I workout at the same time daily, and there is this young guy trying to work out. He has REALLY bad form, he is going to hurt himself. I wanted to offer him some help, but I am one of those gay guys who you can tell is gay 30 yards away. I worry he will think I am hitting on him. (and no, I am not attracted to young skinny men). Should I approach him, or just ignore it, and let him mess up his shoulder? I wish that it was 'safer' to be nice to each other.
2007-02-12 13:31:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
I should have mentioned: This is a YMCA, so there is almost no staff around. And I;m not worried about my "personal safety"; I can handle myself. I just don't want to make him uncomfortable, yet I don't want to watch some 22 y/o give himself a lifelong rotator cuff problem. At the end of the day, I am not the kind of man who can sit there while someone gets injured.
2007-02-12 23:46:30 · update #1
If you want to help; help. Don't worry about what you may project. He may be totally clueless. Be true to your heart & offer to help him.
2007-02-12 14:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 01:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're working out in a gym, more than likely there are fitness instructors/trainers there on staff. Perhaps you could approach one of them and explain what you've noticed and your concern for the boy. Then one of them could just show the boy proper form the next time they see him there?
2007-02-12 13:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
offer him some help so your gay why should that be a problem first your a guy that is conserned about others i think thats great i like what you said /i wish that it was /safer/ to be nice to each other and it should be. who knows maybe you/ll make a new friend good luck
2007-02-12 13:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer your advice, but if he says no thank you just back off. Other wise give him advice so he doesn't hurt himself. Who cares if people think your gay, as long as you know you aren't.
2007-02-12 14:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by metalcow101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me theres nothing wrong with that. just cuz youre helpin a guy out and being nice to him doesnt necessarily mean you like him. It's out of concern and help for the guy. i say go for it. may find yourself a gym buddy. ultimately it'll be up to him to accept your help/advice or not
2007-02-12 13:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, advise him, say something like, ' I can help you - your gonna get an injury mate! I taught my partner how to do this'
be direct and straight, he should realise your just a bloke offering help, not trying to take him out to dinner!
2007-02-12 13:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell a trainer or a professional if you don't it wont work because differnet wieght and heights will affect the workout
2007-02-12 14:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by uneedhelp20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you'll mind. If it saves him $$$ from getting surgery he shouldn't care about you being gay and it shouldn't matter!!
2007-02-12 13:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't asked for help you should just let him be. Not because you're gay, but because you don't really know him and he hasn't indicated that he wants help.
2007-02-12 13:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋