I think something's wrong with me. I'm a family man.I have 4 kids and I work for myself. We're fine financially, and my marriage is solid. But I often dread the weekends and I can't sit still and just "be myself" in my own home. I feel as if there is always something that needs to be done and/ or I'm doing it all wrong.
FYI, the kids are ages 2-10 (including a set of twin boys) and I love them all, but I'm often just a grumpy, irritable grouch around the house.
Any idea what it could be?
2007-02-12 11:11:22 · 7 answers · asked by LilBoPeep 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Kids = chaos
When you work you have control over what happens. You deal in absolutes. Kids are alway spontaneous.
Learn to uderstand that. Not sure why you feel you are doing things wrong. Change your internal dialog.
Try takeing time to so something with each kid to make them feel special. Lets say you need to go to the hardwear store...take one of the kids and make it a fun outting.
Do you want your kids to grow up remembering the grumpy dad?
Treat your home time like the most important job you have ever done in your life. Maybe you need to exercise to get unstressed.
You are awear of your issues and that is the first step in change.
2007-02-12 11:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Buddy you and me both. What im going to say, DONT GET OFFENDED!!!
This is a minor case of anxiety, possibly some OCD. Now wait a minute im not calling you crazy cause everyone has some anxiety or else we'd be dead! My advice brother is to think of the kids. I have a horribly temper myself. Were talking at the drop of a hat I can take out a whole city lol.
What I did to get my mind off of it (and do somthing contructive, healthy AND fun) was start Martial Arts. I'v been doing it for 7 years now and it's a beautiful thing. Not only do you get any and all stress out, but your doing somthing and it's healthy!
The kids will love to see their dad is a "karate master", and who knows it may inspire some healthy habbits for the kids. Your wife im sure could use the break from your grouchyness as well.
Most of all, know that your not alone - I had the same problem. That was my solution, but if it's SEVERE (and I mean your having anxiety attacks and your about to have a break down) then consult treatment. It's not embarresing - stop it with the male pride and just do it. You have a beautiful life going on, people would die for it. To lose it all over somthing so trivial would be a true loss.
Cheers
2007-02-12 11:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lord of the Apocalypse 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have trouble relaxing too....and I have days in which I'm restless. But not being able to relax, and feeling as if you are doing it all wrong are two different things. Does your wife make you feel like you are doing it all wrong, does she have a hard time sitting still, and thus you feel guilty if you just want to 'relax?' If you are driven like I am, sometimes it is impossible to relax knowing all the crap you have on your list...and sometimes I like to go to OTHER people's house to truely relax....my in-laws are great....there are no chores waiting for me over there.
2007-02-12 11:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you have been given alot of blessing Mr. i suggest you stop and count all of the healthy children the blessing that you are finical stable etc..remember you helped make this family now before your wife senses this you better step it up and do your share with your family I'm sure she has wandered already---home is suppose to be where the heart is and a place where you can unwind and be yourself its not the time to back off now also i may add child support will take all your money and how would you like to come home to a empty home and see your kids once every other wk-end and maybe risk the chance of another man raising your kids___somebody that does have an interest in them i am sorry if i have offended you but i am 47 and i tell it like it is my best to you and bless you!!!!!!!!
2007-02-12 11:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by ladysosureone 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are not into kids 100%. You are perhaps a controling person. You work for yourself. You have control over your job but you do not have control over the home. You love your kids but seemingly, you do not enjoy them. If you enjoyed them, you would be doing things with them. It seems that you are not into or enjoy family life. You say that you enjoy but then you just said that you can not relax in your home.
You seem to be giving thumbs down to all answers so what is the problem??? Are you just a grouch, period.??? Lighten up. Have some fun. Maybe you do not know how to have fun. Maybe that is the problem????
Good luck to you. And smile.
2007-02-12 11:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
fine time for yourself without the gang around . Play golf, tennis
or racket ball, Have a regular date night with your wife jazz it up with a change of venue , A Little spice goes a long way . Example: Get a sitter for the weekend , kidnap your wife buy what you need en route to your secret destination and enjoy each other without interruption. (Smiles in the A.M. bring back old memories) Do something different every week or as much as you like . Mr. Grumpy goes bye! bye!
2007-02-12 11:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too much stress at home
2007-02-12 11:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-02-12 11:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋