Do you do think it is more easier said then done to move on after a relationship has ended? Any Ideas to move on quicker? Besides sex!
2007-02-12 12:45:09 · 17 answers · asked by Desiree 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People always say that finding someone else helps you get over the last person, but I've never found that to be true. It might help you forget and maybe feel better because you're not alone, but it usually seems to just end up complicating feelings even more. Best advice I would have is to keep yourself busy with something productive, like a hobby or work, etc....something for yourself. And remind yourself when you have doubts that you're doing the right thing; don't second guess choices that have already been made.
2007-02-12 12:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAY easier said than done and I don't like when people say things like "don't know why you just can't get over him or her". Time will do it but it may take a long time. It has been years since my ex and I still think about him more than I think I should. He was also a "first love" though so I think that makes it doubly hard to forget.
Take as much time as you need and don't let anyone rush you.
As for sex, that is not the answer and won't make you feel better in the long run.
2007-02-12 20:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by jenny s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Desiree, it hurts, doesn't it. I know the current wisdom is to keep busy and be around other people but I don't agree with that. Your well meaning friends will always be trying to cheer you up but what you really need is solitude. You need to grieve on your own terms and in your own time, just as if a love one has died. Try to get away for a week to a quiet retreat, like a mountain cabin or something similar. Have a few good cries, do some physical work like chopping wood. Soon you will come to realize and accept the fact that you've been hurt and that you can deal with it and get on with your life. Good Luck!
2007-02-12 20:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Trail Hiker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's easier said than done, but if u truely wanna get over him....be social and go places to meet new people. Trust me, I thought I was outta luck about a year ago and then I moved and started going places more and b4 u knew it.....I met tons of new guys that I deffinately have interest in and they feel the same. Don't give up with moving on, cause then it'll take longer like it did me. With me...Time brought it to me. But try to make things easier on u, so u won't waist time, ya know??? There's plently of guys out there, that i've learned!!! Hope I helped.
-Savannah*
2007-02-12 20:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although sex is okay when moving on, there are other ways. For example, going out on dates. You will have fun with the new gentleman in your life, and it will help you not to think about your ex as much. Turn a negative into a positive and use the extra time as an opportunity to do something wonderful such as helping people or going to the gym.
2007-02-12 20:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by Cas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its much easier said than done.
Try to occupy your time. A 2nd job is helpful. It gets you out, earns extra cash and you learn a new skill. Or a hobby, or writing, try writing your memories or a diary. Becoming a Big Sister is always a good idea.
2007-02-12 20:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a lot easier said than done. i say take this one moment at a time and one day at a time. when a relationship has ended then there is only time to help you get over it. maybe you can try volunteering to help take your mind off of it.
2007-02-12 20:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES IT EASIER SAID THAN DONE BUT THAT DON'T MEAN IT CAN'T BE DONE. JUST TAKE IT DAY BY DAY. THE MORE U THINK ABOUT THE PERSON THE HARDER IT IS TO FORGET ABOUT THE PERSON. MAYBE YOU HAVE UNFINISHED BUSINESS WITH THIS PERSON TRY TO DO AND SAY EVERYTHING YOU FEEL. GET IT OUT OF YOUR SYSTEM LET IT ALL OUT. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-12 20:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me! It is harder than anyone will tell you. Just tell yourself that a week from now, a month from now, six months from now, you will feel better. I promise. But, you have to keep up to your end of the deal and spend time making yourself happy! You owe it to yourself to delve back into your life and start new. I know it's hard, but it will pass and you will be stronger for it.
2007-02-12 20:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by blahblah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think getting a new person right away is a bad idea.
I think you should take some time to find out what happened & why it happened so that in your next relationship you'll know who and what you want.
2007-02-12 20:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋