how do you overcome jealousy?

Answer 1

Okay.... sometimes this may be a very difficult thing to do.

Let me say that I love my wife. I love her dearly and we have been married for 27 years. The problem I have is that she is my second wife. I was married before and my first wife messed around with other men.

My first wife gave me a hurt that to this day I carry. I gave her my heart and she crushed it. And now, even though my first wife is dead (diabetes- been dead 3 years) I am jealous when my current wife says she is going to lunch with some people from here office (men and women). if my wife is on a business trip, she'll tell me after her meeting, some folks are going out for drinks. I know its innocent, and I have no reason to doubt her, but that old hurt returns and I'm jealous because although my wife is not looking, I know that men are always looking for a one night stand.

Okay, I'm insecure and yes I'm wrong. I admit that, but to answer your question knowing I'm wrong and that I have no reason to doubt my wife doesn't prevent me from getting jealous. I'm guilty. Its very difficult to overcome jealousy sometimes.

Answer 2

IT CAN BE REALLY HARD TO DO, BUT.............If you are talking about being jealous of other women with your man, that one is tricky! You just have to trust that he will never be unfaithful. Then talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel and be as honest as possible about your feelings. ( because trust me....if you hold it in and pretend to be somebody you're not, you can never really be your true self) Let him see that you really love him. Let him know your feelings of jealousy must come from a sense of insecurity and you don't want to control him, just have him to yourself. and I guess this would be pretty close to the same if you are jealous of a sibling or a co-worker. (except the part about wanting him to yourself) Juat that..... you want some respect. Try to be more confident in yourself. I know there are many reasons you could be jealous. I do not know your situation, but some people have the right to be jealous and should feel jealous.(if there spouse is spending time with another women) Best of luck!

Answer 3

Your own, or someone else's? If it's you who's feeling jealous, you need to figure out why you are insecure. Perhaps your mate is giving you reason to be jealous, in which case you might be better off with someone else. If it's your mate who's jealous, are you giving him a reason to be? Is this something new? If your mate is chronically jealous with no reason, that's a problem. It either means he is just distrustful, and will never change, or it means he is being paranoid because he's doing something wrong. Often, people who don't trust are the ones who are untrustworthy.

Answer 4

whose jealousy are you referring to? yours or someone else's?
assuming it's yours, i would suggest that you approach your
relationship in a manner of treating your partner the way you would wish to be treated. jealousy is an issue of maturity and emotional stability. some of us dont overcome it until we realize the damage it's doing to what can be a great thing, even later in life. you never will fan flames by smothering. other forms of jealousy , such as, job, peer, or friend related result in much the
same type of unhappy and poor relationships. try be positve in
your committment and you will have much to gain. what you
have to lose is your fear. i sincerely hope this helps.

Answer 5

Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. Work on your self esteem.

Answer 6

I don't think you can I think humans come equipped with jealousy.
We all get jealous from time to time it's part of the human condition. For instance I might be jealous of the car you drive and you may get jealous of my brand new plasma tv.