we love each other,
2007-02-12 13:11:45 · 47 answers · asked by Rea M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
GOOD FOR BOTH OF YOU.
2007-02-15 21:08:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Are you truly in love or are you in love with the idea of this person? Are you in love with the feeling they give you, the butterflies, the way they excite you and make you feel wanted? If you are in love, you or the other person will eventually want more than just an affair. Do you see yourself being able to leave your present spouse and actually being happier with this other person? Have you thought about why you're looking to have an affair? What's missing in your life that you need more? Have you discussed this with your spouse? Have you tried to work on it? Do you want to?
Contrary to many of the answers people have given you, I don't think you're a bad person. I think you must be missing something in your life to be looking for an affair. The important thing for you to do is figure out just what is missing. If it's something you can or want to work on, do that, it will keep your life more stable and happier in the end. On the other hand, if your marriage is miserable, your needs aren't being met, even after heartfelt discussions, perhaps the marriage needs to end. I also think there are many people who can discreetly have affairs and that it actually improves their marriage. They are finally having all their needs met, and, as long as no one finds out, and your "love" for the other person doesn't complicate things, nobody gets hurt and you're all happy.
2007-02-12 13:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by meh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I needed to answer this question as I just found out my husband has met someone on-line. this is my second experience with some one cheating on me , the firs time was over 20 years ago and let me tell you I still have the scares. If you are both really in love , you should both leave your respective partners first, after all why should you show such disrespect for a love you both shared at one time. by the way if either one of you has kids, this will not go over well with them, no matter how you tried to explain it, you will always be a person that is dishonest, and that is the biggest price to pay . now are you willing to pay such a high price as loosing the respect of your children
2007-02-12 15:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by topside 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"DON'T have an affair!!! Make up with your spouses." A lot of people have told you that already and I agree. But how do you make up? That's a good question; it'll take a lot of work and commitment, but isn't that the backbone of marriage anyway? Here's what I'd do: get the book called "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman--and read it together with your spouse. My husband and I read before we were married and we're still very happily married.
Stay married and don't cheat. You'll be glad you did down the road.
2007-02-12 13:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by GodLovesYou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the path of life, you will come across many road side fires.
Many a times you will feel like having a fling, just to warm yourself by the road side fire & go on.
What we forget is that - this road side fire if kindled will end up burning the branches above our heads, the very shelter will be lost.
If you really want something out of this learn to make this as a sacrificial fire, an altar in a temple. With this you give respect & you'll find great strength within you to face life & what's more you have an eternal friend.
A passing fancy for you is also a passing fancy for someone else. Are you sure you want to be termed that??
2007-02-12 21:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by nagaraj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK OK now your both idiots.... lets get that straight. Your going to probably ruin both families and your children's lives. So your both ****. However if you do this dirty deed, never tell anyone.... NO ONE got it. That way once you realize that the p.... isn't greener on the other side of the fence, you can crawl back home and not ruin all those lives. This 30 seconds of sex is going to devastate your kids and spouses lives. Just beat off and call it a day, or have a little phone sex.... which you probably already have an now want to move on to the real thing, and stop being so selfish.
My advice..... tell NO ONE. Never type on Yahoo Answers again... NO ONE
2007-02-12 13:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by RE Broker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe ure even considering this... and i dare say, ure gonna regret this later if you go on ahead with it. How would you feel if ur spouse did the same thing to you? Or his wife had an affair with ur husband? This is so gonna turn into a mess. Not to be rude, but use your head girl, this is not love so dont let it blind you. And sorry to sound harsh, but i dont even think the guy really loves you. Your behaviour will not hurt only yourselves in the end, but also humiliate your family. What are your vows again? think logically.. especially what ur poor kids have to endure (if you have kids).
2007-02-12 13:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by Serendipity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love each other than you would both end your current relationship before you start your affair, then it wouldn't be an affair any more. How would you feel if this person you love now ended up having an affair with someone else? It will make your life soooo much better to just end your marriage before you start a relationship with someone else. I speak from experience.
2007-02-12 13:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by hey culligan man 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The real reason people get married is for the man to have his own wife and the wife will have his own husband.
Legally speaking, if the two of you go ahead with your plans and have affair then both of you will be charge with adultery. Physically speaking, the wife's body belongs to her husband and the man's body belong to his wife.
Spiritually speaking, God said 'DO NOT COMMIT ADULTERY'
Conscienciously speaking, where is your heart? will you be happy to trade your marriage with a short time affair to a stranger. What about your children or his children? IT IS NOT WORTH IT. People who plunge into illicit affairs ends up a wasted life, reap rivers of sorrow and a hall of shame and guilt, wreck marriages and resulted in tragic broken homes just because of poor choices. People get tempted but only if you allow yourself to go beyond the line. IS THERE ANY GOOD REASON DOING IT OTHER THAN for SEXUAL GRATIFICATION?
LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP BECAUSE WHAT YOU SOW YOU REAP.
2007-02-12 13:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through u r question i clearly came to a conclusion that u r going to gift u r body to some stranger in the name of LOVE. Love is not sex and u r love is purely a bullshit. It seems u need a **** other than u r hubby's. Just think abt u r kids (if u have) and think abt the affection ans confidence u r hubby had on u. Dont try to lose u r self for 3 minutes pleasure or else u will feel pain till u r death
2007-02-12 14:02:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so then i guess your ok with your spouse having an affair as well? save everyone the trouble and get a divorce, then have this "affair." u both must be very selfish to not think about the lives u are hurting by doing that.
2007-02-14 16:28:21 · answer #11 · answered by mayami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋