is this normal?

Question

is it normal that i'm still mad at my ex best friend for something she did 2 years ago? it really hurt me, so it is normal right?

Answer 1

I think it is unhealthy to stay angry so long. It is not healthy for you. If you can't forgive this person, that is your choice. I have had friends that I decided were not good for me (morally, ethically, negatively). I ended those unhealthy friendships. I had a best friend in high school that had sex with my boyfriend. I ditched her and the boyfriend. He tried to come back and she begged for my forgiveness. I couldn't forgive either of them and moved on and surrounded myself with people who were of honorable character. Don't waste your time questioning yourself. Regret is a waste of time. Move on, learn from mistakes, be proud of your accomplishments (of all sizes), and don't look back. That is my suggestion. Bright Blessings to you!

Answer 2

Well, I have heard of family member who have been mad at each other for years on end usually only getting together when another family member dies. It is possible that you and your friend will never fix things but who knows. The idea is either forgive the person or forget about the whole thing and continue with your life. This is assuming that you don't see the person at all. Once somebody crosses you its hard to forget. The question is why bother continue the rage. I think that if the problem never going to be resolve then just remember the person for the good times you had with them and don't see them anymore unless its really needed. For example, if you find the person on the street then give them a ride but leave it at that. Then again, this is assuming the person is not a psyco. I know a few people that I would avoid at all cost. I have other people that I won't mind talking to but I know that we will never be friends. Why carry all that weight with you.

Answer 3

Its perfectly normal, but that doesn't necessarily make it a good thing. If you feel the issue was never resolved, then just bring it up calmly some time so that you can resolve it. That is, don't make a big deal out of it if you bring it up, because it was, after all, two years ago. If the problem was resolved, but you still feel sore about it, then you just need to work at getting over it and drop it.

Answer 4

Yeah, it's very normal to be angry at someone that really hurt you, but eventually you have to forgive and forget, no matter what they did. There comes a time where you just have to move on and live your life. Try and forgive them inside, if you can, but if you can't, then try to forgot about what she did to you.

Answer 5

Yes. Some people let go easily and some don't. Apparently you don't.

If something really hurt you it can cause pain that lasts a long time.

It is healthier for you to try and heal and move on.

Answer 6

It CAN be, but it depends on what the dirty deed was. Be careful not to let your anger consume you, because that is easy to do. Think how bad or not so bad the deed really was, you might want to " let go" a little.

Answer 7

i don't think so she had to do something bad so u could be mad at her after to 2 years maybe u should talk to her and tell her why? she did it and like that u could get closure and move on

Answer 8

Depends on how hurt you were.
Try to forget and forgive. Will make U feel better.

Answer 9

hey,
it's cool that you are still mad, I had my best bro burn me in high school, and I don't think I'll ever be able to forgive him. I don't know what she did, but if she got you once, she'll probably get you again.

Answer 10

i think that's it's normal cuz when she did whatever she did u probably didn't want to talk to her anymore and since u never got the chance cuz u avoided her, ur still mad.