my boyfriend really upset me recently,he was shouting and swearing at me and my friend,going crazy.In the whole 9 months we've been a couple.it's the first time he displayed anything else other than love and support.But he's said he's really sorry and cried too.And now he's been telling all our friends about it,and they have been telling me how sorry he is and how i should give him another chance.But i also have my best friend i feel is my soulmate.But i love my boyfriend,but i know my best friend loves me too,and i cant be without either.I have no idea what to do,and i drank so much the other night,i felt so depressed,i was sitting wanting to be sick to feel better but couldnt.So i made myself sick for the first time everand was considering it earlier.I've been crying for days and my boyfriend is begging me to forgive him.My best friend has been my rock,he's amazing.I feel like there's no escape,because ive asked advice off my mum,and others and noone knows the answer.
2007-02-12 12:44:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
it depends on the reason why your bf get mad and shouting at you.. if it only happen coz he was on trouble conditions, i think you could forgive him.. but if there no big reasons for his act... yeah i suggest better to leave him and get another guys.. coz i'm afraid his emotions is uncontrolled...
don't be too much stress.. you can try to consult it with your close friends, parents or other people about their opinions.. and you must dare to take decisions whether for good or for bad... good luck n take care..
2007-02-12 14:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No person has a right to verbally abuse another person, whether they are in a relationship or not. This situation is not your fault. I suggest you let yourself off the hook and take a step back. Take time to breathe. Nothing has to be decided this second, tomorrow or the next day. If your boyfriend loves you like he says you do he will give you some space and time to relax and think things out. As for you best friend, I don't think it is time to start a new romantic relationship if that is a possibility. Make sure to truly end it with your boyfriend (or ex-), give yourself some alone time and then think about a new relationship. Emotions make us run into situations we wish we hadn't after the fact.
p.s. Keep talking with your Mom or anyone who is not to close to the situation who will let you vent and will provide you support. If you are so stressed that your getting sick, see your Dr.
2007-02-12 14:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by Papillon Mystique 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is male, and obviously your boyfriend feels threatened. Is there anything that precipitated this event? Has your boyfriend always known how close you are with this friend? This is going to be difficult because you are just starting to build trust with your boyfriend. Platonic relationships between heterosexual diads are unusual - there is almost always some level of sexual tension between males and females, so when they are close, others don't understand. Perhaps your friend and boyfriend could get to know each other a bit better without you. Also, if your friend had a girlfriend, that would help. Short of that type of arrangement, I'm afraid that you will probably run into this problem over an over. Think about it this way - if your boyfriend had a female "soulmate" he spent a lot of time with and poured his heart out to, wouldn't you feel a bit uncomfortable?
2007-02-12 13:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by goblue_1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you wanting to tell me that you have been yelled at, humiliated and your best friend was witness to and yelled at and you need to make a decision. 9 mos. against best friend for years you do the math. Most abusive men go through the act and then the I will never do it again, until the next time.
2007-02-12 13:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by lakelover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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They have a lot of great articles and advice on how to cope with and reduce stress.
2007-02-14 05:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by marketingexpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o wow u guys gotta sit and talk..comminication is the key
2007-02-12 12:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by Katy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AGREE W/ THIS PERSON (DOWN HERE) COMMUNICATION ISSS KEY
2007-02-12 12:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by recycled thoughts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋