Do you believe in infertility treatment instead of adoption?

Question

I'm concerned that so many children need homes yet we keep creating new ones even when we have trouble concieving.
Does anyone thing we'd adopt more if it wasn't so difficult?

Answer 1

Yes, a lot of children need homes.

But as someone else said, the right or privilege to experience pregnancy and bear your own genetic offspring should not be reserved solely for those who have no trouble conceiving.

I believe adoption should be made simpler -- and no, I don't mean easier in the way that would enable anyone off the street to qualify, so whoever was worried about that consequence can rest assured that no one here would be advocating that! But the process should be simpler, and less costly, yes.

There is nothing stopping a person who is able to have their "own" children from adopting. There is no reason why those who have difficulty conceiving should feel pressure to adopt in the name of "there are so many children who need homes," while people who don't have difficulty conceiving are essentially let off the hook. In other words: if someone wants to advocate adoption really and truly for altruistic reasons, then they should be willing to put their money where their mouth is, as it were.

I do think more people would be open to adoption if it wasn't so difficult. One of my closest friends ended up just in the last year pursuing fertility treatments she didn't think she would....because the entire adoption process was a huge turn off for her. But people have children -- biological or adopted -- for different reasons. I know a couple who had no fertility issues at all, and after having two bioligical children they adopted two more children. By contrast, I struggled through a lot of fertility treatments and couldn't bear the thought of adopting children -- I'm an adoptee myself, and while every member of my family thought that would or should make me more open to the adoption option, it absolutely makes me less so.

So: yes, I think more people would be willing to adopt if adoption was simpler to achieve.

And: yes, I believe in infertility treatment instead of adoption...if that's what the couple/individual wants. The choice is not one to be foisted upon anyone. And either choice is valid.

Answer 2

From what I have heard in vitro can cost thousands of dollars in some places. Anyways, I don't think we should make adoption easier, but I do think it should be free. There of course should still be tons of regulations though, so kids don't end up in some messed up family. I personally would never to infertility treatments... seems somewhat unnatural to me, but I would never chastise anyone who did. I think a lot of people have the wrong idea about adoption, like you can only adopt older children. Yes, older children need homes for sure, and for some people, like parents who can't stay home with an infant, this may be a better choice. On the other hand, if you want a newborn, it is possible. I was adopted at 3 days old! Kids don't come from orphanages anymore, and we aren't all messed up... some are, some aren't. Having the same genes as your mother or father is overrated in my opinion, but like I said, on this one, I would leave it up to the individual couple, but people really should consider adoption not as a choice after infertility treatments, but along side it, so you can make the best decision for you.

Answer 3

It is natural for someone to want to have a biological child. No one should judge the choices that people make to make this possible.

In fact, many people have biological children and adopt children. It doesn't have to be either or.

Finally, perhaps so much blame should not be placed on people struggling with fertility who don't adopt. Not fair at all. What if someone told a poor family that they couldn't have children because they were too poor? What if someone told a rich family they had to adopt children because they have money? This sort of thinking opens the door to robbing people of the right to make their own decisions. If you're not paying for the couple's fertility treatment then it is none of your concern.

Even more so what does it matter. Best of luck to everyone and the INDIVIDUAL choices they make.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Yes some people would prefer to have their own biological child rather than adopt.

Adoption isn't like being pregnant and giving birth to your own child.

I think it's the choice of the couple involved, and other people don't have the right to judge others personal circumstances.

And why are all these people saying it's selfish to want to have your own child, just like every other woman so just because you can't concieve naturally your selfish because you won't adopt ???? :S

Answer 6

After years of trying and failing to have a baby we accepted we weren't going to be parents again (I have a 21 son (at 17yrs old) but the fertility problem is actually mine). We started to look into fostering but then other hospital treatment showed that IUI fertility treatment might work for us. - we have to pay and have limited it to 3 tries, all we can afford without causing financial/emotional difficulties but also that we dont have the need to have a biological child to care for. We both work as primary teachers so have daily contact with children who we help develop/grow, BUT that is not enough for us - IWe have a lot of love and care which we want to give to help children who for various reasons dont have that opportunity. We are personally not interested in adoption, just fostering at the moment, we don't need a baby - rather have infant/junior children. No-one has the right to have a child and infertile couples dont have the right to be 'given ' a child, BUT some of these parents will be able to offer love, affection and support to children who might otherwise be left in the 'system'. Each case is different and your beliefs don't give you the right to criticise those who hold different views. As long as at the end of the day it has been for the right path for THE CHILD thats all that matters - if this has a positive effect on the surrounding people so be it!!!

Answer 7

I think every women who wants a family, always wants a child of her own, it's a special bond between mother and child. Adoption is very hard to achieve with gay couples, single parents, people who are not married, people who do not make enough money, etc... But if adopting were not so difficult and time consuming then I would say yes, a lotmore people would adopt. I've always thought I would have maybe one or two of my own and then adopt atleast one child, but once I looked into, it can take many years to get a baby.

Answer 8

I think people would choose to use infetility treatments so they can have a child of their own to carry on their genes. I think it's their porogative to do so, as much as we need children adopted. But, I don't think we should make adoption easier, well maybe a bit, because these kids not only need a home, but they need a good home. You don't want to send them to some poor abusive home just to get them adopted and processed.

Answer 9

Absolutely. It is so expensive and time-consuming to adopt. And single people can pretty much forget about it altogether.

That being said, the system has to be the way it is in order to ensure good permanent homes for adopted children. Look what a mess the foster care system is, and all because things have to be expedited.

As far as having our own children, it's a selfish yet biological need. We are hard-wired to choose the best mate and produce healthy offspring.

Answer 10

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If infertility is caused by genetic disorder then it's not unusual that one of the kids (your mom) doesn't have it and another does (your aunt).
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