I woke up and found some (flowers) red tulips on the porch of my house. I figured they came from maybe my kids or some unknown person. and i got excited and my husband replied '' why would you think that those where for you your a married woman and the kids where playing with them yesturday'' (like they came from one of the kids friends house). i felt hurt cause he dosnt do cute things like that so i just thought you could help me figure out if i am wrong to get upset about this.
2007-02-12 13:06:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Very Ignorant! Does he treat you like this often? You definitely need to have a serious talk with him and perhaps should seek counselling. If my husband ever said such a thing, I'd hit him over the head with the flowers! Don't let him take you for granted, let him know he's lucky to have you. Remind him of all the special things you do for him, and although you are married, you can still enjoy flowers once in a while. You vowed to "forsake all others", not flowers! You deserve flowers once in a while, go buy yourself a bunch, maybe he'll take the hint.
2007-02-12 13:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely not wrong in thinking that the flowers may have been for you. You might be a married woman, but you have a husband and children, and any of them could've left the flowers for you. They could've even been from a girl friend, maybe thanking you for something nice you did. If I were you, I would put them in a vase where you can see them all day long and think to yourself:
"I DESERVE flowers, and they SHOULD be for me, even if they weren't left there purposely for me."
Does your husband know he hurt your feelings? If not, you should sit down and have a calm talk with him. Tell him you thought it was a cute way for him to leave flowers for you.
Good luck. Don't feel bad. I would've thought they were for me, too.
(And you SHOULD get flowers every so often from your husband and kids so you know how appreciated you are! Being a mother and a wife are very hard jobs. I hope your husband reads this.)
:o)
2007-02-12 21:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone did something really nice for you! and your husband knows it!!!!!! That why he reacted with ,what is a common reaction, anger . He didnt know what to say or do ,so he just stabbed at it in the wrong way. Sure he doesnt do it ,so it showed him up, because down inside he doesnt know how to do thoses things, but he knows he should, hence that anger. Maybe you could try to explain that this is the kind of thing that makes you feel special and happy, you know as married woman....the rest is up to him.
2007-02-12 21:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by Bought & paid for!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you knowingly married a man who was never the type to do something like that for you, then you should not be surprised or hurt. You married him knowing exactly who he was. Unless he was the kind of man who used to bring you flowers and say and do those things for you and it all of a sudden stopped you have no reason to be upset. Tell him if you need more, don't expect him to know.
2007-02-12 21:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by texaslady73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is a spontaneous jester your looking for,it has to be just that, Spontaneous!
Don't go to deep there.
Wouldn't you rather have one act of spontaneous love and passion, and thoughtfulness than a thousand obligations?
are you more sad at what he did"say in regards to the flowers" or is it what he doesn't do.or both?
I am getting mixed signals from you.It is ok to get up set, as long as you know why and direct it into a positive action.
don't worry let this one go...ok I am sure he was thinking why would some one do this to a married woman,that's all ok :)
2007-02-12 21:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by Mijoecha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he was wanting to know is, is there some guy that would be buying you flowers. Yea you should be so freaking upset that you get in yahoo and talk about it.
2007-02-12 21:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little upset sounds like he was saying your married and your life is over deal with it.. Send yourself some flower and then when you get them he will sh*t and maybe think differently..LMAO
2007-02-12 21:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you wrong? No. But ask yourself what will it change. Is being upset going to change anything? Who is it going to hurt or bother? Certainly not him by the sounds of things...I would just move on, pick a bigger fish to fry. And snub your nose at him. :P
2007-02-12 21:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by Disco Lady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby is pessimistic. What thismeans is that he doesn't think of the good out comes of an event. he looks at the bad. This is probably why he doesn't do things like that for you. He probably thinks that there is no reason to.
2007-02-12 21:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by tisdale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but your husband sounds like a complete fool, and a rude one at that. He has no right to be that inconsiderate. You should demand more from him, tell him to show he cares about you.
2007-02-12 21:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by ophierose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋