my bf of over 2 years borke up with me over 2 weeks ago.. it wasnt a bad break up at all. its a LOONG story. lol but before the break up we decided to take a break to focus on ourselves and school for a while. (we are both sophmores in college with alot on our plates!, he works oalmost 45 hours a week, and has VERY hard classes) so he was mean to me durign the break (cause he is so stressed) but he said he was sorry. a few days after to "officail" break up. he said some nasty things to me.. hes condused abotu us. a few days after the break up say like 2 days he was nice and said maybe we'll get back together and not to get my hopes up. another couple days go by. i was nice to him he sent me a nasty email saying "dont sit around and wait for me cause youll only end up lonely liek yoru mom because im never coming back" and "im free and im planning on keeping it that way"
i know he is confused about us and sstressed abotu school..
and i know he isnt with another girl too.
2007-02-12 11:30:18 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
so the break up wanst bad at all. he always tells me the truth and has never lied. hhe would have told me if there was ssomeone or not. but he does stilll ove me
how can i forgive him?? he isnt pressuring me
i havent talked to him for over a week.... i just dont want to be angry about what he said to me anymore.. everyday im ust so upset about it. he only snapped liek that cause i bothered him for 5 days straight in a row.... which i know wasnt right of me. we talked abtou marriage someday. we were eachother forst love first everything... and were together for over 2 years
but just how do i forgive him? and attempt to fprget abotu the things what he said to me.,,... =\
2007-02-12 11:32:48 · update #1
i am going to move on. and i know it was very rude and immature of him (my parents are divorced and he knows thats still a sensitive subject to me) even thoguht they divorced 15 years ago.. he knew it would hurt me and get me to backoff thats why he said it.. but its completley unacceptable for anyone to say that no matter how mad you are...
2007-02-12 11:37:52 · update #2
im giving him his space which he needs.... and i jnow he wants it and needs it so whatever. but i havent been caontacing him at all... same for him...
he said "call me when your over the relationship" which was also in the same email.. he has called me once since then though... ugh... he still wants to be my friend but I DONT KNOW! about that one!
2007-02-12 11:40:39 · update #3
after the break up he kept telling me how sorry he is... and that he is truly sorry for doing this to me...
2007-02-12 11:41:52 · update #4
he said he doesnt want to get into a nother relationship with anyone else. and that he isnt interested in anyone and doesnt want to be.. only cause he doesnt have the time..45 hours a week... and the hightest level pf math and physics classes as well as other clases.. i am 19 and he is 18...
2007-02-12 11:43:36 · update #5
i know he isnt with another girl he wouldnt ever cheat on me! and i wouldnt ever cheat on him. we always tell eachother the thruth. hes never hasnt ever lied to me before! thats why i know he isnt with someone else. he isnt like that.
2007-02-12 14:16:36 · update #6
i know he isnt with another girl he wouldnt ever cheat on me! and i wouldnt ever cheat on him. we always tell eachother the thruth. hes never hasnt ever lied to me before! thats why i know he isnt with someone else. he isnt like that. at all!
2007-02-12 14:17:20 · update #7
why forgive? just move on.
people should learn to walk the walk that they talk. he needs to keep his negative comments to himself, and to say you should move on you need to do just that.
leaving hurts, but staying and putting up with that behavior is worse, you need fresh perspective. move on.
also, you will not know if he is with another girl (or guy) because people cheat and never get caught. the whole world has secrets, and you just never know. not to say he is, but to think he isnt, is just being naive. if you arent with him 24/7 you cant tell for sure.
2007-02-12 11:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Dont worry about it. It appears u know the real reason he snapped like that. U apparently know he did it out of pressure and that. So, just let it lie for a bit. Let things cool down and leave it alone. If u continue to put pressure on him, it will drive him away further. Just drop it hun.
Let him get his thoughts straight. And u do the same while ur apart and not speaking.
Time can heal alot of things. Doesnt sound like this problem is so severe that it cant be healed.
You just have to get it straight in your mind as to why he did it and let it go. There is no getting over it. Like u said, u know why he did.
Good luck.
2007-02-12 19:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all girl you are still young and have a lot of life to experience so go out and do that first. I can understand that you still love him but sometimes it is a good idea to step back and look at where you are in life. Focus on you first and the rest will fall into place. You will forgive him in time but that is what it is going to take, time. By the sounds of it he wants to see what is out there and if he truly loves you he will realize that you are what he wants. Take this time to spend with friends and meeting new people. It will help you to forgive him and making new friends is not a bad thing.
2007-02-12 19:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by shorthappyfunny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at how much time and energy you have put into this breakup?
Yes, I know it's easier to stay with the familiar, rather than try something new, but if you put half that energy and time towards new experiences, you will find the Ex will be just that!
Or you can keep doing what your doing. Which is building up your Ex's ego.
How many friends do you think he has told that you are still chasing after him?
Do you like him abusing you with his "come here, go away, come here, go away" attitude?
Try something new that will occupy your time and keep your thoughts away from this obviously destructive situation.
The best revenge is to live well!
2007-02-20 08:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by maj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look girl it is hard to admit when a relationship is over, but there is no turning back, the damage has been done and it will not heal. It is very hard to let go of your first love, like it is hard to find someone to replace it. You have to give yourself the opportunity to find a new love, start fresh, it takes more than weeks maybe even months up to years, but you will get over it. Believe me, I've been there. It hurts, cry, cry it all out, let it bleed out and then let it dry up and heal, every time you want to cry, do it, and do it with a girlfriend instead of alone, talk it out, let it out, let it go. Don't bury it in you because you will find it hard to forget, let it out, cry it all out. One day you will wake up and feel fresh and new. That day you will know that you are more important than an upset man who couldn't appreciate you! Nothing should be put in front of love, not work, not school, not parents, nothing! So there is no excuse, let it go! Find yourself, the happy self that didn't need anybody to tell them that everything is going to be OK, when it wasn't. One day someone true will tell you this and you will know it's true! LOVE......yourself first!
2007-02-19 17:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could go on with line after line about how young you are, that you have to go through things life this to grow...etc. All I will say is that I went through more bad relationships and hung on more than you could imagine. At age 31 I finally focused on myself. A year later I met a man that truely amazed me. When it's right you will know. There won't be any "confusion" or wondering. Just let it go and move on. Live your life and make sure you are happy, that's all that matters...:-)
2007-02-20 16:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by tracy042972 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what's wrong with this dude. I know that it will take time to get over it. I was dumped twice within a year, but am glad. Those two were losers anyway. One was an incorrigable excon who was a pariah to his family while the other was an incorrigable drunk. Now, I've got a man who wants to go somewhere.
2007-02-19 18:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offence,but you sound like the one that is confused. Just leave him be. Right now he doesn't know what he wants and when you pressure him it will only make things worse. He perhaps wants to do a few things that he needs to do without you there. Only time will tell. Just cool off and let things be for now.
2007-02-18 13:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is a beautiful human trait,however you forgive for a wrong done to you.It doesn't appears that your friend feels like he has done any wrong.Forgive him but don't forget.2 things that are very painful in a relationship are a slap and cruel words.They are both meant to hurt.you dont hurt people you care for
2007-02-19 11:19:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go about your life and stop dwelling on him. You both have much on your plate. Perhaps it's best if you both take a break and concentrate on your individual lives. Down the road, when you both feel happy within yourselves, you can see if a spark remains between you both. Otherwise, take it for whatever it was worth......one of life's experiences that help you become who you are. And that is a good thing! ;)
2007-02-12 20:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just take it with a gran of salt and move on. Get going and find someone else. that is what is to come during those years of doing nothing and i bet you will find someone that is like you. that man is a monster why because heslying ot you. yep, he found someone and was then seeing them i am sure maybe nw hes done with her and wants you back its time to smell the coffee and leave and go don't look back.
2007-02-17 21:26:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋