Okay. So in the past, I have experimented with girls. I think most girls have. But that was about 2 or 3 years ago. Here lately, I have found myself crushing on my 2 best friends. I dont know if Im weird or what. I told one of them how I felt just a minute ago. She didn't say that she liked me too. But she did say that she thinks that she's bisexual too. I really do like this girl. Im not meaning too either. I just can't help myself. I wouldnt want to think of myself as bi. But Im seriously starting to think that I am. Im scared and confused. Im scared of what people might think. What they might say. I like guys too, but lately guys havnt really interested me. Please reply to this. Give me your advice and stuff please. Thanks, Melanie.
2007-02-12 13:31:51 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think it would be easier on you if you found a guy. It doesn't matter if you are bi, if you are with a woman that makes you a lesbian (at least for the moment), and opens up a whole societal can of worms. If this girl doesn't like you back, I wouldn't dwell on that relationship.
2007-02-12 13:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by trueblue88 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Melanie take a breath. Okay, now what do you want? You can not live your life worrying about what everyone else thinks. If the people you are friends are true friends then nothing will make a difference to them and yes a few may become more. But if you are bisexual you will need the support of people who understand what and who you are. But take your time you have no reason to make your mind up in any hurry. Love will come to you when the time is right for now just enjoy being with your friends and things progress as they will DO NOT PRESS others.
2007-02-12 13:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by Dale D 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't you get confused and unnecessarily worried over all this process, which is natural. As human beings we've our likings and dislikings and being bi, gay/lesbian or straight comes automatically. Most of us are bis, even if some of us might not admit. And there is no harm in pursuing your liking, without any care what the people will think or say. But do keep it private unless you belong to.........
2007-02-12 13:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you're not weird; you're just discovering your sexuality. You probably are bisexual, and your sexuality just fluctuates a bit each day. Some days guys turn you on more, some days girls do. Don't worry about it; especially since you're a girl, people won't nag on you barely at all, and only the really, really conservative Christians, and then only the women (though the men are probably worse).
2007-02-12 14:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by guitarherofairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your friend is bi, but just isn't interested in you romantically.
if you seem more interested in women, then that's great. i'd encourage you to sign up for some biseuxal and lesbian websites and just read up about what others have to say. the entire curiousity phase gets people full of stress and anxiety and it helps to have people to talk with that have been thru the same feelings..
in the end, it's probably a good idea if you try dating a woman. just to see what it feels like. see if you are able to develop true feelings of romance and sexual attraction..
you may end up deciding that your attraction to your friends are just strong feelings of friendshhip-love. best friends can be very intimate in terms of telling secrets and sharing stories.. and this can often lead to confusion of love feelings.
as far as what others think, well, you don't have to tell everyone you are bi. i am bi and haven't told very many.. people only need to know if i actually end up in a serious relationship with a same sex partner..
you don't need to tell everyone if you date or experiment with girls.. only if you end up getting serious.
but yah, don't be afraid.. check out bisexual.com they have a great community forum..
take care, and good luck.
Jeff
2007-02-12 13:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you are bi-sexual. Figuring out you sexuality is not always an easy process. You seem to be going through the same thing that a lot of gay men and women do when they realize that they are gay--they are scared to tell people, their families and are worried about people judging them. I would suggest finding an on-line support group for people who are "coming out". If you truly are bisexual or gay, you will adjust in time. Good luck. It wont always be this confusing.
2007-02-12 13:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by blondeblacksheep0001 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's not unusual to go through a phase when you are young about being attracted to the same sex. I know I did when I was at college. Since it bothers you, my guess is that it isn't your orientation and you will outgrow it. When you meet the right guy, your interest will suddenly return, trust me!
2007-02-12 13:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by Jen Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just weird! LOL, Only kidding! I wouldn't fall for friends though, that is kinda creepy, huh? I've been on the other end of that situation and it spooked me pretty bad. Plus it could mess up your friendship. I don't know what you "are". But I don't think you should be in a rush to label yourself. That's silly. Just be yourself and don't worry so much!!!
2007-02-12 13:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by cuteness 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 01:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it. Do what makes you happy. and you need to explore other avenues. or you may not truely discover your core self. You may be bi, you may later come out as lesbian. or you may remain straight. It's all up to you, I think you and the girl should get together and make magic.
2007-02-12 15:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋