im 15 and pregnant. Should i have an abortion?

Question

15 and pregnant. I don't want my life over at 16 because of a huge mistake. i want to do more with life. i want to stay thin, pretty and not have a baby now. When answering please tell me what you really think and what i should do okay?!!

Answer 1

I don't think you should have an abortion.
I think that you should have thought about the consequences of having sex at your age before letting some guy into your pants.
That's the thing with kids today...they think they can do things and not live with the consequences...

Answer 2

Well, sweetie, only you have the right and the knowledge and the power to make the best decision for you. I know it may seem important, but staying thin and pretty are NOT good reasons for having an abortion. Being pregnant does not make you ugly, and the younger you are the easier it is to bounce back to your normal weight...all it takes is diet and exercise. I don't personally feel that there are any "good" reasons to have an abortion, except health issues to the mom or baby, perhaps.

You have to think about all the consequences of any route you choose. Yes, you made one mistake...but it was YOUR mistake, not the baby's. I think the baby has the right to live, the same as you do or I do. If you didn't think the baby had a right to live, you shouldn't have performed the risky actions that led to the child's life. If you are worried that you are too young and will miss out on an education and other life experiences because you'll have a baby, think again. My best friend had her baby at 17 and she is now going to college as a psychology major. It just depends if you are a strong person who is willing to work for what you want, rather than having it handed to you.

Also, there is the option to put your baby up for adoption. No one can morally oppose that! It gives the baby a chance to a wonderful life with a family that couldn't have their own kids, possibly a better life than you could give since you're so young...and it would free you up to live your life without the regret of killing your child.

I'm not religious, but if it is religious or social issues that cause you to be embarassed about what people will think about you being pregnant and young and unmarried, think of this: the reason that religion disappproves of unmarried moms isn't the baby...it's the fact she was having sex in the first place. Personally, I have a lot more respect for a young woman (or man) who takes responsibility for their actions and the life those actions created rather than running away from their problems by "getting rid of" the baby.

If you're far enough along to know you're pregnant, your unborn child has a heartbeat. He or she is alive! However, abortion is still legal, so you do have that option if you thin it's what's best for you. i just want you to consider all your options before you make ANY decision that will affect the rest of your life...INCLUDING the decision to have sex in the ifrst place. I wish you all the luck in the world, and I hope you'll decide to let your baby live, but mostly I hope you choose what's right for YOU!

Answer 3

You are entitled to do what you feel confident in. You hear all these people telling you it's murder or whatever, it's not. I personally am a male so i cannot feel what you feel but I will not support bigotry. Abortion is not a sin, it will not ruin you, it will ultimately affect you though. ( people misconstrue the reality by distorting the bible to their own subjective opinion), you are entitled to your own choice without having to hear others put you down or pressure you. People are too quick to put their two sense in and you have the right to do what you feel is best. Whatever decision you make, will be the right decision. You are young, and there are consequences to having it, or not having it. you should make a list, what would be the pros and cons of having an abortion, and not having an abortion. Weigh them together and choose which would bring you the most joy in the future. It will change your physical figure, but it will come back to it's normal shape. What does the father think? Do you want to bring a baby to this world that might have serious emotional issues because of a difficult upbringing? Is it right to bring an unwanted child to live? At the beginning of the pregnancy it is ok, you have to make your decision quick, because late term abortion will be much worse then any other choice you make because it will probably affect you emotionally. Whatever your beliefs, you will make the right decision for yourself and you will not regret it. If you kept it, you will get your figure back in 10 months and give it for adoption and allow yourself to be in its life. And if you dont keep it, you did nothing wrong and use better protection and focus on school and building your life.++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++I wrote this, then I also checked on your past questions, and you said you wanted to be pregnant, asking how to get pregnant, and now u want to abort because your gonna get fat, but you made it happen anyway? I stick by what I said before, but, you should see a professional because having dilemnas in your life that are too hard to handle on your own, and then having a baby , or abortion, is unfair because you're so young and you deserve someone that's been there, and done that, to guide you towards happiness, regardless of what you must do to get there. :-) Your a beautiful person that needs a hand to guide you.

Answer 4

well if you would have thought of the consquences of sex before you opened your legs you would not be where you are now, would you. You say you want to stay thin and pretty and not have a baby. Well do you remember in elementary school when you were taught every action has a consquence. Yea well this is one of those cases where you should have thought about what you were taught. As far as if you should have an abortion. No it is murder. Why kill the innoscent child because you just could not wait to be an adult. When you act like an adult you get treated like an adult and have to be accountable for your actions. You sound like you are worring so much about yourself, I want more with life, i want to stay thin and pretty, well why the heck didn't you think about that before you opened your legs. Your 15 at that age sex should be the last thing on you mind, enjoy being young while you can because you will grow up faster than you think. Look at yourself now. Your 15 and pregnant. What would you do if the guy has an std. Did you stop to think of that? Your actions not only effect your life but the life's of others as well. Your young have fun don't rush growing up. I say you either keep the baby and be accountable for your actions or give it to someone who can love it. Don't murder it because you had to rush growing up. It is to late to think about yourself so stop trying to throw a pety party, and be responsible. My friend had a child at 16. She kept it and she is a great mother. She gave up alot for her child, but what matters at the end of the day is the fact she realized she made bad choices but she also stepped up when she had to.

PS WAS IT A MISTAKE???? AFTER ALL YOU PUT A QUESTION ON HERE ON HOW TO GET PREGNANT IN THE NEXT WEEK!!! I swear some people will never learn.... kid grow up and stop trying to recieve sympathy for something you obviously wanted.

Answer 5

Regardless of your age or the circumstances of your life, your baby is innocent and does not deserve to die. Whether you want a baby or not right now, you HAVE one. Her heart began
beating just three weeks after conception.

Yes, your life will change, but it is far from over. Would you really kill another human being (your own son or daughter!) so that you can stay thin? Is that the kind of person you are? You will stay pretty. You will lose the weight. It is not the end of the world. If you abort, you may end up being unable to conceive children in the future, or end up with breast cancer, or worse. The long-term effects of abortion are much worse than the short-term effects of pregnancy.

Getting pregnant was a mistake, but killing a baby is murder. I think in your heart you know that. Please take a look at this information before you do something you will regret the rest of your life:

Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm

Abortion Risks:
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp

Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Advice on Telling Parents About a Pregnancy:
http://lifehouse.glorifyjesus.com/questions/pregnancy/tellingparents.html

You can do the right thing. Your baby is depending on you. Don't let anyone hurt her or you.

Answer 6

When you had sex at 15 you made the decision as an adult now you sound like a child which you are, however its to late to turn back the clock. Now its time to make another adult decision, abortion sounds like the easy way out, but you have a baby growing inside of a living person that will have some of your features,and some of your personality. if you have an abortion you will always think about that baby that you let go, then there is the moral decision about deciding if you can actually stop a life that you started inside you. Your better options are to have the baby and let it go to a family that would love and care for it. My family wants to adopt but cant afford it, you could help a family like that, what a precious gift you could give this baby and some loving family. the other thing you could do is to decide to get older and decide to have a child, your life doesn't have to be over it could just be different. I hope this helps you, feel free to email me anytime your scared or just need to talk, good luck.

Answer 7

I would say dont have an abortion. Put it up for adoption. You want to know what I think? I think if your old enough to have sex your old enough to either MAKE sure you dont get pregnant, or be a mature young lady and be responsible for the consequences of your actions.

Its not the unborn child's fault you did not prevent it from being conceived. Where the hell are your parents? They should have tighter reign on you then to let you have enough time to have sex at 15.

Get on birth control after this baby and dont have sex until your sure its safe. I'm sorry I think its very shallow to say you want to stay thin and pretty. And having a baby doesn't make you ugly just so you know.

I would think very hard before aborting it, id talk to someone that has done it, they say those women are torn up for ever. Are you going to tell your parents, or the father?

Answer 8

Many people who are really skinny can lose the weight after having a baby, my friend who had a baby last year is still in her size 3.

If you do not want the responsibility of a child then you should consider adoption. You can talk with an agency or find an adoptive family (with a home study) on your own to care for the baby. Then you can decide to keep contact through letters and pictures or to have a closed adoption where you just walk away and never know what happens. I know you don't want your life to be over but the baby's life shouldn't be over either.

If you would like to talk further, my husband and I have a completed home study and are hoping to adopt a child of any race. http://ourjourneytoadoption.blogspot.com/
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Answer 9

What I really think: No, you shouldn't have one. I mean of course it is tempting, Why wouldn't it be? But you made your choice, you had sex, and now you should deal with the consequences. So, you should decide whether to keep it, or to put it up for adoption, both perfectly valid options. I was put up for adoption, and was adopted at 3 days old, and I am SOOOOO glad that I was put up for adoption. I love being adopted! Still, if can be a heartbreaking process to go through for the birthmom, that being said, abortion is also causing you to lose the baby.

Don't worry about the fat or pretty thing. My sister was a size 0 when she got pregnant, and went up to a size 4 (which is my size so she used my clothes maternity clothes), and as soon as she had her baby, she went down to size zero again. And guys still hit on her every where she goes, despite the fact she is carrying babies around with her!

Everyone is going to tell you to have an abortion, except some people who will come across like "Crazy Christians". I am a Christian, but I also know how damn tempting it could be to have an abortion. Still, you are 15, old enough to have sex, and therefore should be old enough to make the right decision. Abortion isn't it.

Answer 10

Your life will not be over by having a baby. Your figure will probably improve, too. At your age, your body will snap back in a few months, plus your boobs will get bigger.
By putting your baby up for adoption, you will be giving your baby a loving home and a life full of advantages. Most importantly, you will not be murdering an innocent baby. That baby growing inside you is a little person - just wanting to live, grow, and be loved.

Answer 11

What do I really think? I don't think you really want me to say what I think, but I will just say this, no, don't have an abortion. It is not that babies fault that you "made a huge mistake" and that you are so self absorbed that you would rather kill that innocent child than risk not being "thin and pretty". You shouldn't have been having sex then. You knew the risks. Deal with it. Give the baby to someone who would love it, because you are too self absorbed to. If you weren't, you wouldn't be so worried about your teenage figure.