Even if it was very very early in the relationship before he fell in madly in love O:]
Here's the deal. I've been with my girl for 2 years. I am a good boyfriend and I wouldn't cheat on my girlfriend ever (again). But very early in the relationship I did cheat one itty bitty time : - [
We had only been together for 4 months and I wasn't in love yet and I didn't know we would get this far together. I'm thinking about proposing to her really really soon but I have this weight on my chest. Should I tell her or not? I don't want to lose her. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me, total package-intelligent, beautiful, career oriented, nice, everything I could want in a woman. If I lose her I would be devastated but I think she has the right to know. What if this fling comes back to bite me? To tell or not to tell, that is the question
2007-02-12 13:14:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow. Well let me answer your question first. I would like to know if my boyfriend ever cheated on me. The answer would be hard hearing but I believe I have the right to know. Yes, you should tell her about this past appearance. I would expect the worst, and i would also expect the unbelievable. you have been with her for two years and that is along time. It happened in the past and she is going to want details. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years also, but I'm sure we have not come nowhere to this occurence, therefore I do not know or have any idea of how you are truly feeling, and she is going to take this. The best thing for you to do, my opinion, is to tell her. tell her EVERYTHING.... do not leave anything out. make it clear about your feelings and tell her you were ignorant, unfaithful and not implement about HER feelings at the time. yes I know people make mistakes and she is proably not expecting this bad news...but I think you should tell her. YOU as a person will feel better. No matter what happens to your relationship always be there for her, and let her know that. these things are devastating and crushing, a heart can only take so much babe. I hope this helped you, and I hope you understand when you find that someone special, noone can compare to him or her ( him on my behalf) temptation is a bi*** and it will be with you always. Yo have to be strong and courageous to fight it off. i hope te best, and pray that wellness and goodness comes along. God Bless. i hope this helped you out.
2007-02-12 13:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by old 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough call....so it's OK to cheat on a girlfriend if you don't really love her, but once it gets serious and you are in love it's no longer acceptable? Was the relationship understood to be exclusive by 4 months? At 4 months into the relationship, at that time, did you consider it cheating? How about this, what if you stay with this girl, but decide a little later that the love wasn't as sincere and deep as you thought, would it then be OK to cheat again?
2007-02-12 13:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her. If it ever comes out from anyone but you she will never forgive you. I'm not saying that she will be ok with what you did just because your being honest now. But you stand a better chance if you come clean right away. Be prepared for her to be angry and terribly hurt. And do whatever it takes to earn her trust back if she will give you the chance.
2007-02-12 13:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has got here approximately earlier. My ex boyfriend attached with considered one of my pals (she wasn't my maximum suitable chum via fact my maximum suitable chum isn't a grimy whore) yet we've been pals for like 4 years and he replace into my boyfriend of two years so I dumped him via fact he's lame besides and that i made definitely everyone quit being pals along with her.
2016-11-03 07:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by uday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way should you tell her. It would only help your feelings of guilt, and destroy her sense of self worth. Women think about sex very differently than we do.
2007-02-12 13:19:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were not a couple engaged going steady or promised to each other in any way,then no i don,t believe it was cheating.However i do think that you should tell her this before any committments...
2007-02-12 14:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by hancevh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly is the best policy,,,
but i think the past is in the past leave it there,,,
it will only hurt,,
and hell if i cheated on him i would n;t want him to find out,,,
2007-02-12 13:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by thanks to our brave troops, 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her.
2007-02-12 13:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by Brown-eyed girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋