
How to Get Back On Track?
Now there's a question...
Make the 1st move! Swallow your pride. Forgive your partner. Hold his / her hand. Say you're sorry. Buy them a little gift to help you reconcile. Draw a line in the sand. Agree to start again, making it better.
Good luck!
2007-02-12 17:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Denial
2007-02-12 13:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by gretta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either they are unhappy in the situation or they are preparing themselves against getting hurt. They may be building a wall so that if something happens they are able to survive.
2007-02-12 13:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by meh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When they are tired of being hurt, betrayed, and taken advantage of.
2007-02-12 13:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I haven't seen my wife's particulars in months... I am really getting horny...
2007-02-12 13:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by Fred Phaggins 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
time for civil action
2007-02-12 13:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋